Satisfied with your lifetime sex life?

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This isn't meant as a place to bitch that you're not getting any lately, but instead are you happy with your lifetime sex life? Have you generally been satisfied or disappointed you didn't get more? Maybe what you had wasn't as good as you hoped it would be. Or maybe you think you could have gotten more or enjoyed what you got more. Maybe your unsure if you tried hard enough or that you fucked up by not being aggressive enough. Stories?
 
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Using several comparative metrics, I've partnered up (not including my "married" partner) 500 to 600 times. I've had lots of things going for me. I grew into a cute, fit guy after my years as an ugly duckling youth, and I moved to Atlanta, which is still one of the big gay meccas in the US. I am also a Scorpio... probably the lustiest of all zodiac signs!

I am very satisfied with my life as a sexual being, and I'm horny now!
 

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This isn't meant as a place to bitch that you're not getting any lately, but instead are you happy with your lifetime sex life? Have you generally been satisfied or disappointed you didn't get more? Maybe what you had wasn't as good as you hoped it would be. Or maybe you think you could have gotten more or enjoyed what you got more. Maybe your unsure if you tried hard enough or that you fucked up by not being aggressive enough. Stories?
I recently thought about my life as an adult, and specifically about some missed opportunities and also some wishful what-if possibilities with the women I've known in my life. I didn't start dating until college and have always been fairly shy around women I like. I've had some years-long droughts where I wasn't seeing anyone, and then some time in long-term relationships.

I look back at some of the women I worked with decades ago who I should have asked out, in some cases missing their obvious signs of at least a little bit of interest. For the times where dating started out okay but didn't last very long - what happened? Was it me? Was it them?

Could I have done anything different? There's no way to know of course and I am very happy where I am now, with whom I am with now, so that's all that really matters.
 

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I recently thought about my life as an adult, and specifically about some missed opportunities and also some wishful what-if possibilities with the women I've known in my life. I didn't start dating until college and have always been fairly shy around women I like. I've had some years-long droughts where I wasn't seeing anyone, and then some time in long-term relationships.

I look back at some of the women I worked with decades ago who I should have asked out, in some cases missing their obvious signs of at least a little bit of interest. For the times where dating started out okay but didn't last very long - what happened? Was it me? Was it them?

Could I have done anything different? There's no way to know of course and I am very happy where I am now, with whom I am with now, so that's all that really matters.
Oh... those missed opportunities.
If I had recognized those obvious (now) hints, my life trajectory would have been totally different.
 

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I was a virgin until I was 20 yo. My first time was absolutely amazing. I will never forget. I married at 21 yr 6 mos. The wedding night was my second tome. My bride was a virgin. What a fantastic night that was. We were married 36.5 years when she passed. Our sex life was great, nearly every day before she got sick. I remarried and in that marriage sex was VERY often, often several times a day. That marriage fell apart rather quickly. After the divorce I began to play the field bisexually. I am now 87 and sex is still often as well as great with both men and women. Needless to say I love sex.
 

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have fucked up my sexual and romantic life being too shy way too long time, and then when I realised, I discovered that men are just interested by sex and are not romantic at all (I'm more into a traditional relation than one night fuck) and so have for ever given up with any sex and just use my hand when too much pressure in my balls and that's it !
 

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looking back I would say I am overall happy with my sex life so far. being bi I have the best of both worlds. haven been circumcised at 19 I experienced sex both ways cut and uncut. to start uncircumcised sex was better than circumcised sex. I started my sexual journey with Michael it was a learning experience exploring the male body and having sex for the first time was a good experiance. then there was Nancy she was crazy good one of the best BJ'S I have ever had vagina sex was great she really knew what she was doing. I have had virgins both male and female I love to satisfy my partners in bed I make it a point to make sure she orgasms or he gets off. I am careful and mostly play safe only condom less with people I know. and there are only a handful. I have had one pregnancy with a broken condom it was scary but exciting unfortunately it miscarried. today sometimes I feel like nuts sometimes I don't I am generally happy with my sex life so far the experiences I have had have taught me to live life to its full lest no regent no more missed opportunities go with your gut feeling and enjoy.
 

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I'm an old guy now. But hey, what better number is there than 69?:grinning:
Anyway, I fucked and got fucked during my 20s & 30s to the point I could never remember who they all were. Had a partner for 12 years in a wonderful, open relationship. We had lots of 3-ways, 4somes, etc. as well as our own great sex life. He was also the best friend I ever had. Tragically, he contracted aids, there was no effective treatment then, and he died about a year later at 42.
I assumed I had it but an old school upperclassman who had become a doctor begged me to let him test me and for whatever reason, I was negative. That turned out to be the only thing I could do for my partner. He could go without having the guilt that he might have made me sick as well.
It was a couple of years and some counseling before I could even think of having sex without equating it with death. I never had another partner but I did eventually get back to a sex life.
I think everybody goes through some kind of hell at some time in their life and getting through it should make one more empathetic rather than worse alternatives.
Anyway, having at least a couple of orgasms a week never hurts and according to a study done in Denmark(don't ask, I don't remember) it makes you live longer. So fuck on my friends or at least get a good masturbating device!:laughing:
 
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I'll be 70 in a few months and at this stage of my life, my wish is for more frequent sex with my wife. I'm ready to go every single day and could do so multiple times daily. She - not so much. PIV sex occurs once monthly if I'm lucky but she does relieve me weekly with oral and handjobs. Although sexually frustrated, she remains my best friend and life partner whom I wouldn't trade.

My advice to everyone - DO NOT live your lives in regret. Those things that you did or didn't do are in the past. Nothing can change that. Instead, look forward to whatever time you have left and make the most of it. Don't let that bucket list get too long because you never know what tomorrow can bring. '

Live life to the fullest
 

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I can honestly say that I have been disappointed with my sex life. I never had much game when I was younger..way too focused on work and career which in hindsight was a big mistake. Marriage was really good for 10 years or so but my wife was gradually pulling away. She was drinking a lot more than I knew and it really affected her desire and I was resentful. The last 20 years have really changed our relationship and not in a good way. She has a lot of health problems now and sex is just a memory....I could write a book.
 
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I can honestly say that I have been disappointed with my sex life. I never had much game when I was younger..way too focused on work and career which in hindsight was a big mistake. Marriage was really good for 10 years or so but my wife was gradually pulling away. She was drinking a lot more than I knew and it really affected her desire and I was resentful. The last 20 years have really changed our relationship and not in a good way. She has a lot of health problems now and sex is just a memory....I could write a book.
:neutral:So sorry. I hope you have some good things happen in the new year. Take care.
 

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Late wife and I went through seasons where:
- we both were like bunnies in heat;
- one or both were pathologically uninterested, due to mental illness or its treatment;
- sex was dangerous, due to her many health issues, which ultimately took her from me.

In the seasons when we were sexually active, I was somewhat satisfied with the frequency, less so with the variety. I enjoyed cunnilingus, and was pretty skilled at it, but she had to be in the right headspace to allow/enjoy it. She had difficulty with fellatio, so that was a rare treat. I had a much kinkier imagination and wanted to experiment with a lot of things she flat out refused to try.

My current GF and I aren't yet sexually active, by mutual agreement. But she has indicated in no uncertain terms that she enjoys sex as often as her partner will indulge her, and also that oral (both giving and receiving) is definitely something that's in the everyday repertoire. We haven't discussed kink.
 

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Nope completely messed my own but mainly by my fault, ended up that I completely gave up on it and count only on my hand o_O
I'm in the same boat and with the drama of dating have fallen back on my own means as far as release, maybe someday I'll find another only time will tell lol. Hope all has a great New Year and be safe in your journey!