Sex In A Ltr

Brodie888

Worshipped Member
Joined
Dec 10, 2015
Posts
3,056
Media
0
Likes
12,703
Points
233
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
My current partnership is over 6 years long. We both prefer monogamy.

I personally would like to have sex somewhere between twice a day to every third day. My partner would like sex somewhere between once or twice a week.

When he's stressed, it can blow out to once a fortnight. A couple of times it was once a month.

Mismatched libidos are common and nobody's fault. That's what masturbation is for. Monogamy isn't for everyone. For me I would be too insecure emotionally and worried about STIs to have an open relationship.
 
9

9140431

Guest
Been in a relationship for a few years. I would like to try an open relationship. BF has joked about it to the point we've both sort of skirted around the issue. Anyone else been in that situation? How do you move it towards actually happening. I guess the first time of doing something outside the relationship is the tough part.
 
  • Like
Reactions: twfarrell

Havingfunwithyou71

Legendary Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Jan 26, 2019
Posts
310
Media
4
Likes
2,135
Points
388
Location
Ottawa (Ontario, Canada)
Verification
View
Sexuality
80% Gay, 20% Straight
Gender
Male
There is a need to separate emotions from sex. Sex with my partner is emotional and hot as fuck. Sex with hookups is (hopefully) sexualy hot as fuck.

We are emotionally monogamous.

Together 25 years
 

51arledge

Superior Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Sep 11, 2010
Posts
1,924
Media
8
Likes
4,756
Points
393
Location
Virginia
Verification
View
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
32 years with my husband, but because of (very) complicating medical issues for him, we haven't had sex in 20+ years. After years of just blowjobs and hand jobs, and after his condition made even cuddling impossible, I started the conversation about our relationship. I said that I loved him totally, but I needed to have physical intimacy for my own well being.
We have a DADT understanding that worked (mostly) very well until Covid. I can't risk getting infected and bringing it home to him.
 

karikusa

Experimental Member
Joined
May 13, 2020
Posts
30
Media
0
Likes
14
Points
268
Location
Alaska City (Alaska, United States)
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
My current partnership is over 6 years long. We both prefer monogamy.

I personally would like to have sex somewhere between twice a day to every third day. My partner would like sex somewhere between once or twice a week.

When he's stressed, it can blow out to once a fortnight. A couple of times it was once a month.

Mismatched libidos are common and nobody's fault. That's what masturbation is for. Monogamy isn't for everyone. For me I would be too insecure emotionally and worried about STIs to have an open relationship.
Same sir :)
 
  • Like
Reactions: Brodie888

auncut10in

Mythical Member
Verified
Gold
Joined
Jun 12, 2006
Posts
1,595
Media
24
Likes
25,300
Points
868
Location
San Francisco (California, United States)
Verification
View
Sexuality
100% Gay, 0% Straight
Gender
Male
My partner and I have been together for 12 years. From the very beginning it has been an open relationship. I knew I would fool around and I didn't want to lie about it. If it was a deal breaker, we needed to know up front. He was fine with it. And a good thing. Sexually we aren't really that compatible. Both of us are tops. And my dick is too big for him. He is not very big guy. Weighs 118lb. Sometimes we have a third guy join us. He always arranges it. That works well for us. I love watching him fuck another guy. He is really good at it. And I love fucking the guy after he has shot his load. Something hot about using his cum as lube. We just don't get jealous over sexual things.

I love him to death. And we really fit perfect together in every other way. We are both in this for the long haul. As happier or maybe even more happy than the day we meant.
 

twfarrell

Legendary Member
Joined
Jun 12, 2017
Posts
652
Media
0
Likes
1,927
Points
213
Location
London (Greater London, England)
Sexuality
99% Gay, 1% Straight
Gender
Male
My partner and I have been together for 12 years. From the very beginning it has been an open relationship. I knew I would fool around and I didn't want to lie about it. If it was a deal breaker, we needed to know up front. He was fine with it. And a good thing. Sexually we aren't really that compatible. Both of us are tops. And my dick is too big for him. He is not very big guy. Weighs 118lb. Sometimes we have a third guy join us. He always arranges it. That works well for us. I love watching him fuck another guy. He is really good at it. And I love fucking the guy after he has shot his load. Something hot about using his cum as lube. We just don't get jealous over sexual things.

I love him to death. And we really fit perfect together in every other way. We are both in this for the long haul. As happier or maybe even more happy than the day we meant.


I’d love this arrangement.
 
  • Like
Reactions: Havingfunwithyou71

cedarizzo

Superior Member
Joined
Apr 15, 2013
Posts
1,495
Media
34
Likes
6,513
Points
533
Location
Champaign, IL, USA
Sexuality
99% Gay, 1% Straight
Gender
Male
I've been with my partner for 11 years, but we have a very different type of relationship.

We met one night at the adult bookstore. And the first 3 years we both said we weren't not looking for a relationship, we just wanted a friends with benefits situation. . I know he was fucking around and he knows I was doing the same. When it did get serious between us, we lived together and were monogamous. I also started working at the same place that he did, so we were together 24/7. But after 3 years, we realized we cannot live together, we were fighting all the time, he was staying out most nights and things were going downhill for us. He moved out, got his own place. We started talking again and things got better between us. So we live a little over an hour apart. We still work together, and I do spend some nights at his place. But the other nights are our alone time. I stay at my place and he stays at his place.

But we had a long talk when we started living apart and we both agreed that while we love each other, things sometimes happen. Instead of us saying we were monogamous and then lying about something that happened, we agreed to be open our relationship. We have a Don't Ask/Don't Tell policy, which we both agree with. We have only had 1 3some in 11 years, and since we both have very different taste in men, so I doubt we could ever find a 3some that would work for both of us. So for now, we are both happy with our sexual agreement.
 
9

9140431

Guest
I've been with my partner for 11 years, but we have a very different type of relationship.

We met one night at the adult bookstore. And the first 3 years we both said we weren't not looking for a relationship, we just wanted a friends with benefits situation. . I know he was fucking around and he knows I was doing the same. When it did get serious between us, we lived together and were monogamous. I also started working at the same place that he did, so we were together 24/7. But after 3 years, we realized we cannot live together, we were fighting all the time, he was staying out most nights and things were going downhill for us. He moved out, got his own place. We started talking again and things got better between us. So we live a little over an hour apart. We still work together, and I do spend some nights at his place. But the other nights are our alone time. I stay at my place and he stays at his place.

But we had a long talk when we started living apart and we both agreed that while we love each other, things sometimes happen. Instead of us saying we were monogamous and then lying about something that happened, we agreed to be open our relationship. We have a Don't Ask/Don't Tell policy, which we both agree with. We have only had 1 3some in 11 years, and since we both have very different taste in men, so I doubt we could ever find a 3some that would work for both of us. So for now, we are both happy with our sexual agreement.


That sounds like such a good situation!
 
  • Like
Reactions: cedarizzo
D

deleted1074483

Guest
i prefer monogamous, then its more intimate, you grow with the person, there's trust in place so you can experiment etc and for me i like that deeper emotional connection during sex.

in all my ltr relationships sex has been important to both partners though i've always tended to have the higher libido/sex drive but porn and masturbation help with dealing with that.

so yes very content with sex with one person in a long term relationship - i've done the slutty phase several times and i enjoyed that too in a very different way though missed that deeper connection.

I've been with the current bf about 2 years, he was a virgin ( he's much younger) so yes of course our sex life has changed over even our short time, he's become much more open to new things, will now occasionally take control/take the lead/instigate things, he's much more relaxed about sex too and its more fun as a result and whilst i love fucking him and he loves being fucked, there a lot more intimacy so it doesn't have to be 'just' about the act of penetration.

and he says the same and enjoys the monogamity and what it allows us to do and especially the Trust side of it.