Sex A Stressfuli Exprerience

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I'm a gay guy in my late 20's and i have dated with many guys all these years. Some of these dates where just a simple drink at a bar some of them where one night stands and a few of them actual relationships.

I can remember getting really stressed out when the sex was about to happen with some guy, even more if i really liked the guy and wanted him to enjoy it with me, in order to meet him again and not disappear the next day as most guys do.

I am a vers guy but i mostly bottom, i love sucking a dick and when i do it i do really passionately cause i enjoy it alot. I remeber once when i was sucking a guy i really liked he said ''wow looks like you haven't sucked someone for a long time'' because i was doing it very intensly. i felt kinda embarassed for a moment. then i was thinking he might think i'm too thirsty for sex or something or i'm a slut and he'll never take me seriously. we had fun but he disappeard the next day.

8/10 guys have told me that my blowjob skill are amazing on the other hand, i don't really know what the problem is.
yet one other guy that i was sucking, he was complaining that my teeth were hurting him which was not an issue with anyone else before.

Another time a guy was sucking me off and i was enjoying it a lot but i kept thinking in my head ''what if i lose my hard on now? that would be really embarassing''

That was an example of why i feel stressed when i have sex. I don't know what i should do and what i shouldn't do in order to make the guy enjoy it but not think i'm a slut at the same time. If i'm too passionate he will get the wrong impression if i'm too slow i'll be boring and again he'll ghost me.

I still remeber a guy that we had a relationship, we had great sex together for hours but he also left me after a few months and i was thinking maybe the great sex was in my mind and he didn't like it as much, this is why he left me in the end? Or it could be a totally irelevant reason.

I like bottoming but i need my time to achieve it and take the guy in me, i can't take too big dicks, i just can't, but even with a normal sized dick i am sometimes stressed that i won't be able to take it and that did happen in some occasions with some guys and of course i never heard from them the next day. I don't know if the reason was my bad sex or that they were just looking for a one night stand.

I didn't think about this issue back when i was younger but growing up and still single i am wondering if this is the problem why i'm still single. Why none of the 40+ guys i have dated all these years stayed with me. I might be totally wrong my sex might be great and maybe i was just unlucky and did not find the right guy for me yet.

I would like to know your opinion and if you feel stressed having sex sometimes.
 

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I'm a gay guy in my late 20's and i have dated with many guys all these years. Some of these dates where just a simple drink at a bar some of them where one night stands and a few of them actual relationships.

I can remember getting really stressed out when the sex was about to happen with some guy, even more if i really liked the guy and wanted him to enjoy it with me, in order to meet him again and not disappear the next day as most guys do.

I am a vers guy but i mostly bottom, i love sucking a dick and when i do it i do really passionately cause i enjoy it alot. I remeber once when i was sucking a guy i really liked he said ''wow looks like you haven't sucked someone for a long time'' because i was doing it very intensly. i felt kinda embarassed for a moment. then i was thinking he might think i'm too thirsty for sex or something or i'm a slut and he'll never take me seriously. we had fun but he disappeard the next day.

8/10 guys have told me that my blowjob skill are amazing on the other hand, i don't really know what the problem is.
yet one other guy that i was sucking, he was complaining that my teeth were hurting him which was not an issue with anyone else before.

Another time a guy was sucking me off and i was enjoying it a lot but i kept thinking in my head ''what if i lose my hard on now? that would be really embarassing''

That was an example of why i feel stressed when i have sex. I don't know what i should do and what i shouldn't do in order to make the guy enjoy it but not think i'm a slut at the same time. If i'm too passionate he will get the wrong impression if i'm too slow i'll be boring and again he'll ghost me.

I still remeber a guy that we had a relationship, we had great sex together for hours but he also left me after a few months and i was thinking maybe the great sex was in my mind and he didn't like it as much, this is why he left me in the end? Or it could be a totally irelevant reason.

I like bottoming but i need my time to achieve it and take the guy in me, i can't take too big dicks, i just can't, but even with a normal sized dick i am sometimes stressed that i won't be able to take it and that did happen in some occasions with some guys and of course i never heard from them the next day. I don't know if the reason was my bad sex or that they were just looking for a one night stand.

I didn't think about this issue back when i was younger but growing up and still single i am wondering if this is the problem why i'm still single. Why none of the 40+ guys i have dated all these years stayed with me. I might be totally wrong my sex might be great and maybe i was just unlucky and did not find the right guy for me yet.

I would like to know your opinion and if you feel stressed having sex sometimes.
My friend. I get stressed about sex each and every time. Even with my wife of 6 years and my ex wife of 9 years. My is caused by low self esteem and more importantly performance anxiety. I wish I had advice for you. But I still struggle.
 
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