This may be posted on here. But, I don't feel like searching through all this to look. Anyways, sex isn't fun to me anymore. I'd rather just masturbate and look at things that turn me on and get off. Like when she leaves.. We do have sex. But I don't enjoy it. Just wondering if anyone else has this same issue, and what you do...
Well, I feel that sex with another person is silly and worthless in most cases, unless there is super strong compatibility.
I'd rather stroke and watch some porn (not always). It's easy, fun and no drama (relationships, STD's, pregnancies, etc.)
What gets you off per say?
Continuing on. I really
Right. That's how I feel. I'd almost just rather her Fuck some other dude and I'll just sit and watch and get myself off lol. I used to love sex. I'd bang out whoever wgebever. Gf or not. So I don't know if I just became uninterested or what. But I do know I get turned on by watching porn and looking at hot pics and gifs on tumblr. So I know I still have an interest I suppose.
Right. That's how I feel. I'd almost just rather her Fuck some other dude and I'll just sit and watch and get myself off lol. I used to love sex. I'd bang out whoever wgebever. Gf or not. So I don't know if I just became uninterested or what. But I do know I get turned on by watching porn and looking at hot pics and gifs on tumblr. So I know I still have an interest I suppose.
If you jack off, then you have a sex drive - so that's not the problem. Are you bored with your gf sexually? Do you look at other girls when you are out and about or have you lost your interest in women? Do you fantasize?
What types of porn/gifs get you off? Is it possible to take some of the themes and introduce them in your sex life with her?
Don't shoot me for what I am about to ask next - do you have any interest in being with another man? Have you explored that or even considered it?
What types of porn/gifs get you off? Is it possible to take some of the themes and introduce them in your sex life with her?
Don't shoot me for what I am about to ask next - do you have any interest in being with another man? Have you explored that or even considered it?
I have a feeling the boy needs to explore his sexuality a bit. The field is open, so don't limit what you may very well enjoy (just stay safe and wrap your sausage up).
I don't limit myself. If it feels good, my mind goes there.
I like chunky lesbian porn a lot. I don't care what society thinks. It does a peter good.
I'm guessing it has something to do with being bored. I like the girl. I really do. But yes, I do find other women attractive and fantasize about them when I see them.
There's really no set type of porn that I look at. I guess it would be possible but I don't want her to think I'm some sort of weirdo by what turns me on and that I watch porn and what not. Went through that with a previous girl. Wasn't pretty..
I have done things with men. Used to like it. Nothing heavy and no intimacy. Just some jerking and sucking. That's it. It was fun. But that doesn't even interest me. I in by no means am attracted to a man's physique or looks. But a nice cock turns me on for sure.
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Give her a massage,..re-explore her body, and get her aroused,...get a cock ring,..and maybe an enhancer to get in the mood,...remember,.."it's all PINK"
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Thanks everyone. Kinda helps getting this off my chest. Been kinda freaking out about it.
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Men evolved with a genetic NEED to experience other people sexually. To see and touch their naked bodies and have sexual experiences.
But nowadaze.... men can look to porn to satisfy that yearning in every conceivable kink... all day, all night. interminably.
it dulls the senses, and makes actual sex seem dull, slow, and complicated because some OTHER person's feeling are involved.
Young guys these days are heading the way of the japanese... who have practically become sexless.
Its really pitiful. A whole generation whose entire life experiences is in the palm of one hand. they can;t look a woman in the eye. can't connect. Feel like relationship is WORK or a STRUGGLE. And save their dimes and nickels against the dreamt of day when sex robots can be bought, to be turned off and folded away when you've cum... and get back to video games... twittering... and social posting inanity to an ever wider group of theoretical friends who actually will never notice the day you stop posting, until one of them posts about the smell of decomposition coming from your room.
Just knock it the fuck off, children.
Relationships are about way more than getting nekkid. and they are WORTH the trouble because the life the OP describes is one of a self absorbed shit who really has no useful role in a modern society.
Juts a parasite sucking at the internets feeds.
pathetic. sexless. lazy. uninteresting.
But nowadaze.... men can look to porn to satisfy that yearning in every conceivable kink... all day, all night. interminably.
it dulls the senses, and makes actual sex seem dull, slow, and complicated because some OTHER person's feeling are involved.
Young guys these days are heading the way of the japanese... who have practically become sexless.
Its really pitiful. A whole generation whose entire life experiences is in the palm of one hand. they can;t look a woman in the eye. can't connect. Feel like relationship is WORK or a STRUGGLE. And save their dimes and nickels against the dreamt of day when sex robots can be bought, to be turned off and folded away when you've cum... and get back to video games... twittering... and social posting inanity to an ever wider group of theoretical friends who actually will never notice the day you stop posting, until one of them posts about the smell of decomposition coming from your room.
Just knock it the fuck off, children.
Relationships are about way more than getting nekkid. and they are WORTH the trouble because the life the OP describes is one of a self absorbed shit who really has no useful role in a modern society.
Juts a parasite sucking at the internets feeds.
pathetic. sexless. lazy. uninteresting.
I read an article a long time ago about a growing phenomenon just like what is happening to you. Can't provide a link because it was a long time ago and I don't remember much in the way of details, but whatever experts were being cited said that this is caused by the fact that watching porn and masturbating is simply easier than seducing your significant other. With the latter you need to put some kind of time and effort into the seduction, whereas with porn and masturbating, you just fire up the video, whip it out, and start spanking it. No matter how routine your relationship has become, starting sex can't possibly be as fast and easy as that. According to the article, the phenomenon affects both men and women. There are apparently also women who are more interested in spanking it to porn than sleeping with their special someone.
There is also more recent research that may shed light on what is going on.
Book: Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life - Kindle edition by Emily Nagoski. Health, Fitness & Dieting Kindle eBooks @ Amazon.com.
Web comic covering specific issue: www.ohjoysextoy.com: Science of Desire by Dr. Emily Nagoski & R.Stevens
Long story short: there's a list of turn ons and turn offs that you are not necessarily aware of that affect your sexual desires. When the turn offs exceed the turn ons, you don't want to have sex. When the turn ons exceed the turn offs, you want to have sex. The book is mostly for women and about female sexuality, but it looks like this particular research is applicable to both men and women.
So if you or your partner's sexual desires seem unnaturally low for some reason, check and see if anything on that list is affecting things.
Many cultural attitudes/assumptions (e.g. society telling women that the only thing that matters about them is their looks and that they aren't pretty enough) affect things on the "off" list for women (body image, sense of self worth which can affect depression/anxiety, etc.), which might explain the "Not tonight, honey, I have a headache" phenomenon.
temptotalk
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Don't have the same problem but i'm bored so i'll give some advice. Don't have sex for a while. At the same time, don't look at porn or masturbate. Theres a lot of validity to what @Oxnard says and more likely than not you've desensitized yourself for some emotional reason. And yes odds are good that it's an emotional issue.
I think you nailed it. As for the poster above you...
You can go Right the Fuck off. Just because I don't find sex fun and interesting anymore. I'm pathetic, lazy, and uninteresting? Right...
I hope you don't mind me making a joke at your expense, but from what you describe, you kind of sound like the male version of "not tonight honey, I have a headache."
Haha, no offense taken. It we're being honest here. I get horrible migraines. Where it hurts to be awake. So yes, I've used that line. As horrible and embarrassed as I felt about it... It's happened.
If you feel horrible often, I have to imagine that would affect your sex drive based on the behavior model in the above-cited research.
temptotalk
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First off. No. Fuck you. Second. I tried to help you. Third. Fuck you....politely. Fourth. I didn't say you were pathetic, lazy or uninteresting but now that thats your reply and i might add from out of the blue.......thats your problem. Cause what you just did was a projection. I said it was an emotional problem and nothing else. The hell is going on with guys these days? Did valentines day mindfuck all of you guys? I'm a guy, why didn't i get the dumbass memo? That stereotype about women being the emotional ones is waaaaaaaaayyy off. Damn.
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Damnit...jumped the gun. And i apologize. Thought you were talking about me. Yeah brisler really got under my skin lol. Once again, i apologize. lol
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