There was a comment in another thread about approaching a woman at 4 am in an elevator for coffee. It reminded me of this from a couple of years back. Read the entire blog from 2009 It may be seen as bigotry to presume things about a group of people based on the acts of a few, but I wonder how many women actually have this internal evaluation going on. When is it common sense? And when is it paranoia? We all are sensitive to the cues and signals we read in our environment where we are assessing our safety, and weighing the odds that the people we meet may present a potential to harm us, or be benign, or trustworthy. It seems for females, the risks are more omnipresent, and males don't get it. Why should I as a male be lumped in with criminals, when I'm such a decent dude? What are the social signals males should be aware of, that communicate that you are disinterested? Body language cues? Verbal cues? What are the things that men do as strangers (perhaps unwittingly) that cause you to react by putting your phasers on shun?