Sex Changed After 3 Months Of Relationship.

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Hi guys, I have to ask you something.

I am a person who thinks a lot and questions myself.

I am gay, 29 years old. My longest relationship broke up in December after 8 years.

I have a new partner for 3 months now, and we are already living together.
In the beginning the sex was just great, the best I've ever had. He was different from everyone else, very passionate, he wanted to fuck me all the time and couldn't keep his fingers off me. He always ate my ass bevor sex and generally always said how important sex is to him.
When I kissed him, his cock was up immediately and his underwear was full of precum.

Now after 3 months of relationship this has changed completely, the sex has become much less. Often we just suck each other and when it comes to sex I am the one who takes the first step, hardly nothing comes from him. He no longer rims me, he didn't leak precum anymore, he is no longer as passionate and wild as in the beginning (which I loved).

Otherwise the relationship is going great, I've never had someone where matches me so perfect.

I have to say, after my outing, he's my 2 relationship.

Do you think I'm worrying too much?
I then immediately think he doesn't find me attractive anymore (although he always tells me how good I look)
 

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Could be any one of a few things...
Sex drives ebb and flow. It happens. Most people aren't "on" 100% of the time.

Could be the newness of the relationship has diminished. The rush... The adrenaline kick.. The kid in a candy store energy..
For some, it just declines.

Could be he's putting stress on himself to perform at a very high level for you and is afraid of coming up short/disappointing you... So, he's pulling back/lowering the bar a bit.

Worst case scenario is that he's over it, because it's not new and exciting any more.

This all happens in straight relationships, too.

If it goes on for too long, you'll need to break down and ask him, of course.

My 2¢... Don't be accusatory. Use a caring, gentle approach. It'll make it less likely he'll get defensive.... Which may make things worse.

There's always the other side of the coin, too.... Maybe your expectations are higher than what he can accommodate.

Good luck!
I hope it all works out for you