sex is geting boring

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    well first off me and my girl have been together for over 2 years im 20 shes 18. and also my first and only sexual partner but in the last 6 months or so i just gotten curious about being with another women, and with my present gf the sex is just boring even though ive only been with her i think im creative in the bedroom but she just isent down for a lot of new stuff and when im having sex with her i just cant get into anymore.anyone have any suggestion or input?
     
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    Communication with her. Seems you want more from her.

    If that is not the case and you are falling out of like/love with her, yeah time to break it off tender and move on. I don't believe relationships are built on sexual chemistry but if you find yourself thinking of other women, let her go. You will be doing both of you a favor.
     
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    You've been together for 2 years.... a lot has happened. Communication is key man! Talk it out with her. And you're only thinking sexually towards other women. Is there a possible relationship like this one? I think you need to re-spark your love with her. Do something special. Or try something different.. Take her out, do something romantic. I mean you're only bored of the sex. There's things that could change that...
     
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    i have talked to her about and i still love her and im very lucky to have her theres not many girls like her its just the sex that get me im 20 i dont now what wlse to say and ive never really liked another women it is more of just sexual thoughts.
     
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    If your latest post above is true, then Torontoo's advice is much better than mine!
     
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    yeah i meant what i said but im just still want something diferent but the right thing to do would be to get the spark back in our sex. i just need to figure out how and it seems that she not in the mood very often and i want sex 24/7 which i now isent going to happen but somewhere in between wiould be nice.
     
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    Buy her the Kama Sutra and tell her it'll be a good work-out :p(it'll be good for her heart!)
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    While she's almost ready to cum. . don't let her. Tease her until she gets into a position you like?

    but still. . . I suggest you be honest and tell her what you said in your second post. How you feel. . and what you'd like. Go slow. Take it easy. Do consider her point of views too! Try to see it from both sides and watch your wording so you don't look like a demanding bad boyfriend who just told his girl she bored him in bed. goooodluck!
     
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    thanks for the advice guys i'll see what happens.
     
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    As a married man it's normal to feel that way from time to time. We just had our 3 year anniversary and there have been times that I've wondered what it would be like with another woman and she said she's wondered the same thing. The difference is, that you have to be willing to communicate or you're doomed. I'm not saying that sex is the most important thing in a relationship, because it's not, but trust me when I say this; when things are going shitty financially or w/e, is there isn't much in the bedroom, then it makes things ALOT worse. It's just another bullet in the gun. One thing that I've always been thankful for is me and my wife's communication. She's always open to trying new things or taking suggestions as to what I like. Believe it or not, not everyone LOVES sucking cock or eating pussy, they do it to please their partner. If you're doing a shitty job of it, then it's just a wasted effort. So talk to her, ask her what she likes. For example, sometimes I'll switch it up when eating her out, whether it be flicking my tongue in another direction, using just the tip, or more wide spread, or faster, slower, harder, softer, and she usually lets me know if she likes it best like that. Just a few suggestions for ya bro. I wish you the best man, gl!

    P.S. Finished reading your last response lol, on another note, (this may not work for everyone as all people are obviously different but) what I do sometimes when she's not in the mood is I just mess around with her until she IS in the mood. Whether it be a massage, rubbing her back, a titty grab or lightly stroking her labia. Sometimes that does the trick. Don't always expect the horny mood to just be there, be creative and make it happen.
     
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    Tell her to create a profile on here and when she finds out there are lots of other cocks...well maybe she will be the one thinking of other guys and not so much you....my point is maybe its useful to really try and see her point of view.
     
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    Communication is definitely the key man. If you love her still, talk it out with her and find some common ground! If she loves you back, she's be open to communication.

    I've been with my GF for a year now. Guys naturally think about other women, and women think about other guys. My girl and I talk about these things, it's natural human feelings to want to fuck anything that moves. But they're just feelings/fantasies, etc. I think most of those feelings are brought out by watching the unconventional things that happen in pornos. To be honest, my girl is wonderful and I'd be hard pressed to find another woman that could match how she makes me feel. Sex is wonderful and she's always up for anything. She's my first sexual partner too, I just think I hit the jackpot right off the bat! What's even better though is how she makes me laugh and feel more comfortable than with any other person I've known.

    No one said relationships were easy. Ending a relationship is easy, anyone can just give up if they're bored with how things are going. But if you love someone, it's much more rewarding to communicate with that person and grow together. Like Dewey Cox says, "It's a long, hard walk. But I will walk hard." LOL

    When you're a virgin, you're pretty timid right up to that first relationship. Then you start to build up some confidence in yourself and start thinking about being with other people sexually. But if you love that person you're with and she's perfect for you, then the grass generally won't be greener on the other side. If you stray and fuck some other person, once it's over, where's that special love going to be? You'll feel empty inside and you just ruined your partner's life in the process. Not that you're implying that you would cheat, I'm just preaching, lol.

    Listen to Torontoo, he has some good advice!
     
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    My answer is not PC and many will disagree but here it is.

    Some people, like myself, get bored very easily. It takes about 6 months on a one-on-one relationship and I'm bored. If I am seeing multiple guys I can usually handle 12-24 months with the same person if they are good.

    For me variety is the spice of life, I could never imagine myself married too or even living with a guy. I personally think we are highly sexual creatures and very inquisitive. It's normal to want to be with other people, only through religion and self-imposed morality have we accepted this one partner deal.

    So what I see is happening to you is perfectly normal IMO.

    Probably didn't help you any but just thought I would give you another perspective.
     
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    Sexual tension, and just all in all sex problems is the number one reason for breakups. Its always about sex. Trust me buddy i feel your pain. Im 23 and my gf is 21. We've been dating for over a year and we still dont have sex. we've tried alot, and we both want to, but she likely has vagismus according to her doctor, and are waiting to see a specialist. I've read all sorts of horror stories about it, and me being a very VERY sexual man, its taken a tool on me. But in the end, I look at the big picture, and aside from the sex, everything is great. We love eachother, we trust eachother, we can hang out and do silly things and just have fun. Its a shame the sex is getting boring, but it takes a while for some girls to get comfortable enough with their bodies or just the idea of other things they might think is gross. Just give it time lad, sex isn't everything, talk it over and see where she stands.
     
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    in the recent weeks since this post me and her talked about aout it and she has been more willing to do things that she wouldent before and weve been having sex more often so i gusee it was good that i talked to her so now everything in the relattionship is great. thanks for all the advice guys.
     
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