Sex life = over

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I went for a solid 6 months with absolutely no interest in sex (chemical injection that stopped the production of testosterone). I couldn't have gotten it up if my life had depended upon it. However, just like character George in one of the Seinfeld episodes who gives up on women "forever" and suddenly discovers that when he's not distracted by trying to have sex he's a "genius", I have to admit there's some truth to that. I was much more clear-headed and less distracted by things or people. I knocked off about 40 books in Spanish and friends noticed that my tendency to drop in the occasional long vowel when speaking Spanish had disappeared. I was more attentive and more curious about things than normal. And I suddenly didn't need to think and consider which form of the subjunctive I needed to use to be grammatically correct when writing or speaking Spanish. Now THAT'S a neat trick -- even if you're a native speaker.

So, given the option, cut my balls off and leave me just enough of my dick so I can pee in comfort and I'm certain I'll be just fine. I might even invent cold fusion!
 
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Let's say you knew you would never have sex again. What then?

A noble life?

Carry on?

Suicide?

Discuss.

I wouldn't kill myself over not being with another man. If men found me unappealing, that is their issue. I still have my right hand, an overactive imagination, and a whole lot of daily stimuli with these cute Mormons coming over wanting to tell me all there is about Joseph Smith. :wink:
Even though I am not even interested in Mormonism...I am more interested what some of those guys look like without all of the puritanicals on. I sometimes think that some of those guys are like total buffed out Abercrombi-esque and hung like porn stars.

Again, I wouldn't hate anyone for not liking me sexually. People like who they like.
 

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The only scenario that is fairly plausible... is being stranded alone on a deserted island for the rest of my life...I guess I'd just to have to make due with myself.
 

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I don't hate people because they don't like me; I hate people for entirely different reasons.

But that's not exactly relevant: whatever the reason, take it as given that your days of having sex (with other people) are over.

So what good is a life of masturbation?
What's the point in carrying on?

Oh yes, you could shun the self-serving life and live nobly for others, constantly distracted by a desire that will remain unfulfilled...perhaps I should look into those chemical injections. . . Some would say that a life of celibacy and selflessness is a good thing, but is it really?
 

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You mean you have no libido? You don't get horny? In that case, I'd consult a physician who specializes in the endocrine system. You're body my not be pumping out enough of the right stuff.

But if it's the ennui of "why bother, sex is too much trouble", well, sorry . . . can't help you with that one. Every 10 or 15 years it seems to become fashionable to be indifferent to sex. Fortunately, I've avoided those fashionable moments.
 

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So what good is a life of masturbation?
What's the point in carrying on?
....

Lots of reasons to live and sex is really not one of them, from where I stand. Nothing wrong with masturbation--either with or without a relationship. It's fun, it's safe, it's free and easy.
 

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Je ne comprends pas.

Barring castration of some sort, one's sex life is never over. Are you now an eunuch? Even then, there are still possibilities for sexual encounters (although, you wouldn't experience sex drive, per se).

I am simply at a loss for understanding.
 

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Je ne comprends pas.

Barring castration of some sort, one's sex life is never over. Are you now an eunuch? Even then, there are still possibilities for sexual encounters (although, you wouldn't experience sex drive, per se).

I am simply at a loss for understanding.
degenerative disease. stroke. accident.
you lose all mobility and all vocal skills.
can't wank, can't attract girls/boys.
 

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If you mean zero sex at all (no masturbation or activity with anyone else) then I'd have to say... Priesthood. No wait, they have sex with alterbo... Forget I said that. Let see, what was life like before sex? Sports, lots of sports.
 

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I don't hate people because they don't like me; I hate people for entirely different reasons.

But that's not exactly relevant: whatever the reason, take it as given that your days of having sex (with other people) are over.

So what good is a life of masturbation?
What's the point in carrying on?


Sex is fun.
I like sex.

But it is merely one of the myriad fun things life has to offer.

Anyone who thinks a sexless life would not be worth living simply has no imagination.

I would rather have the love and company of a good woman- without sex,
than to have just the sex and live alone.


I guess it might be easier at 50, when you know the wildest days of your sexual life are probably behind you...

But seriously...
Women often complain that their husbands would rather watch football games than have sex.
 

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I would either end up an unemployed, porn addicted, furious masterbating social recluse, OR, I would have time and energy to focus on a lot of other things in life, like my carreer and furthering my education. I think music would be a great outlet for that energy.

Ah, who am I kidding. I would just stick to booze and motorcycles, and great food, and sports, and movies, and video games, and going to the gym, and going to the beach, and going to concerts and live bands, playing darts at the bar. Sounds like a good life to me!