Self Esteem, confidence and Sex

[B_subgirrl]

Interesting I shall check it out. I'm going to be honest though I normally only read trash:tongue: See that's whats wrong! If I would have found a boob man instead of an ass man I would be rocking it I'm always on topic WHAT are you hinting at woman:biggrin1:

It's not a difficult read, and you can so tell that the woman knows what she's talking about. The physical problems bother me more than the psychological so I guess I really am off topic!

Maybe you can keep an eye out for a boob man if you ever leave the ass man :biggrin1:

 

[Frodo46888]

Pursuant to the subject of this board, the topic in this thread, and another thread regarding guys who cover up in locker rooms, appearance is a major factor in self-esteem even though other factors are, in the long run, more important. We are bombarded in the media with the idea that perfect bodies are expected in order to have a good relationship with others, and most of us fall short in some regard. Those of us with small dicks or boobs, with excess pounds, too short or too tall, we're told every day that we're out of the running.

Of course we should all strive for a healthy lifestyle, but some characteristics aren't easily changed. Many of us will never come close to the ideals we see on TV no matter how hard we try. It's hard to feel good about yourself when you just don't measure up to what you perceive as an expectation.

Low self-esteem has dogged me all my life, and I have always felt ashamed of the way I look. I've finally reached an age where I don't give a shit, and, in fact, my scrawny bod now looks better than my obese peers and my small dick doesn't matter anymore. But it took too many unhappy years to get to this point.

 

[D_Ernest Porknine]

I am of short stature and because of that I have always felt I was looked down upon (literally and figuretively) so my self confidence was low. However I did have a very high sex drive and felt I could satisfy my lovers. I was always told I was good in bed but did not have many relationships to gauge it on while young.

As I got older I started bodybuilding and dramatically increased my muscularity and in the process increased my self confidence slowly. Inwardly I still had little confidence in myself but I started to realize that others were becoming more attracted to me because of my physical appearance. I did very well on the local and national levels in bodybuilding which raised my level of self confidence. This increase in feeling better about myself then allowed me to express it more on the outside which in the past I kept within me. I don't think I was cocky as much as just more confident about myself. However, I still have trouble walking up to a complete stranger, especially if she is good looking, and start talking to her. Some hotties which I have discussed this with have said I could have nearly any woman I wanted because of my physique and more importantly, my humor and personality. In the past these traits were kept within me and only known to my closer friends and coworkers, those who I felt comfortable enough to let my guard down with.

So yes, self esteem and confidence can play a vital role in your sex life, as well as your life in general.