Sex: How often? How important is it?

[D_Della Doubledees]

This is actually something I was asked, and I'm curious about other people's opinions:

1) To fit your lifestyle and needs, how much sex do you prefer to have with your partner, say... on a weekly basis?

2) How much importance do you place on sex? Is it 10%, 30%, 50%, 70% of your relationship? Do you feel this changes as you get older, or stay with your partner longer?

thanks!

 

[definitelybig]

Sex is an important part of a relationship for various reasons, but if it is or becomes the most important feature, then, in my opinion, that isn’t a relationship.

 

[daddybrock32]

For me the amount of sex with my partner, wife, has been somewhat like an inverted bell curve. When we were first married it was sex in one form or another all the available time. As with all fires this burned down from an inferno to a simmering blaze after a few years and children.

It reduced even more as career became more important and occasional outside tryst sated my sexual urges. Success became a stronger driving force than sex during the years from 30 to about 50. I think being financially secure and secure in our relationship and in no small part because the children were no longer at home our sex life increased rather then decrease as one would expect with older people. And now the amount of sex we have is more akin to the early years of our marriage. We are more adventurous. My wife does things that she didn't do when we were young and we are both enjoying it.

For me to get it up now sometimes requires her assistance which she is more than happy to give and I to receive. I think much of our increased sex life can be attributed to openness with which society treats sex today and vast store of information available on the internet, especially on porn sites and site such as this where you can get ideas from others. My wife has learned to become an accomplished cock sucker from the internet. Something she would hardly do when we were first married.

I hope this helps with your questions.

 

[_avg_]

Good questions. Not to be flip, but sex is like air: the less you have, the more important it becomes.

See, for me, I've had sex twice in the last 3-4 years. I'm def. WAY fixated on sex and I can see it being a large part of my early relationship -- if and when it ever happens -- I've got a lot of lost time to make up for!

As you alluded, though, that'll change over time. So to answer your questions:

1) 5 times a week, easily.

2) Tough call; thinking long term, sex would be about 40% of my relationship.

 

[yesitsbig]

This is actually something I was asked, and I'm curious about other people's opinions:

1) To fit your lifestyle and needs, how much sex do you prefer to have with your partner, say... on a weekly basis?

2) How much importance do you place on sex? Is it 10%, 30%, 50%, 70% of your relationship? Do you feel this changes as you get older, or stay with your partner longer?

thanks!

I like sex everyday but my gf can only handle it 5-6 days. Sex is 70% of a relationship to me. My sex drive hasn't changed much at all.

Before this gf, I always had at least three women to that I fucked weekly. I am trying very hard to be faithful, but I don't know how long it will last. What can I say, I love to fuck.

 

[Principessa]

Good questions. Not to be flip, but sex is like air: the less you have, the more important it becomes.

QFT! Amen.

This is actually something I was asked, and I'm curious about other people's opinions:

What kind of a person asks such an indelicate question? What was the setting?

1) To fit your lifestyle and needs, how much sex do you prefer to have with your partner, say... on a weekly basis?

Twice a day would be nice, time and schedules permitting. So I guess 14 times a week. :redface:

2) How much importance do you place on sex?

Right now, a lot because I haven't had any in 2 years! :irked: :12: :frown1:

Is it 10%, 30%, 50%, 70% of your relationship?

N/A

Do you feel this changes as you get older, or stay with your partner longer?

If memory serves, over time frequency can decrease, but the passion and intensity increased. It really does get better over time when you are with the right person.

 

[B_New End]

2 - 3 times a week
very important. 100%. No sex, no relationship... period. It doesn't even work.

 

[D_Harry_A_Ness]

I feel a physical relationship, not just sex, is a big part of a relationship. I would say around 40 percent. I personally don't get near enough sex at this point. In my marrige. I could easily have sex twice a day for a year and still desire more. My sex drive is huge. My wife on the other hand could do with a couple of times a month. It just seems the stresses of life get to her. I would be happy and content with one or two times a week because I love her and understand she has a lot of shit going on in her life, but once or twice a month is not near enough for me and I have tried to explain it. So she will say she wants to but I can tell she isn't in the mood. Not like it was when she craved my cock.

 

[marriedasian]

Sex is a very important aspect of any relationship. Not only for pleasure but for reproduction.

I personally don't need sex but definitely not going without if at all possible. My wife is a sex addict so no problems there.

 

[psidom]

This is actually something I was asked, and I'm curious about other people's opinions:

1) To fit your lifestyle and needs, how much sex do you prefer to have with your partner, say... on a weekly basis?

2) How much importance do you place on sex? Is it 10%, 30%, 50%, 70% of your relationship? Do you feel this changes as you get older, or stay with your partner longer?

thanks!

1: i would like sex 2-3 times a day,4 days a week.
2: 65% no it hasn't changed i have been with my partner for 10+ years.

 

[D_Lachtmadder Longhorne]

I've been in relationships that it was just about sex, so it wasn't really a relationship since it was only about sex and indulgence, the emotional part was missing. I have also had a relationship where the sex was almost non existent but the emotional bond was very strong and when we did have sex it was great, it did make a difference when we did it and it drew us closer together even tho we were almost mind reading. I don't think that you can quantify a percentage and apply it to a relationship or it's health. Having security, love, trust and a myriad of other things in place is what really makes it strong. Throw in some sex and now you're happier than you realized. I'm not old so can't say if it gets better as you age, however it is better than when I was in my twenties, just not as instant or frantic. But the end result is exactly the same. :biggrin1:

 

[D_Coyne Toss]

1) To fit your lifestyle and needs, how much sex do you prefer to have with your partner, say... on a weekly basis?

Honestly, I am usually so horny that once a day is not enough. Daily is a good compromise.

2) How much importance do you place on sex? Is it 10%, 30%, 50%, 70% of your relationship? Do you feel this changes as you get older, or stay with your partner longer?

Difficult to say, it might be around 25%. Sex life is steadly improving, but so does the rest of the relationship, so the proprtion is always stable.

 

[pronatalist]

The best thing about sex, is how it helps insure people will be able to have sex in the future. In other words, sex makes babies to come alive. And the joys of parenthood last long after the reproductive urges subside with age.

Just another reason to urge people to get married, and not use any means of awkward anti-life "birth control."