I have been with different types of girls. Some where loose, others tight, and some too tight. No matter what I always try to get the best out of it, and there are rarely any real complications during sex. I realize some guys are so big, that they can really hurt their girls. In this thread we are not going to discuss how nice big dicks are, and comments about how you or some girl can take all of yours are not welcome here. Instead I want us to discuss where the boarder between acceptable pain and unacceptable pain is. More specifically: if you are with a girl and she tells you it hurts, how is the sex to continue? We all know that some people don't feel like aborting the intercourse for various reasons (for instance psychological pressure), and in those cases the question is what kind of behaviour is acceptable? When do you cross the boarder between having sex that is slightly uncomfortable and actual abuse? I found a video that made me feel really sad. It is a beautiful young girl and a black male. He is quite wellendowed and she is clearly in pain. She asks him, in a sad voice, to please finish up quickly since it hurts: This cock is just too big for her To me, that is a clear cut case of abuse no matter how you turn it. And I guess most guys (and girls) have been in situations like it, maybe in variying degrees. She doesn't tell him to stop, but still it seems like abuse is documented in the video. What are your thoughts about this? How are we to single out cases of rape/abuse from just plain uncomfortable sex? How do we determine when a girl chooses freely to finish painful sex from cases where her consent should clearly inauthentic? And what kind of responsibility is on the guys shoulders? What is benign neglect, what is stupid neglect, and when does it become moraly abominable neglect?