Self Preparation For The First Time To Get Penetrated By A Dick In The Ass?

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To be honest with everyone, I'm on my early 20 and I have never had sex before either fuck or get fucked. Anytime I feel horny, I just use my hand or fuck my pillow due to my fear of havingsex. During my masturbation, I tried to insert my finger in my as to gain an extra pleasure. The first finger is fine, but I start to feel a heavy pain on the second one. It also tear my ass as I attempt to insert the third finger. However, it never succeed since I cannot handle the pain from the 3rd finger even I put some lube or even my precum or extra saliva. This is one of the reasons that I'm afraid while having the first penentration as I want to experience thar. However, do you have any experience and tip for having the first penetration? And some other tip for preparing yourself for sex?
 

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You need to use lube and use lots of it! Saliva is fine but it doesn't last long.

I would suggest a smaller dildo to start with by yourself, but fingers will work too. Start with lubing up the hole, working 1 lubed finger into the hole. Give your hole time to get used to having something in it. Run the finger around the sphincter, stretching it a little bit. After you feel comfortable, work a second lubed finger into the hole. Don't force it, just go slowly. Push out with your sphincter (just like you were taking a dump) it will open up and you should be able to get the second finger in. Go slowly, add more lube if you need it. Give your sphincter time to get used to both fingers. Play with your fingers, stretch the hole open, move the fingers around. Once you get used to 2 fingers, try 3 fingers. Just keep following the steps. Never force anything in. Always use plenty of lube. And take your time. If you follow the steps and do it right, you should have lots of enjoyment.
 

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Buy some butt plugs, anal training set for beginners. You probably won't handle the largest immediately but the small and medium are good to start.

Lube is definitely needed, more the merrier. Relaxing the sphincter is important.

I had my ass opened up by a guy the first time last week. You will likely feel a pressure when getting penetrated but slide and relax gently. Some positions are easier than others. Riding on top cowboy (top may need to guide the dick to your hole) you can control the pace. You just kinda have to surrender yourself a little as you lower, slow down if it is too painful. And take your time, it will take a few tries to mount successfully.

Many cited doggy as good for beginners but not the easiest position for me to start. Missionary is a bit more intuitive though communicate with the top. But experiment with positions till both you and partner are comfy. Despite the seeming thickness, your ass can accommodate it. I was perhaps fortunate my first time wasn't nearly as painful as I thought it would be, same with second time. I had to slow down here and there to adjust but otherwise it's not too bad everyone is different so do it at your own pace, and of course arouse each other first with foreplay.

Also reminder to douche before hand for peace of mind.

I definitely enjoy dick more than I did the butt plugs. Flesh vs firm silicon.