Snoozan, I have rea elsewhere some women that are put off by *doggy* or as has been renamed here *rutting* or *frombe* style sex on the first sex date. Is doggy too impersonal for a first encounter?
It really depends. I'm really shy at first when it comes to sex, so I wouldn't suggest it, but if he wanted to try it, I'd be fine to give it a shot. More what I meant with my first post was about sex I've had that goes something like this:
a little foreplay, and then insertion all the way fast, and then furious fucking, put into different positions without asking or cooperation, and then fucking the shit out of me to the point where i'm sore. the times this has happened i've walked away wondering if he actually cared at all about my pleasure because i and my responses weren't even a factor in the sex we just had. this one guy in particular did that, and it was all about him and his ego. he kept yelling, "take it! take it!" to me and fucking me as hard as he could. i didn't enjoy it all that much and i wouldn't fuck him again.
now, that kind of sex can be really really hot with someone that i've been with a few times to mix it up a little. but i've got to be able to trust the guy that's doing it first. it makes me feel like a piece of meat, which is fun in the context of a fun sexual relationship, but not so much with someone that i don't know in bed all that well.
all i want, when i'm first getting to know someone in bed, is for him to be responsive to me and try to make an effort to get to know what i like. usually that means being a little more gentle than usual.
some people have mentioned one night stands, but since it takes me a few times to relax with someone enough to really enjoy sex, i've found that staying at home and masturbating is more fulfilling than random sex. sometimes i wish i were different, but it's just how i am.