Sex - Hard, or Gentle??

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My girl likes it when I start tantalizingly slow, and then gradually pick up the speed to a fever pitch. However even then, I might suddenly slow down and tease her some more to the point where she grabs me (or rocks backward) and tries to force all of me inside her. Her best orgasms tend to come from long and drawn-out fucking. She's quite rough on top as well, a real cowgirl.
 

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As many others have noted, it's sort of reductive to consider it an either/or proposition. Within a single session I'll probably switch between gentle and hard several times, along with various levels in between.

As in so many other things, the movie "Road House" has a lesson to teach us here: Be nice, until it's time not to be nice.
 

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I never understand why people never ulitmately answer the questions asked on LPSG. Alright, I get it, 'it's all good' but at the bottom of your answer to whatever question is asked show some balls!?!

Me: FAST AND FURIOUS.
 

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Me: FAST AND FURIOUS.

For the whole two minutes?

I'm kidding, but look, most of us aren't advocating the wishy-washy "I do it however my girl likes it" school of thought. We're simply saying that when you're having sex, you're not going to be doing it at the same speed the whole time. Even you, Vin Diesel -- you never ease in at first and then gradually build to ramming speed, only to slow down again and tease her a little? Fast and furiouus, all the time, every time, will get monotonous eventually.
 

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For the whole two minutes?

I'm kidding, but look, most of us aren't advocating the wishy-washy "I do it however my girl likes it" school of thought. We're simply saying that when you're having sex, you're not going to be doing it at the same speed the whole time. Even you, Vin Diesel -- you never ease in at first and then gradually build to ramming speed, only to slow down again and tease her a little? Fast and furiouus, all the time, every time, will get monotonous eventually.

obviously, but the choice is one or the other. just pick one though after you say you like/love it all. which do you actually prefer in the end? these are really simple questions.

but if you need to explain yourself of course do so. :)
 

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It depends. A one night stand invariably has me driving as hard and fast as possible. Other relationships vary with mood of either party. When I meet a woman I've not seen for a while I just want to get in there and ram as hard as I can for starters but later on in the evening there's nothing like a slow sensual screw.
 

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It really depends. I'm really shy at first when it comes to sex, so I wouldn't suggest it, but if he wanted to try it, I'd be fine to give it a shot. More what I meant with my first post was about sex I've had that goes something like this:

a little foreplay, and then insertion all the way fast, and then furious fucking, put into different positions without asking or cooperation, and then fucking the shit out of me to the point where i'm sore. the times this has happened i've walked away wondering if he actually cared at all about my pleasure because i and my responses weren't even a factor in the sex we just had. this one guy in particular did that, and it was all about him and his ego. he kept yelling, "take it! take it!" to me and fucking me as hard as he could. i didn't enjoy it all that much and i wouldn't fuck him again.

now, that kind of sex can be really really hot with someone that i've been with a few times to mix it up a little. but i've got to be able to trust the guy that's doing it first. it makes me feel like a piece of meat, which is fun in the context of a fun sexual relationship, but not so much with someone that i don't know in bed all that well.

all i want, when i'm first getting to know someone in bed, is for him to be responsive to me and try to make an effort to get to know what i like. usually that means being a little more gentle than usual.

some people have mentioned one night stands, but since it takes me a few times to relax with someone enough to really enjoy sex, i've found that staying at home and masturbating is more fulfilling than random sex. sometimes i wish i were different, but it's just how i am.


:tongue:You said it so honestly and perfectly, snoozan. If its the first time with a guy, it should be a sensual, lengthy process.
I too must have been with "Mark"- what an ass- and he wondered why I never went out with him again?:eek: He said at some point, 'mmmm that was fucking awesome" I replied 'perhaps for you'- I think he even started snoring before I was out the door!!

And per Spiker's comment!!:rolleyes: I like to start slow, sensual, build the anticipation and desire, and end up slammed into the wall getting fucked like crazy and screaming for more!!

Its not always either or, ya know.:biggrin1:
 
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GO HARD OR GO HEAVENLY!

*cough* urr, umm... yeah... For me, it's all about the moment,.. shared or otherwise. ^^

And sure, desired pain and injury is all good, but unless they are sworn enemies or seriously need it, i'd refrain from damaging their health...


I much prefer hard, bed rocking sex... but some days I'd want it harder than that.
I've only found one bed that agreed with me,... a foam/latex baseless mattress... just tear the frame off and bolt the legs into the the ground... and voila! :biggrin2:

How long can you take it hard like that? An hour or so or would I have to tie you down?
Ohhh you just crossed the stupid line... I will do the tying down, and so far I can handle about 4 hours. So there...

Forgot to add that this was not being said in a mean way... just innocently teasing...or was it.
Or maybe bind each other with chains, and anchor them into the bed... (/slash moving vehicle.)

And four hours is great.., how much rest/care would you need before resuming?

( Purely innocent questions, of course. :privateeye: :006: )
 

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It's always been a closet fantasy of mine to be grabbed by my shoulders and slammed against the wall, then kissed passionately. Never acted on that fantasy though. I like to take it nice and slow, though.
 

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Why not mix things up a bit? No need to pick just one. Besides a lot of women like it slow to get started and then harder to get them off. I'm happy to oblige!
 

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I like sessions to last around two hours. During that time there will be some of each type....slow, hard and fast. If she has had a couple of orgasms it will take some real gymnastics to get another one out of her. I have to be real careful not to get carried away and forget about the size. She can normally only accommodate about thre fourths of it. Too much will send her into some serious pain. She prefers on top where she has control
 

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Start easy, and then, if the lady want, fuck her rough and hard to both screems ;-) If you are a good Lover\sexmachine you know and feel what the lady wants!! And thats the most important guys ;-)
 

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like everything else in life, its the variety that makes it all worth living...

i'll fuck you for hours with every position in yer dad's 70's line drawing "how-to" book from the closet (but with far less body hair flying around), or i can shove this thick prick in you like a 75 pound jackhammer at a airport runway demo site...