Two female friends of mine in relationships are both having extra marital affairs. Yet when the 'boyfriend' does something wrong they come running to me asking "How could he do that to me?" Well isn't it quite obvious if he could what he is to his wife/partner/family then he wouldn't have a problem being an asshole them? Maybe i am bias because ive never put myself in that situation but i don't see the theory in expecting a man (or woman) with such little respect for their significant other and family to suddenly respect you and be a gentleman. why do women especially it seems, set themselves up in these situations full well knowing what could happen? Is it then foolish of them to expect a different outcome and complain when it doesn't turn out the way they want?