Now I'm older and my sex life is almost nil, but I never licked assholes, pussys ..yes. I never really viewed sex as gross, messy...yes. the wife and I when we first dated, fucked in an un-airconditioned apartment. after a couple hours, we were both wringing wet, a huge wet spot on the bed, cum stuck to us. we would change sheets, shower, get dressed, go party and come back and do it again. I asked her how come she didn't mind getting all sweaty, makeup running, hair a mess, and she just said, "I've never had a man fuck me so good, I love it, and I love you."