'Scared Vagina Sydrome'???

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  1. D_N Flay Table

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    Has anyone else heard of this?
    I went to my GF's OB with her because she has a lot of pain when we have sex sometimes.
    And he (OB) said that she has 'scared vagina'?!?
    WTF?
     
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    I've heard of vaginismus and dyspareunia. Generically it's called sexual aversion disorder. Maybe it's the OBs terminology for lay people.
     
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    WTF indeed! What else did he say about it? I have never heard of it.
    Did he check for yeast or bacterial infection?
     
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    Maybe if she's had history of sexual abuse or rape, I could believe it.
     
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    I don't think it has to be anything as dramatic as that. Vaginismus is not uncommon. It is simply the body's reaction to a subconscious fear of painful penetration. That fear can be put there by overhearing someone describing sex, or by reading something about sex, and simply getting the wrong impression. Sometimes all it takes is a vivid imagination. You gotta understand that little girls often get a big shock when they find out where babies come from. 'You mean out of that little hole between my legs???? :eek: To a girl with an intact hymen, the idea of something as big as an erect penis going in there can also be :eek: If she lives with that apprehension for long enough, then has a clumsy and inconsiderate first sexual partner, and her fears will be born out. Her vagina will be clenching INVOLUNTARILY because she's bloody nervous and penetration will be difficult and possibly very painful. The next time she 'wants' to have sex her body will definitely not want to play - thus frightened vagina.
     
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    Yet again, Riven has said all I wanted to say. Riven, we're agreeing way too often :smile:
     
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    Wow straight guys have it rough. Lol. This can't possibly be a common thing with women can it? I mean it makes sense, but hell I've never heard of it.
     
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    It's very uncommon
     
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    Shouldn't that be 'Wow straight WOMEN have it rough' ??? :duh:

    :notworthy::beerchug2:
     
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    Lol. True enough. I guess I wasn't thinking clearly. I meant it in a sense of if the condition were more common than I thought, it might suck having a partner who wasn't as willing to have sex because of the bad experience, though from her perspective, it can't possibly be good either.

    Speaking from a gay point of view, I have had a few virgins who kinda just think they can just rush through the initial penetration, and damn it's not fun, so I can see how a potential condition could develop from thing, particularly as you said with the whole childbirth aspect involved. Perhaps I should have said sex with the inexperienced can be rough? Whether your male or female you put yourself in a bit of a vulnerable position if you on the receiving end.
     
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    Absolutely.
     
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    Women's Therapy Center - vaginismus: statistics about who has vaginisus
     
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    The solution is simple but perhaps difficult for you as a partner? It is cuddling, sympathy, and putting the woman's pleasure first until she is able to relax. Foreplay, foreplay, foreplay. Vary up the things you do together. Tab A going into Slot B is not all there is to good sex.
     
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    Spot on helgaleena!

    It's vital that the girl can feel in control and go at her own pace. When she's ready to try penetration she should do it herself with a little didlo or vibe, and make it part of the couple's sex play. She should work towards allowing her partner to gently hold the dildo. Then when she's relaxed with that, she can try one that's a little bigger. This way she teaches herself to trust him at the same time as teaching him to be aware of how much pressure, depth, etc. she's ok with. When they've learned to communicate and trust, and she's ready to try penis, he should lie on his back and she can mount him. HE MUST NOT THRUST. This gives her a chance to put his cock inside and get used to it. This whole process cannot be rushed. You need to be very considerate, very gentle, and very patient.

    Throughout all this she needs to feel in complete control until she feels relaxed and comfortable with the idea that she can enjoy penetrative sex.
     
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    I'd like to clarify that I wasn't saying "WTF" at the "vaginusmus" diagnosis, but at the Dr.'s way of explaining it: "scared vagina"? It seemed a little condescending.
     
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    Excellent post, Riven. Thanks for taking the time to make it.
     
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    My vagina is not scared..it's just tired.
     
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    That reminds me of omg what is it called, I think its an infertility term that's like lazy ovaries or something..anyone? what's the name I'm thinking of..
     
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    I was about to post that I have this with my wife...

    Then I realized it didn't say Sacred Vagina Syndrome.

    Dammit, it's late.
     
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