Sex has become repetitive. Need ideas!

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  1. balladmc

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    Hey y'all.
    I have been with my gf for over 2 years. The sex used to be great, then turned to a bit of a lull once pur schedules picked up. When this lull happened, my stamina went way down and now I still am not back to my prior performance but it is getting close. Anyways, I am looking for new ideas. We have tried camming and she felt weird, she isnt into anal or open relationship, but she loves it rough. Any suggestions would be great! Thanks.
     
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    Consider scenarios with dress-up. Pirates, or Nurse-doctor, or mad scientist, or high priestess, or space aliens, or werewolves, or Santa Claus, you get the idea.
     
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    have you broken in every area of the house- or just the bedroom?
     
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    Broken in every room and piece of furniture, car and the deck on our canal. She does want to role model though.
     
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    Set up a scene where you hit on her and pick her up at a club or the gym or something.
     
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    Go to a nudist camp.... seeing her nude 24/7 will get you ready guaranteed. Or maybe she'll get the kick if you're the nude one!

    Also, maybe give her a bath and make it your responsibility to clean her... idk what your "thing" is... just a suggestion.
     
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    I think my thing is spontaneity and catchibg her masturbating.
     
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    It's good to know your thing.

    Find more.

    It's also good to seek HER things. Find more.


    Synergize.
     
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    For sure @telex815. Any one else run into this scenario?
     
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    why not discuss your "things" together?

    maybe she can masturbate during a movie and you just watch
     
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    Are there any threads out there like this for gay couples? I'm in a long-term relationship for over 10 years and the sex is getting really monotonous.
     
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    I'd explore how rough she can take it.

    I was quite surprised how some women can take a big deal of pain and loved it.
     
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    No... really? Repetitive?

    Have you tried new positions?

    How about toys? There are sex pillows like the Liberator that hold a hitachi wand or a dildo for DP, or just make new positions easier. There are interesting attachments for men for the Hitachi, too, so the fun can go both ways. How about some of those vibrators that go on your fingers?

    Have you tried a sex swing?

    What about making movies together? If she's self-conscious, you can wear mardi-gras masks to disguise your identities. Point the camera at the shower and have a sexy shower scene. Try a lot of different positions. When you have enough footage, you can make your own music video using CyberDirector or something like that.

    Bondage? Have her tie you up and do whatever she wants to you. I like this better in a chair than the bed personally.

    How about only an only oral night? You two can totally focus on oral on each other, one at a time. Buy some flavored lube if you want, one of that testicle vibrators, tongue vibes to pass back and forth.
     
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    This. :)

    Can we set up a scene where we pick YOU up at a club? :biggrin1::tongue:
    Plz.
     
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    Thanks for all the input everyone!
    I'm gunna be hittin' a sex shop in the next few days to see what toys I can surprise her with.
     
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