sex after babies,

[dolfette]

Hmm, is that what's happening in the avatar pic, then?

i'm stomping all over a man's testicles :smile:

 

[SilverTrain]

Right, got that.

 

[NotQuite_9x7]

Thanks for the advice. I'll be patient and supportive.

 

[SpiceFromIndia]

kegel for women can help .....
How to do Kegel Exercises - Kegel Exercise Instructions for Women

you can find better link yourself ...... best of luck

 

[dolfette]

kegels won't help me. my muscle tone is fine.


it's more like...you know how if you sleep on your arm it goes numb? you can sort of feel it but all the sensations are deadened?
that's what it's like. nerve damage.

 

[L_Lynn]

Have you tried any otc products, "warming" oils and such? I don't know that there is really anything to be done for nerve damage.

 

[dolfette]

Have you tried any otc products, "warming" oils and such? I don't know that there is really anything to be done for nerve damage.

yup, tried them.
it's fortunate i'm not a very sexual person.

 

[SpiceFromIndia]

kegels won't help me. my muscle tone is fine.


it's more like...you know how if you sleep on your arm it goes numb? you can sort of feel it but all the sensations are deadened?
that's what it's like. nerve damage.

oh that is the case ...hmmm...... then also there is a solution for that ... tantra sex .... when body gets weak you use brain to control the body and that help body and mind come together in unison .... and thats the best sex you every have :biggrin1:... however it involves lots of feelings and lover would be the best suited person to practice for ....however if you are into casual sex then you can practice thinking about men in general .. its tough but not impossible.. i have collected lots of information about it and also i have a collection of videos that could help ... If you are interested i will be glad to share them......i hope that would help .....


oh massaging also helps ...it increases the blood flow and so the sensation increases .....before sex some massage and i am sure you feel better .......

 

[SilverTrain]

i'm not a very sexual person.

But sadism counts, doesn't it?


:tongue:

 

[dolfette]

spice, i don't do emotion.
well...not for men anyway.
...and i don't do sex either.

But sadism counts, doesn't it?

:tongue:

i'm cruel. it gives me a buzz.
and it's cheaper than batteries.

 

[SpiceFromIndia]

spice, i don't do emotion.
well...not for men anyway.
...and i don't do sex either.

I see ... however tantra is still good for whoever you have liking for .....and massaging too ...

 

[Sassy]

Sex is definitely different since the baby. It takes me more foreplay to get aroused, and, sometimes, I'm just too tired and just go through the motions.

Emergency C-section, 9 lb 12 oz baby.

Right after the birth I was very horny, but the drive went down after a couple of months. It went up again after I stopped nursing. I have noticed that the sensitivity all over my body has changed, not just in one area (some areas more than before; other areas less).

 

[dolfette]

Sex is definitely different since the baby. It takes me more foreplay to get aroused, and, sometimes, I'm just too tired and just go through the motions.

Emergency C-section, 9 lb 12 oz baby.

Right after the birth I was very horny, but the drive went down after a couple of months. It went up again after I stopped nursing. I have noticed that the sensitivity all over my body has changed, not just in one area (some areas more than before; other areas less).

how old is he/she now?

 

[HazelGod]

I'm actually a little bit frightened by this notion...but for better or worse, I'm about to find out.

 

[deleted356736]

For my wife who had two children via natural childbirth, there wasn't any noticeable difference in sex. She was just as orgasmic, and still enjoyed sex when she was capable of having it, which was however long it was after birth (three, four weeks I think). She did recover quickly, perhaps due to being African.

The key ingredient to sex drive is testosterone, and having sex with a partner raises testosterone. So if a mother is feeling tired and not sexy, the cure is to have sex. This will increase her testosterone, make her feel sexier, and so it goes on. If she doesn't have sex she will feel even less sexier, and so it goes on. So the cure for a depleted sex drive is to make an effort.

 

[Sassy]

how old is he/she now?

My little man is 6. :veryhappy:

 

[molotovmuffin]

is it different for you?
if so, how?

for me, i have to say yes.
since the birth of my second {10lb 12oz, natural birth} my clit has been far less sensitive...practically numb in comparison to how it was before. once i could orgasm with a few flicks...three minutes and i was there. now i require several minutes of direct contact with a powerful vibe...manually i have to actually cause bruising to get enough stimulation.
i suspect a lot of nerve damage.
likewise, the inside of my vagina is also numbed.
breast feeding reduced nipple sensitivity by only a fraction, which is good.
hormonally, my drive never returned to former levels...though that may have something to do with age.

i have compensated for this feeling of...well, it's like sex with the volume turned down to barely audible...by delving into bdsm. rough sex, because pain is at least some sensation.

your turn!!

Sensations will return..... women loose interest in sex after having babies...its natural. As your children age, you'll notice that you sex drive is returning and different thing turn you on. By the time you hit my age.... or there abouts...your sex drive will be in over load and you'll be fuck factory.

My oldest sister had 3 10lb babies.... the next being larger than one before, the last coming out square shouldered and was hung for about an hour. They dislocated the baby's shoulder to get her out. My sister is 9 yrs older than me.... and you should hear the stories about her sex life! woohoo!!:tongue:

 

[Ramsey]

Hey Dolf, I think my last girl had a similar problem to yours. She had a 4 year old son and she had him naturally but she was still so tight they had to "vacuum suck" him out and he didn't come out til the 3rd try. She must have had some nerve damage, it was nearly impossible to get her to come, and sometimes I'd have trouble fitting into her she was so tight, and she'd barely react, like she barely felt it. Also I'd have to do a lot to get her turned on for sex.

 

[ZOS23xy]

is it different for you?
if so, how?

for me, i have to say yes.
since the birth of my second {10lb 12oz, natural birth} my clit has been far less sensitive...practically numb in comparison to how it was before. once i could orgasm with a few flicks...three minutes and i was there. now i require several minutes of direct contact with a powerful vibe...manually i have to actually cause bruising to get enough stimulation.
i suspect a lot of nerve damage.
likewise, the inside of my vagina is also numbed.
breast feeding reduced nipple sensitivity by only a fraction, which is good.
hormonally, my drive never returned to former levels...though that may have something to do with age.

i have compensated for this feeling of...well, it's like sex with the volume turned down to barely audible...by delving into bdsm. rough sex, because pain is at least some sensation.

your turn!!

My wife had to have a slight opening made since my son was born with his arm wrapped around his neck. It was six months of hand jobs and oral sex before I was allowed vaginal acess. She still needed the points where the stitches were to be massaged and pulled and stretched over time in order to get back to "normal".

Rough sex? nah, not our thing, though I like to be scratched and bitten. Lightly....

 

[L_Lynn]

By the time you hit my age.... or there abouts...your sex drive will be in over load and you'll be fuck factory.

Amen to that sister!! My peak started hitting a couple years ago. I was in a grocery store standing in the check-out line. It was summer and I was in a tank top. The shirtsleeve of the guy behind me just brushed my arm and I spasmed with ecstasy!