Sex Drive?

[AtYourCervix10]

Guys, I just left my 30s and I've noticed a shift where I don't really think about or care about sex as much as I use to. It's REALLY odd because for all my life, girls and sex has been a primary focus and motivation in my life. I mean, now I'm finally starting to feel..."normal."

Mentally and emotionally, I'm not as preoccupied with hooking up with girls all the time, and I find myself bored with porn... it's weird.

While i love and am grateful in many ways for that demon and ever-present urge to seem to be waning, is this something that any other men have noticed in their lives as they've gotten older?

thanks!

 

[EllieP]

Maybe you're maturing into what you're supposed to be. Your sexuality is becoming more discerning.

I really believe porn desensitizes a human being away from one's true sexuality. You're probably finally recognizing that and responding to it.

I'd be interested to hear what other men have to say.

 

[karch]

First, thank u Ellie for your perspective in another thread I started. I will be 43 in a couple weeks. Been married over 10 yes and together over 17 yes. When I hit 40, all I wanted to do was screw my wife. Bad. With a then 5 yr old and my wife changing shifts, it was hell. Still is. I sleep with my wife 2 nights a week. The anomolie in all this is last year I was diagnosed with low T. Dr asked about my sex drive and told him its through the roof. Started shots for HRT, and all I wanna do is bang my wife whenever I see her. Anyway, when my wife turned 40 3 years ago, I realized what a gorgeous, beautiful 5'3" 110lb WOMAN she became. My libido is what is was 25 years ago because of who and what my wife has blossomed into

 

[puckman4]

that seemed to happen overnight, it's usually a slow progression

 

[elklindoxxx]

Maybe you're maturing into what you're supposed to be. Your sexuality is becoming more discerning.

I really believe porn desensitizes a human being away from one's true sexuality. You're probably finally recognizing that and responding to it.

I'd be interested to hear what other men have to say.

That's really true. I've read somewhere that doctors are reporting males in their 20s are reporting erectile dysfunction to a much greater extent in the past. And they believe its from the porn or too much of it.

And there was medical reason for it, getting too excited from porn causes a chemical inbalance in the brain, or something like that.

At 42, my sex drive is no different than it was 20 years ago. I get out of the shower every morning and give my self a quick rub without cumming. Drive to work thinking about banging the girl with nice tatas at work. This morning I popped wood following the bubble butt girl from HR in the hallway, had to pull down my sweater to cover up...LOL...

A few times after I've left the gym, I've jerked off while driving home. Its almost like softcore porn at the gym.

 

[MuscledHorse]

Your testosterone levels also drop over time, with a fairly large decrease occurring in the 40's. Other things that contribute to test levels, according to published scientific studies, include marriage (no longer on the prowl), obesity, and certain medications (including some antidepressants). If this continues or is bothersome, have your physician check your testosterone levels.

 

[philip92]

Yeah most instances of Low T is partially due to age, but also diet, current body fat percentage, and exercise have a huge factor. If you engage in regular exercise (primarily weight lifting), have a good diet, and keep body fat percentage under control most people will not see the same decline in testosterone as someone who doesn't follow that protocol.

 

[Daisy]

Thats why I only date young guys. I like insta-boners.

 

[HiddenLacey]

Thats why I only date young guys. I like insta-boners.

I feel the need to chest/ fist bump you for this answer:tongue:

Maybe this is a reason more women are dating younger men than ever before? I find the older I get the higher my sex drive climbs. I'm still searching for the top.

Interesting answers from the guys.

 

[Daisy]

I'm not kidding. If I look at him sideways he gets a boner. It's all erections all the time. Once he hits 40 I'm trading him in for a younger model :wink:

 

[Bashful_man]

Didn't see any change until I hit 50 and at that time I started having health problems and blamed it on medications that I was on at that time, sense I have injured my back and taking lots of pain meds and it has caused me to slow down even more. The urge is still there, even if I can't perform as well.

 

[karch]

Maybe I didn't explain myself properly. My desires and libido were very high BEFORE I got tested. That's the anomolie. Low sex drive was NOT a symptom. My Dr. found this very contradicting to what I should of been feeling in that department. Its as if my lust for my wife was/is greater than the hormone driving the lust. Like I said once she turned 40, l looked at her entirely different. Sex drive for last 3 years is great. Before T therapy and now even greater after T therapy.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

More BS double standards. If i post in a section that i'm only interested in having sex with women, I get lynched. And she posts how she only to screw younger guys because they are" instant boners" and goes by unscathed??? That'd be like me posting a comment, "I only sleep with young girls because their pussies are tighter..." such an absurd double standard.

Anyway, i don't want to take away from my post though.

I guess part of my point is.. is that i don't mind my waning sex drive. I mean, I think back on all the time and money and energy i wasted chasing women, putting up with their nonsense, doing anything so they'd sleep with me... it's absurd.

I feel a little bit more civilized and human. Finding other things to fill my life with besides sex, like good books, music, movies, etc.. I actually find it refreshing and wonderful. I hope it's not something I need to see a doctor about.

Thats why I only date young guys. I like insta-boners.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

i don't really think that's a thing. I think one could make the same insipid counter-argument that "that's why older men chase younger women."

I feel the need to chest/ fist bump you for this answer:tongue:

Maybe this is a reason more women are dating younger men than ever before? I find the older I get the higher my sex drive climbs. I'm still searching for the top.

Interesting answers from the guys.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

Thanks for contributing. I think i posed the question to "Guys" not whatever you are.

I'm not kidding. If I look at him sideways he gets a boner. It's all erections all the time. Once he hits 40 I'm trading him in for a younger model :wink:

 

[AtYourCervix10]

I don't know. I see these Testosterone commercials on TV and I feel like our culture and society has testosterone pumping out of our ears. I feel like women have more testosterone than men... or at least strive to. I think it's very sad. It'd be nice if women embraced their femininity as opposed to aspiring to be as masculine as men.

Maybe I didn't explain myself properly. My desires and libido were very high BEFORE I got tested. That's the anomolie. Low sex drive was NOT a symptom. My Dr. found this very contradicting to what I should of been feeling in that department. Its as if my lust for my wife was/is greater than the hormone driving the lust. Like I said once she turned 40, l looked at her entirely different. Sex drive for last 3 years is great. Before T therapy and now even greater after T therapy.

 

[AtYourCervix10]

well, i should mention that i also just had a 3some with 2 women last week and it was pretty anticlimactic. It just seemed to be more trouble than fun. at the end of it, i just wanted to be home alone in my bed by myself. too much drama, craziness and work. i just longed for the peace and quiet and tranquility of being home alone.

that seemed to happen overnight, it's usually a slow progression

 

[visorkols]

Mid 20s & just the effort needed to get laid has made me be content with jacking off whenever I had the urge to, though thats mostly between 8-12pm when im getting ready to sleep & theres nothing to do before falling asleep so sometimes I rub one out. If only I could find a girl to marry who enjoyed sex but would be content with masturbating to an orgasm or getting eating out to an orgasm.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

I'd like to ask, do you think you'd be interested in finding a lady to spend time with now outside of just hooking up? Someone to enjoy your new hobbies with?

I really am curious, this is an honest question.. I'm not trolling or trying to be a bitch.

Btw, I saw you tell Daisy you posted this question to the guys, I'd just like to point out this is an open forum where anyone can reply.. if you were looking strictly for male responses, you should've posted this thread in the Ask A Man forum.

 

[someperson]

Guys, I just left my 30s and I've noticed a shift where I don't really think about or care about sex as much as I use to. It's REALLY odd because for all my life, girls and sex has been a primary focus and motivation in my life. I mean, now I'm finally starting to feel..."normal."

Mentally and emotionally, I'm not as preoccupied with hooking up with girls all the time, and I find myself bored with porn... it's weird.

While i love and am grateful in many ways for that demon and ever-present urge to seem to be waning, is this something that any other men have noticed in their lives as they've gotten older?

thanks!

something I have noticed is my sex drive is effected by my stress level


higher my stress level the higher my drive