Scarring

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  1. The Dragon

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    Please help.
    I have got some welts across my back, thighs and buttocks from an over zealous playmate.

    Is there any creams, lotions etc that will help minimize any scaring.
    Any help with this is welcome.
    Thanks,
    Dragonfly.
     
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    Unless you playmate broke the skin and made you bleed there should not be any scaring.But for welts and bruises arnica cream works great most natural food stores have it and some pharmacies.Here's a link so you know what your using.Cold packs and wet cold towels will help to bring the welts down.

    Arnica
     
  3. The Dragon

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    Thanks,
    I've been taking pain killers and sleeping on my tummy (which I hate) so the sheets don't stick to me.
    I have been gently rubbing savalon cream into the welts so they don't get infected.
    I would rather not carry around reminders of the episode.
     
  4. Phil Ayesho

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    Vitamin E oil topically...

    Bioflavinoids orally.
     
  5. The Dragon

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    Thank you Phil.
    One or two places (or maybe more) are rather deep.
    Reaching spots between my shoulder blades proves to be a challenge.
    Thank you for your help.
     
  6. Ed69

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    Welts between your shoulder blades?What the hell was your playmate using?Please be more careful in choosing playmates!
     
  7. Phil Ayesho

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    Why is not the playmate ministering to your needs?

    Seems the least they could do....

    Or is the now an EX-playmate?
     
  8. The Dragon

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    Yes,
    This is an EX-playmate.
    I gave the "safe siginal"
    as I was tied spread eagle to a tripod with a gag in my mouth, he wouldn't accept my "safe signals".
    My back, buttocks, and back of the thighs got carved up with a single tail.
     
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    Arnica and Vitamin E are the things to put on them to minimise/avoid scarring if they don't need full medical attention. Arnica has been given some bad press recently but I used it to minimise swelling when I had my 4 wisdom teeth out and it made a big difference - the dental surgeon was most impressed by how little swelling there was considering the invasive nature of the surgery.

    You say you are sleeping on tummy to avoid sticking, are they weeping? If you have weeping welts I'd advise to get them looked at, if you get an infection you will scar - not to mention the risk of blood poisoning and all sorts if it is a deep, subcutaneous infection.
     
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    I am so sorry to hear this. There are few things more reprehensible sexually than someone who refuses to play safely when there is a potential for real bodily harm. When my son was bitten by a dog, his pediatrician recommended Mederma lotion for scarring after everything healed up. I'm not sure if they have in it Australia. A triple antibiotic cream should help minimize infection and scarring.
     
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    emu oil is supposed reduce scarring,
    i was gonna say arnica and vitamin E as well.

    i am very sorry you had to deal with a prick like that...
    he is not a dom,he is just a very disturbed man it seems.
    i hope you heal quickly and are VERY cautious with your next playmate.

    did he give any signs that he was that sadistic before you played?
    you can usually tell when you are dealing with a complete wingnut.
    i am sorry this happened,it does not sound like it was safe sane consensual
    play.
     
  12. The Dragon

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    Thank you so much Ladies,
    I am using savalon cream to fight infection because they are weeping and it was his single tail ( I had no idea how he cleans his equipment).
    The club has taken photos of my back, buttocks and thighs and he has been banned from the club and using their rooms in the future.
    It is a small blessing that he stuck to the NO SEX agreement. (no sex is allowed at the club).
    Let this be a lesson.
    Do not have a session with a DOM who has no recommendations without an observer in the room with you.
     
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    Just from the Subject line for this thread... didn't you mean "Scarring"?

    I entered the thread expecting something Halloween-ish... but then...

    I see now, that it i not about being scared, it is about being SCARRED!

    I am just unable to get involved with those that seek to be hurt.

    To each their own... and live with it. You chose it.

    Onan

     
  14. ManlyBanisters

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    You know what, Onan, I was originally going to rag on DF for dropping an 'r' in scarring but then I read the thread and she's in fucking pain and has been mistreated in what should have been a safe environment. Give her a fucking break. If "live with it. You chose it" is all you have to offer then why post to the thread?
     
  15. The Dragon

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    Sorry you feel this way Onan mann,
    Boundries and safe signals where talked about and agreed upon before the session.
    In this situation, it is very much like the bottom has told the top they like vanilla sex and no anal.
    When the bottom is unable to stop it from happening, the top takes anal sex from the bottom with out consent.
    This is how it is in this case.
    Boundaries where agreed upon.
    The boundries where met, exceeded, safe signals given (by me) and they where ignored.
    Why should I not feel like my trust and body had not been voilated.
     
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    So shut your pie hole butt plug!Or we will involve you in a whole world of hurt!
     
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    You know my feelings about this, doll.

    I agree that you should have a doctor take a look and start you on a preventive round of antibiotic treatment. Not knowing how / if the sadistic sonofabitch sterilized his gear, the last thing you want to develop is any type of infection.

    You might actually want to visit with a dermatologist, rather than a GP. Any MD can treat welts and cuts, but she can expertly advise you on the products and care to prevent or minimize any scar formation.

    I did find this article, it should give you some idea how doctors approach prevention of scarring.
     
  18. Phil Ayesho

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    Onan...
    Go back to masturbating...


    S&M and B&D are common sexual diversions... so common that every adult store sells the necessary equipment.
    I have been both dominant and submissive to both men and women... and it can be a very intense and pleasurable experience.


    But the person on top needs to understand that they are being entrusted with the safety and health of another human being.

    For that reason, I find it is better to actually avoid sadists.
    A person who cares about you and wants to give you the kind of pleasure you enjoy should be willing to "play" a sadist...

    But people who actually enjoy hurting others can be dangerous.
     
  19. The Dragon

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    Thank you everyone,
    I have decided to take HazelGods advice and I am booked in to see a Dermatologist in the morning.
     
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    I feel you have educated all of us who love to play with this form of pleasure and I now for myself makes me a little more wary of the clubs that you can do this activity in. I have experimented with spanking and bondage but not until I had fully read up on the good and the bad. You just showed me that there is ugly as well. Yes this is a form of pleasure that I enjoy in a milder degree and while learning my tolerance level I got some pretty nasty bruises but never weeping welts.

    It is a shame that there are warped individuals that will use this activity for there predatory pleasure. Even though you went into the room alone with this sadist jerk the fact is you went in with an agreement and he broke that agreement.

    Thank you for the education and I hope that there is nothing serious going on with your injury. Please keep us posted and hope you have a speedy recovery.
     
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