Scared of being called gay?

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Do you ever make any choices to avoid having your sexuality questioned?

For example, would you avoid wearing a pink shirt out of fear of being called gay?
 

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Do you ever make any choices to avoid having your sexuality questioned?

For example, would you avoid wearing a pink shirt out of fear of being called gay?
No
Someway i appeared on the gaydar or pedoar of some people, being skinny and looking younger than I actually was perhaps was the reason. I was over 18.
if there was some sort of code to state I'm straight I probably would have but given the experience here where people don't get what straight means wouldn't make a difference
 

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Do you ever make any choices to avoid having your sexuality questioned?

For example, would you avoid wearing a pink shirt out of fear of being called gay?
I've worn pink shirts occasionally throughout my entire life, from the 1980s through today. When I was younger, any man other than sailor wearing any kind of earing was suspected to be gay, bu that has certainly changed over time. I don't wear one myself, but I have zero desire to have anything on my body pierced!

Are all men that like show tunes, Judy Garland, theater, and fashion gay? No, but certainly a large enough population did/does that it led to those stereotypes.

I am comfortable enough in my own sexuality to be comfortable around gay family and friends, showing them affection with hugs and kisses. I simply don't care what anyone else thinks
 

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No.
Especially as I got older. I am confident who I am, and don't really care what someone thinks.
If they think I am gay, wouldn't matter to me unless they were interested and started to hit on me.
Which has happened, I live in a college town so there is a that.
I just politely say I don't swing that way and thank them for asking.
 

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Once upon a time, in a land not so far away

Dressing well, or creatively, could get you labeled as gay
Not liking Sports could get you labeled as gay
Being single and over 25, could get you labeled as possibly gay
Knowing how to cook
Keeping a clean house
Being a Nurse or an Air LIne Stewart
Talking softly
Being Shy
Not being vulgar about women, even when the crows did cat calls

These were a few things I remember from my early days
 

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Those who take sinister joy in feeling they are cool by insulting someone else's sexuality in all likelihood has questions about their own.

Guys today paint their nails, get their ears pierced, get their genitals waxed, and even drive compact cars. None of that makes a man gay. Singing show tunes in the shower, however.... same.
 
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Once upon a time, in a land not so far away

Dressing well, or creatively, could get you labeled as gay
Not liking Sports could get you labeled as gay
Being single and over 25, could get you labeled as possibly gay
Knowing how to cook
Keeping a clean house
Being a Nurse or an Air LIne Stewart
Talking softly
Being Shy
Not being vulgar about women, even when the crows did cat calls

These were a few things I remember from my early days
Is that haiku! Haha
Put it to "favorite things" from sound of music and you'd hit peak gay! Kidding
 
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