sex life after the kids...

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  1. strawberrylime9

    strawberrylime9 New Member

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    So i'm only 19 and i'm already worrying about this lol.
    See i pride myself on having a pussy in great condition, tight, etc.
    Well what happens when i have kids?? Anyone here who has had children? I'm curious what exactly happens to it and whether or not it'll ruin what i have lol.
    I'm even thinking a cesarean would be better at this point.. then they can give me a tummy tuck at the same time or something.
    Or maybe adoption. I love kids.. but i also know that when they're grown up and out of the house it's me and my husband- and i don't plan on giving up sex.
     
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    Well, I'm not a woman, of course, but I've had a few girlfriends who had children from previous relationships. And, as you put it - your pussy can recover after kids to be in great condition again. Women who have had children aren't forever 'loose' or anything. So you can relax about that.

    Bottom line is - if you take care of yourself before and after childbirth, your body can return to its pre-pregnant state within 6-12 months after having the baby. From what I've seen, anyway.
     
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    that's good news ;)
    i just always hear the horrible stories you know?
     
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    We adopted. But that issue was not really a deciding factor. However, my husband does joke around about me being "factory original" :rolleyes: The REAL problem with sex after children is not about your parts, it's about WHEN, WHERE and "SHHHH, you'll wake up the kids!" Right parents?! :biggrin1: :wink:
     
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    Wife and I have the day off (Election Day). She just took the kids to the sitter for a while:biggrin1: .
     
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    I only know of one woman who was loose as a result of childbirth. Her baby was nearly 11 pounds and afterward, her boyfriend couldn't feel anything and neither could she. She had it stitched up and the problem was solved.
     
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    You could always have a C-section.
     
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    Lol.. the best part about reading your replies.. is that i picture Brand lee saying it.. b/c of your avatar. ha ha..
     
  9. Honey_Grrrl83

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    Being a preppie on the outside but a hippie at heart I must say that this future MILF is interested in an all natural,at home childbirth with a midwife:smile: At first I wanted a c section,so my pussy woulden't be stretched out,but then I realized that vanity was a poor excuse to undergo surgery,besides,it would be much more of a meaningful event for me if I could experience every little contraction:rolleyes: My fiance was born at home and so was I,and both of our moms agree that it was worth it:smile:
     
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    I gave birth (natural) to an almost 9lb baby. I won't sugar coat it - things do change after you have a child, not just "down there", but all over. However, like a PP said, if you work hard after delivery, you get back to normal. I'm actually tighter now than I was before, because of the way they stiched me up. I endured a nasty tear, and the Dr. who did my stiches was fem.....she hooked me up :fing02: Plus, I do kegels EVERY DAY....you should do them even if you've never had kids and then when you do, you'll bounce back a lot quicker. I did them the whole time I was preggo too.

    Oh, and it's normal to worry about that...I did too...I begged for a C-section right up until the end....but they made me push ONE MORE TIME. Now I'm glad I did...no scar....easier recovery....no drugs....etc. And even when you think "nothing is EVER going in or coming out of there again".......sooner than later, you forget about it, and jump right back on again! Sex is much better for me now than it was prepregnancy...dont know why - but it is???

    Sxigirl - Don't I know it!!! Shhhh, you'll wake the baby....aaaah, parenthood!!

    Sorry if that was TMI for anyone...I should have included a disclaimer for the men.....oops.
     
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    That was HOT!!!
     
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    I decided to post on this thread because I MAY be pregnant right now:redface: I'm not entirely sure until I take a pregnancy test:confused: My fiance already knows,so he's got his fingers crossed:fingersx:
     
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    A C-section is Major surgery, with a lot longer recovery time, scarring, more danger to to mother and child, etc.
    It is supposed to be an emergency operation, not a vanity operation and it has become recently.
     
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    My wife did kegels before and after our daughter's birth which helped enormously. She also had an episiotomy stitched back up very well by her midwife. I'll be damned if I can tell a difference.
     
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    My girlfriend is 50 now, and has 3 grown children. As far as I can tell she is as good as new. Of course she is an athlete does Yoga and runs marathons. That all helps, ya think?
     
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    I once had an affair with a 33 year old woman who had had 3 children but she had the tightest and strongest pussy of any woman I've ever been with. Sometimes it was so tight it was tough to get in there! As far as I know, she simply did lots of pelvic exercises after giving birth.
     
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    Don't have a c-section unless you NEED one at the last moment because the baby is in distress. The scar tissue alone isn't worth it. If you want to regain a tight pussy after child bearing it can be done if you work at it. Likewise the tummy tuck: It is far, far, far better to eat a sensible diet and regularly go for long brisk walks to keep your bod in trim than to have surgery. That way the rest of your bod will look and feel good too, plus you'll stay younger looking for longer.
     
  18. D_Elijah_MorganWood

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    Ahhhh, you're too new to know what I look like. Brandon Lee talking about a loose pussy...classic.
     
  19. Honey_Grrrl83

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    After our baby is born I plan on doing a lot of exercises to tighten myself up again,I would only go through a c section if it was medically neccessary,right now I'm considering either a natural home delivery or a natural hospital delivery,I don't want any painkillers at all,my fiance(and my future father in law)think that I will chicken out at the last minute and scream for an epideral:tongue: They may be right:rolleyes:
     
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