I had a long schlong all through HS and college. I am tall and I was very skinny, very skinny. Well, then I went on this medication and I gained 75 pounds in one year. I gained inches all over, but of course, lost inches on my dick. A lot too.
I went from 8.5 to 6.5 or less.
OK, first off, I share your pain. I, too, am rather heavyset...I'm working on becoming somewhat of a gymrat, hence the ID, but I'm not there yet.
And, second, your penis did not shrink. Period. It did not.
What happened is that the fat grew in around it, and makes it look shorter...and your bulk makes it look smaller *in proportion* to what is around it.
I have the same issue. I am statistically large, even with the fat. Once I lose it, I'll likely be huge, again.
It really has caused big self esteem issues for me.
Why? Is your self esteem somehow tied to the length of your penis? I'm not certain I understand the problem. You're still the guy you were, and there's just more of you to love. The stereotype of the jolly fat man exists, for a reason!
I actually somehow developed resentment towards guys, all guys. I have completely got rid of all of my guy friends. I don't even want to be around them anymore. If I think they are large down there it makes it really bad. I am married and stuff, and my wife do.esnt care because she said it just hurt half the time before anyways
I care though. I hate, I actually hate both of my brother-in-laws because I know they have big ones, and I treat them really bad. I am sure they have no idea why.
This indicates a genuine problem. Feeling a sense of loss, I could understand. Transferring it onto others, and lashing out in what you describe as resentment and hatred, is a very extreme reaction.
Jealousy, I could see. This -- seek help.
I just feel like the world is so centered around cocks, and lengths, and bulges, that it's the only thing that seems important to people anymore.
You are married. Let me start by asking you WHY you are discussing your penis with other women?! Seriously???
The opinions of other women should not matter...unless you're cheating on your wife, at which point -- seek help.
All you can do is to be the best you, you can be. Yeah, it's cliche, but it's also true. Other people don't matter...what matters is your own self image, and the way that it's been affected.
Say, out of curiosity, what kinds of medications are you taking? Obviously one of the side effects is weight gain. Are any of the other side effects psychological? Depression, mood changes, etc? As I said, earlier, your reaction is very extreme.
Just wondering how crazy that seems, but be nice yall.
Quite crazy, frankly. So crazy that I cannot fully comprehend your reaction.
Hey, you said you wanted honesty. That's it!
Sir, you need help. You need to talk this through with someone. You obviously do not believe your wife, when she says that you are OK. You have trust issues. You have jealousy issues. You have resentment issues. Hate is growing in your heart. And, your self-image has taken a nose dive.
And, frankly, tying your self worth to the length of your penis was questionable, even in the best of situations. I suspect that you have many admirable traits that have *nothing* to do with your penis. Focus on some of them!!!
Please. Find someone with whom you can talk this through. A therapist is an obvious choice, as would be a close friend, or even a Preacher. Yeah, that guy in Church. They're not called "Father Confessor" for nothing, y'know.
And, talk to your doctor about that medication. I suspect it's doing more to you than *just* the weight gain.