Sex addiction musings

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by D_Coupeland Clydesdale, Nov 16, 2009.

  1. D_Coupeland Clydesdale

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    Before I begin, I'd like to first say that my questions here are not meant to glorify nor minimize the real problems and sufferings experienced by those afflicted with sexual addiction. I'm just curious, albeit in a shallow way. So here goes. I'd describe myself as: relatively attractive, educated, socially adept, hung, etc. Yet despite being these things, I've never really been able to have what I wish I could have -- some good old fashioned sex with attractive people in the world. I'm wondering how sex addicts score so much that it becomes a problem in their lives. Perhaps I have an incomplete understanding of what it means to be a sex addict. If paying for sex is the issue, then that makes sense. Anyone with money can do that. The same goes for too much masturbation and excessive pornography use. Anyone can do that. But how do everyday people (meaning not famous or rich) accumulate hundreds or thousands of sexual partners while the rest of us scratch out one or two a decade?
     
  2. ManlyBanisters

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    Whoa there, chicken eyes! The rest of us? Speak for yourself, sunshine. What about the middle ground? I'm neither a 100s/1000s fucker nor a one or two a decade wanker (that's a joke, son).
     
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    I think you have your own answer with regard to your own score. :wink:

    I don't think that sex addiction has anything much to do with sex drive. I also think that "players" get to recognise each other.
     
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    the fact is nymphos dont care who they are fuckining within reason of course just the fact that they are getting the sensation that they crave. so they notch up many more people becase perhaps they put thereselves out there much more and dont always look to have indepth relationships before they get to the sex
     
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    I think they also learn where to go for easy sex... book stores, bath houses, etc... granted, that's more of a gay world thing, but they do exist in the straight world too... plus, you assume that they are having sex with attractive people. True sex addicts don't really care who they are having sex with. It's one of the definitions of it. They put themselves (and others) at risk and pretty much can't turn any sex down. I think we tend to romantacise things too much. If you saw what kind of sex or who the sex addicts were having sex with, you might not wonder how they get so much of it anymore.
     
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    finding sex is easy. it just depends on how much time you have.
    I can walk down any mall and find someone relatively good looking who'll want sex right then. you just need to look.
     
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