methinks mr. hayes is trying to say: he's an actor. his job is to portray characters, perform them and promote the productions those characters are in. however, his personal sexuality has nothing to do with any of that, and therefore, he's not going to talk about it.
i commend sean on his restraint. not every performer has to be an out role model; at least he's not lying--he's just not talking. perhaps in this way he *is* being a different kind of role model...
the general public may have an intense interest in popular performers, but this in no way obligates said performers to regurgitate every personal detail on demand. the public may be *used* to performers behaving that way, but it's certainly not required.
actors like sean hayes are claiming their personal lives as personal. they are the opposite of the paris hiltons and others another poster says have no right to privacy (a position i strongly disagree with, btw). instead of being disrespected and piled onto, perhaps we can leave alone those who choose to live their private lives outside of the spotlight when not onstage.
Well said, wowniceone.