My Large Penis Has Been In: 10 sexual encounters w/women (genetic) 18 sexual encounters w/trans-women 1 sexual encounter w/man 7 (short) romantic relationships w/women (genetic) I'm open-minded. Labels always don't help in these instances, but I'm in a relationship with a woman. I want to be honest about my sexual history. I've avoided the subject. When asked how many women I've been with, I tell her - but I don't include the trans-women. I've searched the internet for answers; the advice sucks: "Don't tell her if you think she'll freak out" or "How can it help?" What? You think sticking with someone that doesn't know you will equal happiness? Idiocy. Without intimacy, there is no trust, and therefore no point in even being in a committed relationship. Although, I do agree with the sentiments of "how can it help"? If you aren't going to shoot for a threesome, then it isn't productive in sexual progression; however, the objective is to be intimacy. The problem is I think the closest word to qualify my experiences would be "pansexual", "hetro-romantic" and/or "bisexual", but I think the latter circumvents my perspective on those transsexual women. For all intents and purposes, they are/will be/were women. Yet, genetically speaking, they were born otherwise. So, I'm wrestling with that thought when I try to explain my sexual past - especially since the exploits with the man wasn't my cup of tea. But, I want to keep this simple. Question: How should I "come out" to my girlfriend. And in the future, seeing as she may freak out, when/how should I come out to future girlfriends? The obvious answer is tell the truth. To be honest, I'm just scared of losing out on the girl of my dreams because of what I've done - which doesn't make any sense (the girl of my dreams would know I wasn't going to cheat on her just because I've had this) but I'm worried. sidenote: I'm a college student.