Sex Education

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  1. PussyWellington

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    I remember the book well, "Where we come from". I was about nine years old and I remember my mum giving it to me and saying "read this". Then she left. No discussion....nothing. It was never mentioned again. Well I sat down on the bed and opened into a few pages and well...what did I see....I saw pictures of people "stuck together"...I was shocked at first but then I felt some tingles. I quickly closed the book. I decided I needed to hide it. So I hid it underneath my dolls bed's mattress. Well, that book didn't stay there long. I became fascinated.


    Before long I grew bored and needed some new pictures.......off to the bookshop. Now my hometown is very small.......everybody knows everybody. But that didn't worry me...straight down there. After about five quick flicks of a porno, the owner told me to get home. I was shitting myself that he would tell my father.

    Maybe six months after that we had school sex education. All I remember from that was how to stick condoms on zucchinis (rather large ones I must admit, which gave me a good start early in life). Living on a farm also provided hands on education....my mother had horses and thoose stallions certainly gave me something to think about. :eek: I also had the very unlucky job of having to castrate the calves....

    So my point is.....what are your experiences and memories of "sex education" from your parents or school.
     
  2. TylerDurden

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    Sex education in school, for me, consisted of several overheads, monotone movies, and a teacher who was ashamed of the subject matter. As for parents...not much better - I've been both blessed and cursed with older parents, so they see sex as something that you keep hush-hush about.

    I learned mostly everything on my own, through reading, conversations, and practical experiences...
     
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    When I was about 10, my mother handed me a book on reproduction written by a nun (seriously!), and slunk out of the room. The pictures were crappy and the text made sure that I was aware any underage sex would not be enjoyable, and that heterosexuality was the only option.

    Later that year, we had supposed 'sex education classes' at school, but what this really meant was that an embarassed teacher let a different schools-service video play each week, with no chance of discussion, and no sign of sex or sexuality beyond some badly-drawn animated figures.

    Tsk, it's a wonder I turned out normal at all :rolleyes:
     
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    In 7th grade, they split up the biology classes in to guys and the girls. They passed out textbooks for the two-week class.

    Every sentence started off with "When you're older," or "When you get married,"

    Even the abstinance discussion was all in analogies. Something to the effect of... My key was meant to unlock my Chevy pick-up truck and my truck only. I may be able to unlock another Chevy if I try really hard, but my key was only meant for one truck. and that's when you know when to get married.

    This is the same teacher who said excessive masturbation led to homosexuality. He never said what homosexuality or masturbation were. I looked them up in the glossary. I freaked. I stopped jerking off. A few days later, I had my one and only wet dream - about a guy. Now, we didn't cover wet dreams either, but my 6th grade phys. ed. coach had cracked a few jokes about them in the lockerroom, and then said it'll start happening to all of us "soon".

    We watched slides and movies of all kinds of diseased genitals for two weeks. There wasn't a healthy dick, ass, or vag on there. Every time he explained a new disease, the last sentence was "This won't happen if you get married."
     
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    Huh. When I was 11 my mom caught me looking through her own H.S. text, written during the 1940s I think. It was all technical information. She sat down and we discussed puberty. She said "and this will happen, and that will happen...". and I was sitting there thinking "and that has happened and that has happened...".

    I'd been through most of puberty by that time.

    In school, we got some basic anatomy and minor relationship oriented stuff ("when a boy and girl...") in 6th grade (about the same time). I'm just glad that while I was an early bloomer most ways, I didn't really start growing "down stairs" until well after that - there were a lot of penis size references, all of them about 'Normal' (rather than average).


    Then we got it again in 9th grade "health science" class (from a very good looking sports coach who was pretty well endowed himself). This time it included the cucumber/condom demonstration. Then we got it again in 10th grad biology.

    School was really all about mechanics, and of course it was all heterosexual mechanics.
     
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    I remember sex ed in school. It was all the biological info and a casual mention about the emotional responsibility involved. It was handled a lot like they were teaching us the reproductive system of trilobites or something. All very boring. I remember being disappointed there was no info about gay sex. Of course, I sure as hell couldn't ask about it. They gave us a little booklet that I think mentioned the word homosexuality once. It didn't refer to it as being wrong just uncommon. It didn't even actually say what the word meant though. I got zero sex education from my parents other than my mother telling me quite often that I needed to get some pussy cause apparently that's the solution for every adolescent problem.
     
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    When I was seven, I watched as my father put together the garden hoses so that he could fill up our above-ground pool. He kept saying, "Male into female, male into female. . ." When I asked him what this meant, he told me, "Well, when a man and a woman have sex, the man sticks his penis into the woman." These words were the first education I ever got on the subject.

    When I was in sixth grade, we had a regular ol' video. I watched it, gaining no new knowledge, as by now my mother had gone over everything Christian-style. As we had just come from phys. ed., I was sore from floor hockey. When the lights came back on, I stretched. Everyone thought that I had fallen asleep through the movie. A couple of days of laughs ensued.

    In tenth grade, our phys. ed./health teacher was a guy named Mr. Onoff. J.O., as he was called (and wanted to be called, for some strange reason), wore those pants made by Bike -- light blue. He had an unmistakable, huge bulge -- enough for even the most homophobic of guys in our school wonder aloud at how big he was. It was also quite creepy, as he was pushing 60, was not very distinguished-looking, and his main job was to teach teenagers about sexual health. Ew.

    -Z

    My two cents bought me some good sex ed.
     
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    Excuse me? NO teenager in America is to be taught, exposed to or educated about anything to do with sex. Sex is limited to procreation and is not to be considered pleasurable. Don't worry about all the unwanted prenancies, STD's. Just say no.
     
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    Sex education in my high school was a big joke. There is a big trend toward abstinence only now that the fundies are in power. Condoms were mentioned just once and that was to tell us that they were unreliable as safeguards against pregnancy and aids. There was certainly no demonstration of how to put a condom on a vegetable. The message was that sex outside of marriage is bad, real bad. Masturbation is sex without the need for your spouse so it's real bad. Porn leads to masturbation so it's real bad. Anything but abstinence or sex with your husband or wife is bad. And they want us to have a healthy and natural view of sex? That's hard to do when nobody teaches us a healthy natural view.
     
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    Quoted for truth.

    We learned about puberty in fifth grade, nothing fancy or special.

    I think 7th or 8th grade we had sex. ed. in our health class. I'm surprised now just how neutral they were about sexuality and monogomy. Being in South Carolina I would expect them to be very anti-homosexual and pro-marriage and all that jazz - what with being stuck in the middle of the Bible Belt and all. All the teacher really said about monogomy was that we were much less prone to STDs if we had sex with fewer people and we did some math to prove it statistically.

    He discussed sexuality a bit and told us that "everyone is different" and we shouldn't judge people on that. He asked me if I would make fun of one of my friends in that class just because he was black. I said something about not really understanding racism and he said something about how I should be the same way about people's sexuality. It's just something about who they are, nothing right or wrong about it.

    He also told us to talk to the counselors if we had any questions about sexuality because he was straight and didn't know much of anything about how anybody else does anything. It was really funny, but maybe you just had to know the guy. He was an oustanding teacher.

    10th grade biology rehashed stuff, but we pretty much all knew all the important stuff by then. The teacher pulled out a condom but didn't put it on anything. I was too embarrassed to say anything about the size of it. I figured if I asked, "Do they make them in different sizes?" I get people assuming I'm small and spreading rumors and that's just dumb and annoying. If I asked, "Do they make them bigger?" I would get a bunch of nasty looks from the other guys followed by rumors that I'm small.

    I've never really cared much about what people thought or said of me, but I still tried to avoid the drama mill that is public high school. There was more than enough gossip about my girlfriend and I (together and seperate) as it was.

    Edit: My 10th grade bio. teacher also said something to all the guys like, "I'm not your mom and I'm not going to tell you what to do, but there are a lot of risks involved with having sex at this stage in your life. Every one of you has a girlfriend that will never give you an STD and never leave you." She held up her right hand. "Use her if you need to!"

    It was hilarious!
     
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    around the age of 14 my father told me a few things i should keep in mind during the next few years of my life

    1. dont get a girl pregnant
    2. dont get arrested
    3. graduate highschool
    4. get a Bachelors Degree from a well known University
    5. dont get a girl pregnant


    so far i have done them all correctly
     
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    wow sex ed has really changed over the years
    38yo here one of the few benifits from the hippy/flower power generation was they tried to give us a healthy view of sex and nudity that you can be naked just to be naked you dont have to have sex or even play but it is a natural thing.
    I have tried to be a good influence on my niece now 22 and my nephew getting ready to turn 21.
    they are more comfortable with nudity because we did not make a big deal about covering up.
    my nephew does with he were as big as his uncle but he is totally straight.
    more later
     
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    I grew up in a small town, but the school district was one of the first in the state to have a sex-ed class. It wasn't purty, but it was something. It occurrred in the sixth grade, spring quarter "health."

    The boys had a young guy, but the girls had an old-maid teacher who wasn't very forthcoming. After a couple of years some parents objected that the girls' teacher really wasn't qualified, so the class shifted to a married woman, but she had no kids and an alcoholic husband, so even in junior high we assumed there was no sex at their house.

    The guys' teacher was more effective; eventually we kids noticed that nine months after the spring sex class his wife would deliver a child. So he knew what he was talking about. Nice guy, too.

    I was lucky that my parents explained the "basics" when I was maybe fourth grade, and I just "picked up" the rest. I do remember being terrified when I read the Boy Scout Handbook that warned about jacking off. I had been doing it a lot for quite a while. Sure enough, I went blind and my dick fell off. But I grew a new one and it's almost 8 inches long. Bless the Boy Scout Handbook!
     
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    LOL :biggrin1:

    but does "she" get jealous if you cheat with the left? or does it turn into a 3some?
     
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    I'm a bit of a switch hitter so left is the norm for me, but there haven't been any problems with a threesome to date. :p
     
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    We got sex education (if you want to call it that) in both 6th and 8th grades. In 6th, we were separated by gender and in 8th, it was co-ed. I don't remember much of either, but am pretty sure the teachers (which were the same ones we had as our home room teachers) kept it pretty clinical. We didn't even get the condom on a cucumber demonstration.

    I don't recall any sex talks with either of my parents, so I guess they just thought the school took care of all of our questions. Ha.

    I guess in the end, that means I'm pretty much self-taught in this arena. Another example of practice makes perfect (and I probably need a lot more practice). :biggrin1:
     
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    During my Farm Boy upbringing I was able to see the animals conduct their procreation activities. Of course this caused my mind to function as to what my body parts were fore.

    I do believe that I was about 8 or 9 years old when my parents informed me about sexual intercourse. The male penis into the female virgina. The semen would be expelled and the entire act would be sensational.

    Not like the Artifical Insemmination Man who came to service the cows on our dairy farm, sexual intercourse was a pleasurable act and should be confined to a married couple.

    Now, to see if my plumbing worked, it was not long before I came up with the idea of working my penis with my hand/s to see if I could shoot semen. It worked. I became a frequent semen checker. At one time in my teen-age years I became concerned that I would run our of sperm/semen before I had the opportunity to father children in marriage. I would refrain from masturbation for a period of time, probably no more than a week and then back at it to see if I still could.

    I also recall that during my religious training at the ages of 13 and 14 prior to being Confirmed in the Faith that we were informed that "To lay with a person of the same sex was a great sin."

    I believed that and still do.

    The real sex education concerning all the problems of bad sex, or sex with the wrong people was during Basic Training in the U. S. Military. We saw some of the most horrific movies known to humankind. This is what you can become if you engage in sex with someone who has a disease.

    Then, just prior to my first deployment on a U. S. Navy Ship, the entire crew of young, horny seaman was required to view even more graphic movies. Yes, this was a long time ago.

    But I still believe that there are bugs out there. One has to be careful.

    So Much for Hung's Sex Education.
     
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    By the time I got "the talk" from Dad, I was sexually active. My sex ed in school was great. She was an unassuming, sweet teacher with an absolutely unwavering set of nerves. She couldn't be embarrassed. She's the one who put a rubber over a watermelon (slowly).
     
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    I had nothing in school, nor from my parents. I was in high school in 60's. Small town. Sex was verboten. I was in 8th grade when a friend gave me a book about sex she had read, not a clue where she got it, and then I snuck my first romance novel and remember breaking out in a sweat and breathing heavy.

    What's worse, is that I didn't have my first orgasm until into my 20's and married with 2 children. And I didn't even know it, I equated exhaustion with satisfaction. No lie. My first husband only thought about himself and I was so sexually uneducated that I didn't realize what clitoral response was. Masturbating was unthinkable coming from such a conservative upbringing, I just thought that was what guys did.

    I'll never forget my first orgasm. Had a talk show on while doing housework one day, hubby at work, kids gone and heard what women could do. Somebody posted here the other day about using an electric toothbrush and I was ROTFLMAO as that was my first clitoral orgasm, the back side of the brush, not the bristles or I would not have lived to tell about it! Lord, I thought I was going to swallow my teeth! How liberating!
     
  20. exwhyzee

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    My mom never talked about anything sexual with me.

    The only things my dad ever said:
    1) Keep your pecker out of the paycheck, and
    2) while dropping me off at a two-week internship with a gay guy he said "dont let him do anything to you that you dont want him to do".

    Thats the extent of my sex ed. The rest I learned through luck and pluck.
     
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