Thank you for the detailed responses.
i am sorry for getting defensive it was just how I read came across as you said 'earn 20 points for her to let me do stuff'
Okay let me see if I can remember all this haha.
Me and the MRS Rosie(its just a bit easier to call her by name) are great out of the bedroom, we don't seem to have too many issues(i mean its not perfect by all means) but we get on.
We do a lot of things together, and I totally get what you mean about the little things and i also agree 110% I always beleive the little things make a relationship, for example just 20 minutes ago shes sat on the counch I looked up and she hadnt brushed her hair today, but it sort of fell in a really nice way and I just said 'what did you do with your hair today' she said 'Oh just woke up like this' I said it looks really good like that, no effort and still looks great'
I know thats a bit cheesey but i do try and I genuinely think that.
Sometimes we make this cookie milkshakes at home so when I was at the store before I got some white cookies and icedcream.
So I do understand all this stuff and I honestly do not feel its the relationship side of things.
Ultimatly I want her to want me, not for me to earn it.
I hope that makes sence.
I have said that very thing many times. I said if I have to earn pussy then fuck it! I would get mad as hell! Just please ready the post I just made made right above this posting. It turned my marriage around. If I can help further don't hesitate to message me. I can relate to everything you have said. Best of luck to your and yours.