Me neither. Even if they look like Olivier Martinez, there needs to be something that draws me to them and if we don't get along, it's not going to work. I might make an exception for Olivier Martinez though...I don't think I've ever had sex unaccompanied by some kind of emotion (other than lust/desire, which for me, like Gisella, are so powerful that they do tend to overshadow all other feelings during the act itself).
The vast majority of the time, I had feelings of fondness and friendship for the person. I pretty much never had sex with anyone I wasn't fond of.
I plead guilty as well. At the time I thought of it as a "guilty pleasure".Sometimes, I felt feelings of pride, because I had made a "conquest." (Shallow, but unfortunately true).![]()
For me, love can be intertwined with sex but it doesn't have to be. Again, that depends on whether or not i've made the decision to love that person.But really, it was never love, and still isn't most of the time (TM knows I love him, and sometimes we "make love," but for me, love is not a central theme of sex). He knows this, by the way, and accepts it about me.
Isn't it interesting how we're always told that women can't have sex without love? It may be true for some women but I think other women have been led to believe that about themselves when it isn't necessarily so.For me, love and lust are always separate, never intertwined. I may be feeling both, but I don't confuse one with the other.