Sex favorable .... libidoist?

[nhguy78]

Hey all,

Recently came upon the term libidoist. It seems to straddle the asexual orientation or another word for sex favorable and cupiosexual. Having sex merely for the pleasure. Doing sexual things merely for the pleasure.

What are your thoughts?

 

[deleted19151801]

I'm still trying to figure out all of the subclasses of asexuality as it is, so I'm not sure what this would be considered, or if it could even be considered distinct from any of the other subclasses that already exist.

All in all, I like to keep it simple: if you don't experience sexual attraction at all, you're just asexual. Being asexual never meant one lacked a libido or sexual desire, that sexual desire is just not directed at other people.

I would argue that the desire to have sex with someone contradicts what it means to be asexual because one is experiencing sexual desire for another person. That is literally the definition of sexual attraction; having sexual desire for another person. Asexuals do not experience sexual desire for others because we don't experience sexual attraction. If we do experience sexual desire, it is mostly autoerotic in nature and directed at no one (i.e. having a libido).

 

[playklax01]

Having sex merely for the pleasure. Doing sexual things merely for the pleasure.

What are your thoughts?

Like someone who just wants to get their rocks off? That sounds like a lot of people though. I picture like a straight guy going to a homely prostitute. He doesn't find her attractive, he's not looking for anything deep, just a quickie to feel the pleasure, then he's out the door. Am I interpreting what you state correctly?

 

[deleted19151801]

Like someone who just wants to get their rocks off? That sounds like a lot of people though. I picture like a straight guy going to a homely prostitute. He doesn't find her attractive, he's not looking for anything deep, just a quickie to feel the pleasure, then he's out the door. Am I interpreting what you state correctly?

I honestly don't understand this sort of situation. There are plenty of instances where sexual people will have sex with another person they are otherwise not sexually attracted to just for the pleasure. I don't understand putting oneself through that when one can simply masturbate. If it's just a casual, NSA, scenario, there are no emotions involved, so the "emotional connection/intimacy" reason, that most asexuals who engage in sex with a partner use, does not apply here.

So, why do many sexuals have casual sex with people they're not sexually attracted to when they can just masturbate to take care of that specific urge? When non-sex repulsed asexuals do it with a partner, at least there is an emotional bond and commitment involved. What do sexuals get out of pursuing sex with a non-partner they're not sexually attracted to? I'm genuinely curious and confused by this.

 

[playklax01]

I honestly don't understand this sort of situation. There are plenty of instances where sexual people will have sex with another person they are otherwise not sexually attracted to just for the pleasure. I don't understand putting oneself through that when one can simply masturbate. If it's just a casual, NSA, scenario, there are no emotions involved, so the "emotional connection/intimacy" reason, that most asexuals who engage in sex with a partner use, does not apply here.

So, why do many sexuals have casual sex with people they're not sexually attracted to when they can just masturbate to take care of that specific urge? When non-sex repulsed asexuals do it with a partner, at least there is an emotional bond and commitment involved. What do sexuals get out of pursuing sex with a non-partner they're not sexually attracted to? I'm genuinely curious and confused by this.

Totally agree! I'm one of those who cannot have casual sex with someone I don't know and/or have no connection with. I've done it before, but gain nothing from it. I don't get it... Just masturbate, the end result is the same.

 

[nhguy78]

I don't understand it. I'm legit curious if anyone's heard this before.

Emotional connection would be wonderful but sometimes, especially since I've already experienced things in the past I still want to experience those things. I could care less what someone looks like if they can make me feel what I requested at the time.

 

[deleted19151801]

I don't understand it. I'm legit curious if anyone's heard this before.

Emotional connection would be wonderful but sometimes, especially since I've already experienced things in the past I still want to experience those things. I could care less what someone looks like if they can make me feel what I requested at the time.

This just sounds like a sexual person with a low sex drive, to me. If you ever want to experience sex with another person, especially sans emotional connection, that doesn't sound asexual. Asexuals don't desire sex with other people. And demisexuals, specifically, don't experience sexual attraction without an emotional connection.

I don't ever, and have never, genuinely wanted sex with another person. I always did it within the confines of a relationship because my partner wanted it. I never wanted it. Because I don't experience sexual attraction.

So, I'm not sure what this is. Sorry.

 

[nhguy78]

This just sounds like a sexual person with a low sex drive, to me. If you ever want to experience sex with another person, especially sans emotional connection, that doesn't sound asexual. Asexuals don't desire sex with other people. And demisexuals, specifically, don't experience sexual attraction without an emotional connection.

I don't ever, and have never, genuinely wanted sex with another person. I always did it within the confines of a relationship because my partner wanted it. I never wanted it. Because I don't experience sexual attraction.

So, I'm not sure what this is. Sorry.

I can't pick out anyone I'd want to have sex with. No one. Because aseuxality for me is not experiencing sexual attraction. I fantasize about what I'd like to experience.

 

[deleted19151801]

I can't pick out anyone I'd want to have sex with. No one. Because aseuxality for me is not experiencing sexual attraction. I fantasize about what I'd like to experience.

Perhaps we're in our heads too much.

I have been told such on numerous occasions.

 

[playklax01]

I can't pick out anyone I'd want to have sex with. No one. Because aseuxality for me is not experiencing sexual attraction. I fantasize about what I'd like to experience.

I read something that someone wrote elsewhere from this site that put it perfectly. "I can't even picture the perfect partner for me." Fits demi and aces.

Picturing scenarios and experiences is what gets me going, not people. There are people involved in the fantasies but they're not anyone in particular. They're just amalgams of what I want them to do, how I want them to be, very generic.

 

[nhguy78]

I read something that someone wrote elsewhere from this site that put it perfectly. "I can't even picture the perfect partner for me." Fits demi and aces.

Picturing scenarios and experiences is what gets me going, not people. There are people involved in the fantasies but they're not anyone in particular. They're just amalgams of what I want them to do, how I want them to be, very generic.

Yes, I very much relate to this. Scenarios, not people.

If someone were able to wave a magic wand and I suddenly find myself in the scenario in my mind what would I do? I might freak. I might enjoy it.

 

[merc41]

Once you get passed love and lust what is there? Recreational sex is fun,pleasurable and healthy. Mentally and physically. I should say very pleasurable!

 

[deleted19151801]

Once you get passed love and lust what is there? Recreational sex is fun,pleasurable and healthy. Mentally and physically. I should say very pleasurable!

So is masturbation. Equally so, as far as I'm concerned. I don't understand the point of involving another person when love and lust are both excluded from the equation. Why have them there? For what? Serious question.