Serial Monogamy: How do you define it?

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Serial Monogamy, I thought it meant someone who over the course of a lifetime has at least three long term, monogamous relationships.

I recently googled it though, and found out it is actually someone who is commitment phobic. :eek: That's not me.

Actually, I have two questions:
1) Serial Monogamy: How do you define it?
2) What do you call a person who just wants to be in a serious one-on-one relationship these days? Other than dinosaur that is... :tongue::biggrin1: You know what I mean people, like what marriage used to be years ago before open marriages and swinging became de rigeur.


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What is a serial monogamist?
 

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I define serial monogamy as a man who only has a relationship with one woman at a time. If he's seeing a woman, he doesn't date/fuck/whatever with anyone else. That relationship may last a week or a month or a decade, but while he's with her, he's with no one else.
 

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Its a ridiculous term! Id never use it because its confusing & nobody quite gets what it means. I can never pronounce monogamy either!
 

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Serial Monogamy, I thought it meant someone who over the course of a lifetime has at least three long term, monogamous relationships.

I recently googled it though, and found out it is actually someone who is commitment phobic. :eek: That's not me.

Actually, I have two questions:
1) Serial Monogamy: How do you define it?
2) What do you call a person who just wants to be in a serious one-on-one relationship these days? Other than dinosaur that is... :tongue::biggrin1: You know what I mean people, like what marriage used to be years ago before open marriages and swinging became de rigeur.


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What is a serial monogamist?

I have always defined myself as a serial monogamist with very slutty interludes in between.

What I found is that real monogamy is extraordinarily difficult to maintain when one is young and easily distracted. It's also an enormous compromise if you've chosen your partner for other than purely sexual reasons (which are not aways the best criteria).

People are free to define themselves and their relationships however they like. Monogamy may or may not exclude sexualized activity that does not involve physical contact (camming, etc): I was involved for many years with someone who felt betrayed by my enjoying porn (alone) when not in his presence. No amount of discussion could dissuade him from the notion that I was being less than faithful for JOing.

I have also been in "monogamous" relationships where an occasional three-some was welcome as long as we were together and obeyed boundaries.

In thirty years, I've been involved in six relationships that I'd describe as loving, financially interdependent and, at least initially, monogamous. They ranged in duration from six months to nine years. Only one of my "great loves" never had any expectations of exclusivity on either of our parts.
 

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I define serial monogamy as a man who only has a relationship with one woman at a time. If he's seeing a woman, he doesn't date/fuck/whatever with anyone else. That relationship may last a week or a month or a decade, but while he's with her, he's with no one else.
Yeah, that's what I thought it meant. :cool:

Its a ridiculous term! Id never use it because its confusing & nobody quite gets what it means. I can never pronounce monogamy either!
I can never say statistician without my childhood lisp cropping up again. :redface:


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