I'm noticing more and more that I'm finding myself very unsatisfied sexually, in my relationship. I've had several talks with my girlfriend about it, and, at this point, I'm just tired of bringing it up. If I start something, she'll go along with it, and says she enjoys it (and seems to, as well); she's never turned me down, though. But I get tired of always coming onto her. It's fun to have a girl come to you for sex. It's hot. But when I just leave things to her, the days just go by, and no sex. She tells me I have a really high sex drive; she says that she thought she was a sex freak before she met me, and now she's in awe of me. She insists that she really likes our sex--loves it--and the only reason we don't do it more often is that she's often tired from work or other things like that. I guess I'm just confused now, and curious. I never really considered myself to have an overly high sex drive; I'd be happy with once a day, though twice would be better on average. Obviously there's sex sprees and such, but I'd say that, for me, averaging 2 or so times a day (unless there was opportunities for "nooners" or whatever) would be pretty ideal. I'm horny all day, every few hours or so. In contrast, she says she gets horny "maybe" once a day, though sometimes there's days when she doesn't.
Comments on sex drive - yours and/or your (ex/)partner(s)?
"Everyone" says that guys are generally more horny than women, but these days I don't really believe that. I have lots of female friends, many of which confide in me things of sexual nature. Sure, guys advertise being horny more often, but my experience with women has led me to believe that (obviously, generally speaking) women are pretty much just as horny as guys; they just don't advertise it, because people are so quick to throw out the "slut" label.
It just seems very bizarre to me to go an entire day without being horny once, rough times excluded. I'm just having a hard time with this sex deficiency. Sure, I could always just initiate it and have as much sex as I wanted, but I guess I'm too self-conscious for that: to me, being the 'horny one' all the time and always initiating the sex is kind've like being that one friend who is always calling everyone else, and never gets called. It gets to me after awhile. I mean, I'm the kinda guy who would like to wake up & have sex, get ready, go to work... come home, have sex, and then maybe have some more before we go to sleep later on. Does that make me a "nympho"? Or do I have a girl who's exhibiting a low sex drive?
And, since I'm sure someone is going to bring it up and call me all sorts of shallow and self-centered, no, I don't think sex is the only thing in a relationship, nor am I a womanizer or anything of the sort. My post is merely limited to the sexual aspect of our relationship.
Comments on sex drive - yours and/or your (ex/)partner(s)?
"Everyone" says that guys are generally more horny than women, but these days I don't really believe that. I have lots of female friends, many of which confide in me things of sexual nature. Sure, guys advertise being horny more often, but my experience with women has led me to believe that (obviously, generally speaking) women are pretty much just as horny as guys; they just don't advertise it, because people are so quick to throw out the "slut" label.
It just seems very bizarre to me to go an entire day without being horny once, rough times excluded. I'm just having a hard time with this sex deficiency. Sure, I could always just initiate it and have as much sex as I wanted, but I guess I'm too self-conscious for that: to me, being the 'horny one' all the time and always initiating the sex is kind've like being that one friend who is always calling everyone else, and never gets called. It gets to me after awhile. I mean, I'm the kinda guy who would like to wake up & have sex, get ready, go to work... come home, have sex, and then maybe have some more before we go to sleep later on. Does that make me a "nympho"? Or do I have a girl who's exhibiting a low sex drive?
And, since I'm sure someone is going to bring it up and call me all sorts of shallow and self-centered, no, I don't think sex is the only thing in a relationship, nor am I a womanizer or anything of the sort. My post is merely limited to the sexual aspect of our relationship.