Sex and people in their 30s and 40s

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I was catching up with an old friend today. I haven't seen him in a long time. He's in his early-mid-40s. He split from his wife about six months ago. He told me in that time he's dated five different women and had sex with four of them. Two of those four brought up the idea of maybe having threesomes.

He said it's like they're all out there to hook-up and are going after sex like they're angry about their exes and want to make up for lost time and get revenge. He said it's crazy.

I mean, he's not a bad looking guy, but he ain't Zac Efron, either.

Is this what it's like out there for the newly single?
 
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I was catching up with an old friend today. I haven't seen him in a long time. He's in his early-mid-40s. He split from his wife about six months ago. He told me in that time he's dated five different women and had sex with four of them. Two of those four brought up the idea of maybe having threesomes.

He said it's like they're all out there to hook-up and are going after sex like they're angry about their exes and want to make up for lost time and get revenge. He said it's crazy.

I mean, he's not a bad looking guy, but he ain't Zac Efron, either.

Is this what it's like out there for the newly single?
Yup it is. A female co -worker of my wife finally divorced her asshole of a husband. That was over a year ago. In that time she fucked about half of the male executives at work.

It’s a big company with several hundred employees. You might think what about sexual harassment and so forth. Well if you’re blowing the General Manager as part of you weekly duties I don’t think you have to worry.

Funny part is she would tell my wife and all her other coworkers about her sexcapades. She’d describe in detail who was a good lover and who wasn’t. Including the variety and sizes of the cocks on the guys she fucked. It was indeed revenge fucking. But the fact that she shared everything with “The Girls” at work made it even better for her.
 
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I'm a wee bit sceptical of second hand stories of this nature if I'm honest, there is bound to be an element of embellishment. Especially when the stories are recited to still-married friends. Nobody other than your closest friends are likely to tell you they are falling asleep crying into their pillow.

That being said, why not explore before it's too late? I am more inclined to think they are exploring their new found freedom, especially if they feel they have wasted their time previously, rather than it being about revenge. I'm sure some people are that petty, but sometimes it's not all about the ex. As much as they might like to think it is.
 

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Speaking from personal experience recently divorced women in their 40s are crazy horny.

Most recent, co-worker, 42, married/divorced, then engaged and separated after 10yrs although they were still living together and hooking up , i hooked up with her after a few too many at a Christmas party, there was no beating around the bush no nothing she just pulled me aside and told me straight up i looked like i had a big cock and if i came out to the parking lot i was getting a blowjob, i was drunk and horny so i went for it, we ended up back at my place fucking. After that she was hooked, she admittedly watches a lot of porn and her ex fiance wasn't really into trying a lot of the stuff she was interested in, myself on the other hand how could i say no, one of the only women Ive ever had repeatedly ask for facials, sucks cock like its life support, took a little bit of convincing because of my girth but popped her anal cherry and created a damn monster, little more convincing and a lot of lube she was taking me and one of her dildos. This woman wants to fuck so much I've actual had to set some boundaries as far as frequency of our hookups go.

Another one from a couple years ago, 40/41 recently divorced[he cheated or something], also a co worker, ran into her at the pub one night, there was a little bit of flirting and build up but eventually she just came right out and told me she wanted to take me home cause the idea of being fucked by a younger guy was turning her on. Again after that first night she couldn't get enough, got to try out all those cosmo sex positions she'd read about over the years, never could convince her to try anal but she got the house in the divorce and we basically fucked everywhere in that house, she eventually got it out of her system and wanted more than just sex so we ended it.
 
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Speaking from personal experience recently divorced women in their 40s are crazy horny.

Most recent, co-worker, 42, married/divorced, then engaged and separated after 10yrs although they were still living together and hooking up , i hooked up with her after a few too many at a Christmas party, there was no beating around the bush no nothing she just pulled me aside and told me straight up i looked like i had a big cock and if i came out to the parking lot i was getting a blowjob, i was drunk and horny so i went for it, we ended up back at my place fucking. After that she was hooked, she admittedly watches a lot of porn and her ex fiance wasn't really into trying a lot of the stuff she was interested in, myself on the other hand how could i say no, one of the only women Ive ever had repeatedly ask for facials, sucks cock like its life support, took a little bit of convincing because of my girth but popped her anal cherry and created a damn monster, little more convincing and a lot of lube she was taking me and one of her dildos. This woman wants to fuck so much I've actual had to set some boundaries as far as frequency of our hookups go.

Another one from a couple years ago, 40/41 recently divorced[he cheated or something], also a co worker, ran into her at the pub one night, there was a little bit of flirting and build up but eventually she just came right out and told me she wanted to take me home cause the idea of being fucked by a younger guy was turning her on. Again after that first night she couldn't get enough, got to try out all those cosmo sex positions she'd read about over the years, never could convince her to try anal but she got the house in the divorce and we basically fucked everywhere in that house, she eventually got it out of her system and wanted more than just sex so we ended it.

Sounds about right. After being worried about being a “good girl” in my 20’s and suffering through shitty sex with a out of shape small dicked asshole for all of my 30’s, I’m living my sex life to the fullest post divorce in my 40’s. My “monster” was created by a man who was 13 years younger than me and had a banging body and huge cock. He pursued me relentlessly for years and when I was divorced, he pounced. It was good for about two years and then his family made him made a “good girl” and he’s miserable. I now pick one that meets my approval and go for it. I outfuck even some 23 year olds. They get worn out after about 3 sessions and have to rest <eye roll>. Because this is about me, and my pleasure at this point in my life, I don’t go out and pick up randoma and I don’t settle. I pick one and we spend a few months together until mutual cordial decision to part ways. I don’t want more than sex or FWB but some of them have had to set boundaries on How often during the week, cause I would fuck about every spare moment i could . I may have to line up two or three and juggle them so everyone is getting what they need :)
 

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It is 100% true.

I am 46 years old & 2 years separated. I've been with 30+ women over the last 2 years - it IS really expensive, they ARE making up for lost time (many married to dud husbands with low to no sex drive), and these women are all beautiful and longing to feel wanted.

I'm definitely not classically Hollywood handsome or packing porn sized equipment.

I am a rugged type of good looking, endowed with a much larger than average sense of humour, can spell and grammar well and am capable of being warm and kind. Plus a serious oral game that several FFM situations have helped to refine.

Anyway - my point - the world is full of these gorgeous ladies who are freely exploring their sexuality. I fully respect that and am honoured to have been a part of that exploration for the ones I have been with and those yet to cum (bazinga!).
 

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A few things...hmmm...are 40 year-old recently divorced women sexually ready to go.....yes....but let's think about it

Humans are just sexual beings.....i remember college......got 20s something's exploring new things , raging hormones, women ready to GO

Out of college....30s....people desperate to find that someone, career settled and looking for fun...sexual prime....women ready to GO

Now 40s divorced looking to make up for lost time and ready to regain some intimacy...new relationship energy and women ready to GO

Seems there is a pattern....time to face facts that human are sexual beings ....instead of creating excuses to justify that action

As far as revenge....my opinion ....doubt it....i fail to see how some newly single divorced woman giving me a blowjob is revenge.....revenge like asking for classic car in divorce or burning your ex husbands shit in the front yard

Seems we always need an excuse to justify female sexuality....and in this case it's revenge against ex motive....(possibly your friend is projecting)
 

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Especially when the stories are recited to still-married friends. Nobody other than your closest friends are likely to tell you they are falling asleep crying into their pillow.

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Yeah sad dad really does exist....anecdotally....about 3 weeks ago I answered a Craigslist ad....to pick up a tramploline for free all had to do was take it down

I went to this guys house....he tells me how he's getting divorced ....daughter and wife moved so he no longer needs it

About a half hour later he comes out and says..."hey I am making tacos want to stay for dinner"....

I wonder if he told his married friends about .....being so lonely that he asked a weird stranger to have eat dinner together in his large lonely empty house

Now I'm sure this guy ....normal ,socal,good looking guy....can (and probably does) go to The local country bar...slap on a cowboy hat...do the boot scooting boogie and line dance his way into the warm arms of a local single

But does that make up for the lonelyness pain and feeling of failure of packing up .memories of a life , a family and chapter that you thought would last forever
 

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I had a friend who went through this. She was single, but had put years of her own life aside to raise her daughter. She had taken a new job that let her travel a lot. Her daughter had moved out, gotten married and was expecting her first child. So she basically said fuck it, and decided to make up for lost time. She had fuck buddies all over the country. Where ever she happened to be, she was either working hard, or fucking hard, and making no excuses for it.
 

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From a physiological standpoint, women peak sexually in their 30's, guys at around 18-20. By 30 most people start losing inhibitions beaten into them in their formative years, have some decent life experience under their belts, and may have the money to live a bit. Coincidentally a great many marriages will end during the period from 30 to 45, for those still married raising a family will be less of a time demand, and the first signs that life is a finite thing will make their presence felt. All are compelling reasons to explore life beyond prior borders.
 

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I’ve seen it happen all my life with women who married young and suddenly found themselves single in their 40’s.

It’s like they finally get a chance to experience themselves - what they like, what they don’t like, who they are as a person - all the things a single woman normally does in her early 20’s.

A woman who delays marriage until her 30’s and divorces in her 40’s or 50’s doesn’t typically do that kind of thing. She already has a handle on who she is. She’s more likely to spend time really focusing on finding the right person and pleasing herself.

My two cents and based on my observations.
 

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I'm probably an outlier, but speaking as a 47 year old woman who's never been married, my experience has been the reverse. I started my 20s out kinda wild and just got funnier. There's like, literally cobwebs where my vagina used to be.

But I'm happy. If I wanted to, i could live it up sexually. It just turns out I'd rather live it up with streaming tv and cats.
 

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This thread is pretty accurate. I had a female neighbor who was twice divorced with
an adult son away at college. She was making up time, always with a stunning male
by her side. Then things got kind of ugly when a boy toy got jealous and beat the crap
out of her, leaving her with facial scaring and a broken hip. Can be dangerous!
 
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Never married, but I developed an extensive list of sexual partners after getting out of my first longish relationship, that was quite miserable when I was 20. It had nothing to do with revenge. It had nothing to do with my age. I enjoyed my freedom after having almost none. I went from having had a few sexual partners to dozens. Sex is (or can be) fun. I also went out with friends, we t to clubs after turning 21, etc.

Now I'm in my 30s and even if I did for some awful reason part ways with my sweetie, I doubt I would have the same desire to go "wild".
 
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I must be the odd duck because I didn’t marry until I was 31. Has a hellacious good time until then but really wasn’t confident inside about sex or my body (god knows why). It was more a Perfomance and a way to keep a boyfriend (on the rare occasions I would have sex ) in prior to marriage. Post divorce I have discovered I have a big libido. I just needed to be in a good space, have some life experiences, and meet the right person who felt I was a damn treasure sexually and otherwise
I’ve seen it happen all my life with women who married young and suddenly found themselves single in their 40’s.

It’s like they finally get a chance to experience themselves - what they like, what they don’t like, who they are as a person - all the things a single woman normally does in her early 20’s.

A woman who delays marriage until her 30’s and divorces in her 40’s or 50’s doesn’t typically do that kind of thing. She already has a handle on who she is. She’s more likely to spend time really focusing on finding the right person and pleasing herself.

My two cents and based on my observations.
 
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I must be the odd duck because I didn’t marry until I was 31. Has a hellacious good time until then but really wasn’t confident inside about sex or my body (god knows why). It was more a Perfomance and a way to keep a boyfriend (on the rare occasions I would have sex ) in prior to marriage. Post divorce I have discovered I have a big libido. I just needed to be in a good space, have some life experiences, and meet the right person who felt I was a damn treasure sexually and otherwise
If you don’t do it before, you do it after. That’s kind of my point. If you weren’t confident about your body and didn’t take advantage, then you might do it later.