sex addict?

[swat611]

How do you know if you're a sex addict? I'm not sure if i am. I LOVE sex. Men, women, whatever its all just sex to me. I'm in a relationship, have kids. but find thats not enough. My girlfriend and i have great sex. But i find myself having sex with other women, and men alot. masturbate alot. ill just be sitting there not thinking about anything, and then boom it hits me. Most of the time i can jerk off a few times during the day and get rid of the urges, but sometimes i can't and i find myself hooking up with dude on craigslist suck their cocks, them sucking me, and getting fucked and fucking them.

anyone have insight to this?

 

[Charles Finn]

yes it comes from a high sex drive and too much time on your hands lol

 

[D_22]

I'll gladly take your libido.

 

[thebesthotsex]

If it's interrupting the normal flow of your day, then it's an addiction. You need to nip it in the bud now before it becomes out of control. Constantly hooking up is not healthy behavior, especially if you have children to look after.

 

[psguy64]

Clinical response/definition, "If it's interrupting the normal flow of your day, then it's an addiction." - posted above.

 

[B_thickjohnny]

If it's interrupting the normal flow of your day, then it's an addiction. You need to nip it in the bud now before it becomes out of control. Constantly hooking up is not healthy behavior, especially if you have children to look after.

This is it in a nutshell. I've often felt I had a sex addiction because, like you, I masturbate and think about sex almost all the time BUT it does not really consume my days or take away from work although I have been known to get horny and go cruise for a JO with someone then go back to work - sort of a lunch break jack. But for you, you do have children and should always keep them in mind. If you think counseling would help, go for it.

 

[DevonTexas]

If you're enjoying it, and its not interfering with you career, why the fuck care?

 

[D_Sal_Manilla]

for the sake of your health and the sake of you family, i say look for some help. Cause what you just described is crazy. I think that you might be a sex addict and i think you know too. Now its up to you if you want to do something about it.

 

[deleted300444]

From what I understand, so many layers to this, sex addition or sex compulsion?

Gone through periods of life, alot of sex, no sex, alot of mastrrbation, then none.

BUT, often, destracted:

She has big tits, needs titty fuck

She is tiny and slender, needs to be bent over

He has a big bulge, needs a mouth

Big Dick at the gym. Fuck!

Everybody Fuck.

Or, sometimee, lets just watch TV and cuddle.

Love Big Dickd Pussy Porn. Stuff It!!!

 

[Mercurygirl]

How do you know if you're a sex addict? I'm not sure if i am. I LOVE sex. Men, women, whatever its all just sex to me. I'm in a relationship, have kids. but find thats not enough. My girlfriend and i have great sex. But i find myself having sex with other women, and men alot. masturbate alot. ill just be sitting there not thinking about anything, and then boom it hits me. Most of the time i can jerk off a few times during the day and get rid of the urges, but sometimes i can't and i find myself hooking up with dude on craigslist suck their cocks, them sucking me, and getting fucked and fucking them.

anyone have insight to this?

So in other words your girlfriend through your abhorrent behavior has to play the STD lottery. That's so considerate of you, you sound like such a nice guy. Yeah, I'd say you have a problem and because of your selfish cheating dog ways unfortunately so does your girlfriend. Hope your penis falls off.

 

[D_Sal_Manilla]

So in other words your girlfriend through your abhorrent behavior has to play the STD lottery. That's so considerate of you, you sound like such a nice guy. Yeah, I'd say you have a problem and because of your selfish cheating dog ways unfortunately so does your girlfriend. Hope your penis falls off.

i love you... lol

 

[twoton]

Maybe sex addiction, may be something else. I'm no psychiatrist, but orgasm releases various hormones and such, including dopamine. If you've got an underlying psychological problem, the dopamine and hormone release might be a form of self-medication.

 

[erratic]

Listen, I'm not going to get up on my soapbox about how you can't actually be addicted to sex because there's clearly a big problem in your life. But I want to be clear that I don't think your problem is with sex.

Your problem is with control over sex.

You want my insights?

1) I think you should find yourself a sex-positive therapist who can help you with your sexual compulsions. It sounds like your compulsive sexual behaviour is, as others have said, messing up your life. That is a big problem. Sex isn't. The behaviour is. (In my opinion.)

2) Most importantly, I think it's time for you to do the gentlemanly thing and figure out how to be honest with your partner about what's going on. I think she deserves and needs to know for her own safety.

Good luck.

 

[thebesthotsex]

There are many free 12 step programs out there for sex addicts. Just do a quick google search and I am sure some will come up in your area. They are completely closed groups so you won't have worry about being identified.

 

[bumrubber]

Maybe sex addiction, may be something else. I'm no psychiatrist, but orgasm releases various hormones and such, including dopamine. If you've got an underlying psychological problem, the dopamine and hormone release might be a form of self-medication.

All this is true. But the bottom line is whether it interferes with the rest of your life, job, etc. I think the clinical definition of addiction has to do with continued use despite increasing consequences.

 

[jusright]

I agree with most of what has been said. If u don't feel in control then thats a powerful compulsion, considering all the obvious risks