Serious Male Hatred and Resentment

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  1. hungbigmatt

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    Okay, well here goes
    First time ever admitting this, but I am a formally large guy, kind of masquerading around as a still large guy.
    I had a long schlong all through HS and college. I am tall and I was very skinny, very skinny. Well, then I went on this medication and I gained 75 pounds in one year. I gained inches all over, but of course, lost inches on my dick. A lot too.
    I went from 8.5 to 6.5 or less.
    It really has caused big self esteem issues for me. I actually somehow developed resentment towards guys, all guys. I have completely got rid of all of my guy friends. I don't even want to be around them anymore. If I think they are large down there it makes it really bad. I am married and stuff, and my wife do.esnt care because she said it just hurt half the time before anyways
    I care though. I hate, I actually hate both of my brother-in-laws because I know they have big ones, and I treat them really bad. I am sure they have no idea why.

    I just feel like the world is so centered around cocks, and lengths, and bulges, that it's the only thing that seems important to people anymore. That is all that women want. Shows like "Hung" say it all.

    Just wondering how crazy that seems, but be nice yall.
    No stupid arse comments that are just aimed to me me feel bad, allright?
    I'm just trying to keep it real here.
     
  2. hungbigmatt

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    Oh, and YES, I know, my member name...
    It is my name for all porn/non-reality sites.

    I can't be like "formerlyhungmatt" or something.
    That would be confusing.
     
  3. hungteen19921992

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    What the hell? HBO made a show about a man with a large penis? I'd never heard of it before :confused:
     
  4. B_Hornaplenty

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    First, let me say that I'm sorry about the bad results from the meds you're taking. If in fact it is the meds causing the weight gain, you should get back to your physician and deal with that.

    Now your negative attitude about men, specifically men with large cocks, is something you must work on yourself...you should rid yourself of that. The quote above confirms that its not the world that's "centered around cocks, and lengths, and bulges"...it's you that is obsessed with that. Clear your mind of that and get real. You haven't been reading much information from LPSG members if you still believe that all women want is a big cock, and apparently your wife also has assured you that's not true.

    Correct the treatment you're getting regarding your health issues, improve your mindset, and you will more than likely get that super-size schlong you were so proud of back again.
     
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    do you mind me asking what medication(s) you're taking?

    and have you talked to your doctor about this pronounced weight gain?
     
  6. dude_007

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    Your outlook on others is a reflection of your low self esteem. Change that, and you change the rest.
     
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    I would stop worrying about other men and their dicks and concentrate on improving myself, if I were you.

    Especially with the fact that whatever meds you're taking is having some bad side effects.
     
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    go for a walk, eat less food particularly sugary drinks and fast food.

    you will also feel better about yourself afterwards and be healthier. so i don't see the downside.

    its no secret why you've put on so much weight. its not the medication's fault. its because you're eating more than you need to for the amount of energy you're burning.

    Burn more energy than you're eating and you have found the ticket to weight loss.
     
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    not crazy... just dumb. shit happens, just get over the fact and try ti loose some weight if that bothers you and enjoy your life. I'm sorry if that was too forward but "hatred" seems like overkill don't you think?
     
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    First and foremost I apologise for the side-effects that your medication has had on your 'member'.

    It's not really fair to do that to all the males in your life. Some of them didn't ask for a big penis, in fact there's a small chance some exercised for a large penis (I don't imagine you 'hate on' men with large pecks or ripped abs?).

    The world isn't centred around cocks or anything associated such as length, bulges. In fact why does that matter if you're married? A lot of my friends, myself included only mention it as we're all single guys and we say it for the purpose of getting female attention... .

    Really, penises are only one aspect of life. Unless you plan to go for size queens (who can be deceived due to their track record of failure to measure estimates) then that's not really an issue.

    You need to have a word with yourself if you really do think the world is about penises.

    You have two options, jelq or use PE to gain back your length if it bothers you so much or therapy to try to get comfortable with your new self.
    Treating men who you know/suspect are 'hung' will probably not be good in the long run.
     
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    I am sorry to hear of your self-esteem issues. I strongly suggest that you seek professional help so you can change your outlook.
     
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    dude, you need prof help, but I can tell you this, a big wallet supercedes a big cock for most women.
     
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    "Im married and stuff"

    Really?
     
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    You need to change meds, this one is causing too many problems.
     
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    That's what I'm wondering as well
     
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    This is a issue in my family(mom side) their metabolism hits a brick wall around age 30. The candle that burns twice as bright burns out twice as fast.
    my forearm is literally twice the size of my cousins forearm , he's about 110 now I'm 215 we are both about the same height.I workout a lot though. we wear the same jean size(32.) too.


    All of my uncle's are 175 to 235.
     
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    What is that supposed to mean?
    All I'm saying there is the fact that I am married is of little relavance to this issue.
     
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    I just never heard any married adult say that exact phrase before...
     
  19. hungbigmatt

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    Ah, if only life were so simple.

    It's not bad meds I am taking, it's medication I already took.
    Besides, I went from extremely underweight to slightly overweight. I do not want to be underweight again if I even could, most can't get back to their HS weight.
    It was Paxil, and 10 years ago.
    There is actually a class action lawsuit against gsm for ridiculous weight gain.
    I went from 125 to 200 in one year, but my ideal weight is about 185 for my height.
    I do not want to be 125 again.

    It is really about the psych issue not weight.
    Getting help has not been easy. I have seen 5 different doctors and they just give me more meds. That is not helping.

    The fact that sites like LPSG are super popular really contradicts "the world doesn't revolve around size and sex" philosophy...
     
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    "The fact that sites like LPSG are super popular really contradicts "the world doesn't revolve around size and sex" philosophy..."

    Alot of negative thinking comes from not challenging your thought processes with what the reality of the situation actually is..No, this site is not wildly popular- if you polled the entire male population in your country, less then 1% would have even seen this site online let alone joined it.

    So, if you are actually willing to start to challenge your thought processes around your body image and "hatred" of other men as a result of this, start with what you actually know to be true as told to you first had by others, not what is going on in your head. You have a wive that loves you and that is based not on a piece of tissue you have on your body, but based on you and how you treat her. Extrapolate that further, if your attitude towards poepl around you starts to spill over to your relationship with her, and you will start to jepordise your realtionship with your wive. This is the reality of the situation.

    Another fact, no man is happy with everything about themselves. Be it something about how they look or how they act or how they think, we all what to change things about ourselves, so you looking at the men around you and thinking these men have it sorted because they may be well endowed again does not ring true in reality. If you sat down and asked what they would change about themselves they would most likely give you at least 5 things which brings them down on a daily basis, but because we are male, put on a front and dont let others know about these things.

    So, how to alter your current way of thinking? Yes, I think exercise is important, gettting out even for long walks helps your mental health immediatlely in addition to focusing on that you have in your life, not the things you perceive that you dont.
     
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