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Lordpendragon said:
Tacit consent also perhaps?

I have seen relationships recover after infidelity. The infidelity acted as a catalyst for them to understand that their relationship had been let go and they realised that they wanted it back.

this is a really good point that i was trying to make but failed miserably :smile:
 

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Lordpendragon said:
Just put me on your ignore Marvin, if I upset you so much.

I don't know how you expected a thread about trying to recover a marriage to be horny??

Equally it is the custom of this site for all to participate - you can report people if you don't like what they are saying.

Incidentally your OP talked about men's reaction to an unfaithful partner as well. Go figure.

Lordpendragon, you are correct, please bear in mind a person can be sorry 1 second after pressing the enter key. I was out of line in my comments I will blame it on the beer and being up in the wee hours:wink: Being a noob here is no excuse for my rudeness to you but please know I am very sorry for any offensive comments and beg your pardon....
 

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marvin said:
Lordpendragon, you are correct, please bear in mind a person can be sorry 1 second after pressing the enter key. I was out of line in my comments I will blame it on the beer and being up in the wee hours:wink: Being a noob here is no excuse for my rudeness to you but please know I am very sorry for any offensive comments and beg your pardon....

Of course - if you are still online you can probably edit it if you want.

If I ever throw the first stone - you can shoot me :smile:
 

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Fair enough, I know of relationships that have survived affairs too .

I guess FOR ME I know my personality and I know it would take me 60 years to not bring it up every single time he was late. Break my trust and I find it a really hard thing to repair.

:smile:
Honey

( I could also go on the tangent of complacency and laziness that makes most marriages fail and that your better to get off your butt and work on it than let it go that far, but I don't want to sound like DR Phil hahahha :biggrin1: )
 

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I know I'm not female but I'll chime in.I agree with what WildHoney is saying.Once the trust is broken,it is very difficult to build again,if at all.

When you cheat on a partner,you're saying you don't respect your partner or the relationship enough to work out whatever made you stray anyway.If the relationship is fine and you still fuck around,then you're just a sorry individual,and you need to examine yourself and why you feel the need to seek comfort(and sex) in the arms(and between the legs) of someone else when your spouse is at home.

I personally have never cheated on any of my SO's,and if we had problems that couldn't be fixed,I'd break off the relationship first.When you have sex with someone outside the marriage/relationship,you're potentially exposing your partner to god knows what.

Besides,why live in deceipt? It takes more energy and effort to keep up a lie than it does to just work on whatever issues you have.I like things simple personally,no time for games and bullshit.
 

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What about revealing number of lovers prior to current relationship, and how many is too large a number?