Send you pics then ...nothing!

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by smart24, Oct 13, 2010.

  1. smart24

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    Hey!

    ya know when you meet some crazy hot body on here,
    you swap email addy`s so that you can email each other face shots to get to know each other better. You get all excited send away your face shot in anticipation for the one you should recieve in return ,then it happens...... hours turn into days and days into weeks. no reply! What the fuck!
    If your a less than average looking guy and think your the only one this happens to your wrong, it happens to me ALOT and i`m far from ugly( don`t mean to be cocky it`s just truth)

    What`s the damn deal! Just let me down if you must, just dont leave me hanging!!!!!
     
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    It happens a lot and there are some shitty people out there. Don't worry about it, they're not worth your time.
     
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    are you kidding??:wank:
     
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    I don't even try with online guys anymore, and this is why.
     
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    That's why I have a face picture in my album. I like to let people see the real me so they know who they are talking with, it makes things less complicated later on.

    Too bad that this one didn't work out for you!
     
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    This happens to me at least half of the time. I talk for a message or two, send a face pic and get nothing back. I think I'm average and get told I have good looks so I'm dumbfounded. I think people expect too much and are too full of themselves. I understand it though since I've done this to others before too who I deemed not my type or look funny. It just gets frustrating when it happens in a row.
     
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    When I send a picture of my face, it determines the person receiving it is capable of handling it, and if not it launches out of their monitor of phone, headbutting a massive crater into their face. This is why many do not email me back. If you've seen my face and lived, consider yourself lucky.
     
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    You know, the other person might have thought that you were out of his league and so he didn't want to go through the experience of getting rejected by you.

    Also, seeing each other on cam in the video chat room would solve the problem of non-reciprocating photo senders. :smile:
     
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    Petite you are spot-on,i have sent face pics as well some have sent theirs,and at times they weren't my type,and some haven't.You are not the only one who's gone through this.
     
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    that has happen to me, infact once I was supose to meet him at a certain place and time and he never showed up, I think this is worst that not receiving a picture of there face. what do u think?
     
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    I never expect a return pic and if I get one I never believe it. Of the guys who actually send a pic, a large chunk of them send one from 5,10,15, or 20 years ago. People are often just collecting pic, looking for a fantasy (that just shattered because you became "real"), or just have bad manners. I have experienced getting a pic of someone that was not attractive to me, but still sent one back with a polite "sorry not my type" message. We are adults and do know not everyone is attracted to the same "look". I feel if someone sends me a pic I should at least acknowledge it and return the gesture.
     
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    I think communication on the internet has shown us something about human nature that may have been unnoticed by many of us before.

    The easiest thing to do is to do nothing. The easiest kind of life is a fantasy life. The easiest thing to do is to behave selfishly. Masturbation and fantasizing takes very little energy compared to the effort involved in meeting and interacting with real human beings.

    Real physical presence somehow tilts the altruistic scales to even things out more between parties. I'm not sure if it's a greater fear of retribution, or something deeper tied to our ability to discern dreams from reality, but a lack of physical presence seems to allow a different set of behaviors.

    A "good", i.e. more altruistic/empathetic person will overcome this (i.e. work harder) by thinking more of others feelings and behave more like they would in the real world. A person operating more from their selfish side would allow the anonymity and easy access of the internet to provide lazy satisfaction of desires.

    Just an observation from many years of meeting and trying to meet people through the internet. A LOT of people just throw common courtesy right out the window. Makes you appreciate the good people more, and learn techniques to avoid getting burned by the bad ones.
     
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    This is why my avatar is my face! That way if people dont like it, they wont even bother speaking to me in a more then friendly kinda way.

    It also means the ones that do speak to me like it, which is nice to know.
     
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    This same thing happened to me last week and I'm lost on why it happens. You establish a rapport, crack some jokes, give sincere compliments and they vanish into thin air. Or even worse, you see them online again after you've heard nothing.

    Going through that has changed me...and I'm not unattractive either.

    Sincerely,



    So Lost:confused:
     
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    Mostly, I feel that people let themselves go more 'wild' than they really will in real life. It's like Craigslist when people post these really horny messages to hook up, but when you make it clear that you are really willing to meet and do it, it becomes too real for them and they don't show.
     
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    Thanks for all the great advice guys! I needed that!
    Ijust really wish meeting someone was easier. I'm stuck way out here in the bush and I get all excited when I hear someone lives sort of close to me. I flirt with them, get things rolling then wham! It's like hiting a brick wall. I guess this rednecks just gunna have to move to the city, ugh this sucks!
     
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    I've been on the other side plenty times. There's also times where I really would -- but I just got caught up in something, started hooking up with someone else, etc. All we know of what these internet strangers are doing is from their messages to us, which is in fact a very very small part of most people's lives. There's so many variables that can change to result in them not sending you a pic. I'll list a few.

    -he just wanted your pic, maybe wasn't anything like he said, just got your pic and j/o
    -he lives in your town and wanted to know who you were so got you to reveal yourself
    -got in a relationship
    -got more in person hook ups so felt like he didn't need to answer anymore
    -thought you were out of his league
    -thought you weren't his type
    -thought you were ugly
    -thought you were hairier/smoother
    -PC broke
    -deleted email accidentally

    wayy too many possibilities to list.
    yeah it's a bit offensive, but not nearly as much as other things you can find on this big ol' internet of ours.
     
  18. Daisy

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    People are generally picky when it comes to faces. Most people have a "type" and if you don't fit the type, then oh well. Maybe they just arent attracted to you, or maybe it could be one of the 20 reasons listed above. In any case dating is a numbers game. The more you put yourself out there, the more likely you are to connect with someone.
     
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    To OP I suggest you have a facepic on your album or as your avatar. You'll get into far fewer of these situations. You have dick pics on but, hey so do most people on here and let's face it (no pun intended) your dick is unlikely to be the first thing people see when they meet you in the flesh.
     
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    I hear ya man! Good luck with that. Its a trust factor and gaining that on a social network is tough...possible, but tough

    peace
     
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