Sanctity of Marriage?

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Recently, some friends of ours who are in a domestic partnership (they were planning on getting married in the future) have decided to take a break after three years together. Not sure what all of the reasons are behind it, but I believe (in part) that a third party had a hand in the recent relational issues. The third party is 19 or 20 and the couple is in their mid-late 20's. He knew the couple was planning on getting married and (I believe) still took it upon himself to try something.

My question to you all is this: Do you believe people still respect the sanctity of marriage or at the very least peoples' commitment to each other enough to not try and get involved with someone who seems to be in a stable relationship?
 

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My question to you all is this: Do you believe people still respect the sanctity of marriage or at the very least peoples' commitment to each other enough to not try and get involved with someone who seems to be in a stable relationship?

some do, some don't....it seems that a lot of people just want what they want & to hell with the repercussions...

I also do not believe that enough married people respect the sanctity of marriage either...I will never understand the point of getting married when it's clearly not what is truly wanted by both people.
 

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That term has been used by the religious right to refer to a quality that in their view their relationships have, and ours do not. Holy Matrimony was defined as a sacrament in the proceedings of the council of Trent.

To answer the question, I have always declined expressions of interest by people who I know are are in a relationship, and rather tried to support the relationship.
 

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I'm a big supporter of love. I don't meddle in other people's relationships for the simple fact that I don't want them meddling in mine. I'm not going to say anything to him or her. Let their bliss or their doom be completely on them. On a side note, within the last year, I've watched 3 couples, a husband and wife, get divorced because they couldn't seem to keep "people" out of their relationship/business. It's crazy because before "they let" those outsiders get too damn close, they were happy and on their way to a lifetime together.

Let your relationship be your relationship and not everybody else's.
 

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Do you believe people still respect the sanctity of marriage or at the very least peoples' commitment to each other enough to not try and get involved with someone who seems to be in a stable relationship?
Are you asking if some people respect it and don't get involved or are you asking if all people respect it and don't get involved?

Yes, there are people who respect a marriage and don't get involved in any way with someone who is married. But there are plenty of people (probably more) who don't. My ex-wife's coworker is one of the latter.
 

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Some do, some don't. Some people actively seek those who are married and purposefully try to break up the marriage either through lying or by sleeping with the married person.

As far as the people who are actually married, some do it too young, too fast, and don't realize what they're getting into. Lots of people view marriage as fairytale land with bubblegum and rainbows so it's a kicker when they realize there's work involved.

Considering the divorce rate and how many people GLADY sleep with someone who's married, and how many married people gladly cheat on their spouses, I'd say the people who respect marriage are few and far between.
 

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I don't believe its held in a high regard like it used to be, across the board.
Society and people have changed.
I think it would be harder when both spouses work and have many more distractions than there used to be.
 

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COMMITMENT is the key word in this discussion. Western society has long held that the bond of marriage is a lifetime commitment. I agree. As I would not want to be bound to anyone who was willing to cheat, I also assume my partner is of a like mind. It's called honoring one's commitment.

Allowing others, whether that be one's own family or someone who is out to destroy the trust that we assume exists between man and wife, to come between partners is out of bounds in the thinking of most people. Yet, it does happen and often because partners tend to take each other for granted and do not do the necessary things that keep a relationship strong.
 

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Recently, some friends of ours who are in a domestic partnership (they were planning on getting married in the future) have decided to take a break after three years together. Not sure what all of the reasons are behind it, but I believe (in part) that a third party had a hand in the recent relational issues. The third party is 19 or 20 and the couple is in their mid-late 20's. He knew the couple was planning on getting married and (I believe) still took it upon himself to try something.
I know a gay man who is known for trying to break other gay couples up. He never pursues single men. And he wonders why he has so few friends. :rolleyes:


My question to you all is this: Do you believe people still respect the sanctity of marriage or at the very least peoples' commitment to each other enough to not try and get involved with someone who seems to be in a stable relationship? [/quote]
No, they do not. I know cheating has been around for ages; but it seems in the last ten years or so marriage isn't worth the paper it's written on to some people.:frown1:


some do, some don't....it seems that a lot of people just want what they want & to hell with the repercussions...
These are people who need to be slapped up side the head. Just because they don't have boundaries doesn't mean other people don't.

I also do not believe that enough married people respect the sanctity of marriage either...I will never understand the point of getting married when it's clearly not what is truly wanted by both people.
Same here dude.

I'm a big supporter of love. I don't meddle in other people's relationships for the simple fact that I don't want them meddling in mine.
QFT
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I'm not going to say anything to him or her. Let their bliss or their doom be completely on them. On a side note, within the last year, I've watched 3 couples, a husband and wife, get divorced because they couldn't seem to keep "people" out of their relationship/business.
It's crazy because before "they let" those outsiders get too damn close, they were happy and on their way to a lifetime together.
I don't play that mess. I am not down with OPP, never have been, and never will be.
Let your relationship be your relationship and not everybody else's.
So true! I was shocked at who was full of hateration when I first started seeing Truckertexman.


if it has a dick it can't be trusted.......period end of story
Not true, there are some good men out there. I haven't encountered that many of them, but I am sure there are still some available.


I don't believe its held in a high regard like it used to be, across the board.
Society and people have changed.
I think it would be harder when both spouses work and have many more distractions than there used to be.
What? What's working got to do with it? You can't live in a bubble. If you need to live in a bubble to respect your marriage then you don't need to be married.:cool: