Sex addiction as a gay man

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I am a 23 year old gay male and I don't know if have a sex/porn addiction or if my libido is just strong.

As sex is such a common thing in the community, I'm not sure whether I'm addicted or not.

Sometimes it feels hard to control my urges and of course I masturbate very frequently. I don't know if that is already enough to qualify as an addiction. I feel like my testosterone levels are pretty high but never got them checked.

Anyone here can relate to this?
 
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The answer is already in what you said. You're a 23 year old guy. This is the most sexually active period of your life. Relax and enjoy it and have fun. Just make sure to stay safe and use protection.
 

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From what I have seen, the first question asked in considering whether one has an addiction has very often been whether one would say one's impulses are interfering with otherwise being healthy and having the life one would like to have. So, are your sexual impulses in any way negatively interfering in your life?
 

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You haven't really said how often so it's hard to say.

But generally speaking, an addiction is doing an activity despite it having a negative impact on your or other's lives.
 
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You haven't really said how often so it's hard to say.

But generally speaking, an addiction is doing an activity despite it having a negative impact on your or other's lives.

It really depends but sometimes I jack off like 5-6 times a day.

The thing is when I'm in public and I get horny I often have to "relieve myself" in the restroom if you know what I mean.
 

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It really depends but sometimes I jack off like 5-6 times a day.

The thing is when I'm in public and I get horny I often have to "relieve myself" in the restroom if you know what I mean.
You really need to say what is your average amount is.

Pretty much every guy I know has done it 6 times a day at some point.

Basically the answer regardless is to have a routine so it doesn't affect you while you are in public.

Also, avoid porn as this will get you aroused more through the day. If you are masturbating multiple times a day you shouldn't need it.
 
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I am a 23 year old gay male and I don't know if have a sex/porn addiction or if my libido is just strong.

As sex is such a common thing in the community, I'm not sure whether I'm addicted or not.

Sometimes it feels hard to control my urges and of course I masturbate very frequently. I don't know if that is already enough to qualify as an addiction. I feel like my testosterone levels are pretty high but never got them checked.

Anyone here can relate to this?
I was a legit sex addict from 19-24
 

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It really depends but sometimes I jack off like 5-6 times a day.

The thing is when I'm in public and I get horny I often have to "relieve myself" in the restroom if you know what I mean.
this definitely sounds like it has more to do with your natural sex drive than it does with compulsion. Being young and having a male sex drive can feel like a lot or too much sometimes, but this is just the way it is. I think the compulsion/addiction element doesn't come in unless it's really escapist and needing the dopamine kick of orgasm, but if you're doing it because of physical need, then that's what it is, high sex drive and physical need.

I personally would love to find a partner that needed to orgasm 6 times a day, sounds super hot. I'd love to help out with that while still respecting you in a wholesome way, respecting that's just your nature.

and I do think you'd be be less conflicted about your sex drive if you were having more actual sex, whereas if it's only masturbation it's easier to get stuck in your head about it. Sex with another man who appreciates your sex drive will feel much more validating.
 
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You haven't really said how often so it's hard to say.

But generally speaking, an addiction is doing an activity despite it having a negative impact on your or other's lives.
Right. If you're canceling plans with family & friends, if you're missing work/late for work all because you HAVE to jerk off, there might be a problem. But if you're keeping your commitments, have variety in your life & carry out normal chores (grocery shopping, etc..), and you just enjoy masturbating during your downtime instead of watching movies/tv, reading, other hobbies, no big deal. At 23 I could j/o 3x a day easily, but I never skipped other activities just to j/o.
 
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I am a 23 year old gay male and I don't know if have a sex/porn addiction or if my libido is just strong.

As sex is such a common thing in the community, I'm not sure whether I'm addicted or not.

Sometimes it feels hard to control my urges and of course I masturbate very frequently. I don't know if that is already enough to qualify as an addiction. I feel like my testosterone levels are pretty high but never got them checked.

Anyone here can relate to this?
As others on here have said relax and enjoy! Have done the same over the years but with age it does subside some. I am 66 and still have my moments!
 
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