Sex Noise In Apartments?

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I'm curious how some of you get around the whole issue of having sex when you live in an apartment and trying to be quiet and discreet?

I recently moved to a new apartment and I'm super hesitant to have guys over because I don't want my neighbors seeing/hearing guys come and go. I'm single, so dating & hookups are like my only option right now. I'm kinda nervous about anyone hearing any kind of sex noise or even porn playing? Its a nice complex in a nice part of town. Lot of families it seems. In fact my neighbors have 2 young kids. But the walls are thin. Ironically I haven't heard anyone having sex. But I sure hear them talking, yelling or the kids screaming, toilets flushing. So if anyone was having sex I think I'd hear it.

I am looking to move to a townhome or house to get that privacy...but if that doesn't happen I feel stuck. I cant even answer my door naked cause I share a landing with another apartment and our doors face each other. I pretty much close all the blinds that face other buildings so I can walk around naked....but I have people on two sides of me and beneath me. So I dont know what to do.

Any tips?
 

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Let me tell the community how I handled an apartment noise problem years ago, when I was a student.

I am a very quiet person by nature, and, enjoy a quiet home. The neighbor, directly above me, enjoyed playing her stereo loudly, whenever she was home. Several times I asked her politely to turn the music down, because my ceiling was vibrating. The music would be quiet for 5 minutes, then it would be a lot louder again.

We lived in an older building, which had been outfitted with casement windows that would open.

On Memorial Day weekend, we were both home. I was lying on my bed; she was being fucked on hers. The moaning was loud. As she was reaching her orgasm, I went to the window, and, shouted, "SHE IS FAKING THAT ORGASM. I HAVE HEARD ALL OF HERS. THAT ONE IS DEFINITELY A FAKE!".

The rapid creaking of the bed stopped suddenly. The guy quickly put his clothes on, and, called her the c-word as he left her apartment. After I heard the door slam, I walked over to the window again, and, shouted, "THE NEXT TIME THAT I ASK YOU TO TURN YOUR MUSIC DOWN, DO IT; OTHERWISE, YOU WILL NEVER HAVE ANOTHER ORGASM IN THAT BEDROOM AGAIN!"

She was very considerate after that.

Problem solved.
 
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Yea...I get the whole "its my apartment and they should just deal with it"...but I guess I'm a bit too private of a person. Its challenging.
 
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Yea...I get the whole "its my apartment and they should just deal with it"...but I guess I'm a bit too private of a person. Its challenging.

I was a story for you that happened last summer. So I live in a really nice prewar amarent with plaster walls that aren’t Insulated. There are only three apartments in this building. I have an older couple upstairs with their two pugs. I can hear their the dogs run around and sometimes I can hear them having breakfast or dinner. Now I don’t mind about the dogs because I also have a nice stereo with wireless speakers all over the apartment and they don’t complain too much about my music. Now this summer we had a tenant in the first floor. A quiet guy. The kind of guy to have a beer poster in his living room. His mom bought most of the things in his apartment and had his laundry serviced with pick up and drop off. Now low and behold he turned out to work in he same office as I and we’d ocationally see each other. When he moved out he confessed that he has heard me have sex a few times. My bedroom was above his. I was so embarrassed cause I always made it my mission to play music when I was ever doing it. Anyways long story short I thanked him for his discretion.

People need to realize that when you live in such close quarters with strangers, you will once in a while catch someone being human. It’s just past of urban and suburban living. I’ve seen my neighbors at it in the kitchen once. You just continue doing what you were doing and if anyone ever wants to intrude then you just need to tell them to mind their business.
 

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When My wife and I first married,we lived in a duplex. There was another newly wed couple on the other side. Their bedroom was next to our kitchen and our bedroom was next to theirs. It was a big joke between us, since there was no way to avoid being heard by each other.
At that age no one was going to pass up an opportunity to have sex sooooooo. Just people doing what people do. No big deal.
 

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Lived in apartments for years, had sex didn’t worry about who heard and we did hear others having sex as well. Having sex something that is natural it’s part of life.

Don’t worry if your neighbors complain (which I doubt they will) ask them if they can also stop their yelling or arguing. That’s reasonable.

But if your worried then find a better place and make sure your bedroom is against outside walls on say the third floor or higher.
 

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Favorite playmate lives in a three family house. He's allergic to my animals, so has never been to my house. He inspires me to new heights of volume. I am a cacophonous, jazz fusion symphony of gutteral, primal screams under his ministry. It's probably obnoxious to others, but I can't really help it much without thinking very hard about being quiet. If it gets to be past 2AM, he'll encourage me to reign it in. Hos neighbors are pretty friendly with him, so I assume if they had a problem they'd say so.

When I hear others, I'm usually just happy for them. If I don't like it, headphones.
 

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I love hearing my neighbors smash... admittedly, i'm a perv so i get off on that kinda shit. I've seen them both so it's fun to imagine them going at it... two stocky short Ecadorian types.they go hard asf for 2 minutes straight... and then complete silence. every time...she "aye"s with his every thrust.. I can hear the bed crash against the wall and the legs of the frame scratch all over the floor.. I imagine there are marks there by now as they fuck fairly often...and at any odd time of day...bless em
 

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I've had some fun and strange neighbors. When I lived in Washington State, my upstairs neighbors were two Navy guys. One guy had his girlfriend over on the weekend and Friday and Saturday nights they did it 4 times each night. Always starting at about 10pm. You could hear the bed creak, then it would stop, then again, then quiet. They would go until about midnight and then fall asleep. The other guy only brought his girlfriend over one night a week and they only did it once. They eventually moved out and a married couple moved in. They had long and loud sex. They separated and he moved out. She continued to fuck... a lot. We started calling her "Ms Fuck ME" because she screamed it all the time. I moved to a different complex owned by the same management company, and when I made a joking reference to the property manager, she started laughing. They had heard all about her from different neighbors.

As for myself, I never cared if someone heard me. I don't care if anyone heard me having sex, and I only know of one time when I disturbed a neighbor with it. It was the Navy guy who lived above me. He banged on the floor a couple of times, but it was at 3am on a weekday.
 
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as others have said its just part of being human having sex, so don't worry about it, more often than not they'll either be too embarrassed to say anything or will be jealous you're single and having fun. I've had partners who were real screamers in bed, you can shut windows etc but in the end, if you're having sex, you don't want to be worrying about the noise?!

good luck
 
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Think twice before confronting your neighbor, please. There is a story about two neighbors meeting at the mailbox, and one said to the other "y'all were a bit loud with your passion last night. Thought you might want to know in case others might complain."

The neighbor responded "what are you talking about? I've been working the night shift the past few weeks."
 

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I mentioned this in another thread that's along the same lines - I lived in an apartment in Scottsdale and the couple above me had either just gotten married, or just moved in together. The running joke with my neighbors is that no one knew what the guy in the apartment above me looked like, but we all knew his name was Jeremy because she screamed it so loud. Their bedroom was above mine and he jack hammered her multiple times each night. I could hear the bed rocking, and her screaming. I can only imagine what the people who shared that bedroom wall heard. One night I was laying in bed reading and they were going at it. My cat was looking at me, then looking up at the ceiling, then back at me. Like I could make it stop.
 

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Think twice before confronting your neighbor, please. There is a story about two neighbors meeting at the mailbox, and one said to the other "y'all were a bit loud with your passion last night. Thought you might want to know in case others might complain."

The neighbor responded "what are you talking about? I've been working the night shift the past few weeks."
Love it!
 

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I also wondered what folks did in apartments... Maybe play music during, increased tv volume, or gag them/use pillow, or do laundry...I would think other sound would act like white-noise and help cover up what’s actually going on.
Disclaimer- I’ve not tested these methods.ha
 

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Its tough. I remember one set of staight neighbors above me who would go at it just about every night around 10PM. The sex was less annoying then listening to them talk afterwords- they used tons of pet names and would talk about bodily functions and stuff. The guy (I assume) would also fart loudly after finishing- I wasn't offended or annoyed by hearing them, more just embarrassed for them. I couldn't help hearing them, but I always felt sort of dirty.
 

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I was fortunate (or maybe unfortunate?) that the apartment I used to live in, my bedroom wall was not shared with another bedroom, but a staircase. I would occasionally hear music through the shared walls, but never sex. My next door neighbor's bedroom did share a bedroom wall with his neighbor on the other side. He told me she was a "screamer" and he definitely knew when her boyfriend was over as they would go at it 3-4 times a night!

@la6nine I would make sure the TV was one, or music is playing when you have someone over. Unless you are very loud or very vocal, your neighbors will probably never know that you are having sex!
 
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In my first apartment my Neighbor was a middle aged single woman. I worked nights and would get up around 9 to be at work at 11:00. One day I was getting ready to go to sleep and taking off my clothes in the closet. I could hear noise but was not sure what it was, but it did not take long to figure it out.

It turned out to be the postman and he brought her a "special delivery" almost everyday. She seemed to enjoy herself and was quite vocal while he mostly grunted as he fucked her.

It was like having a private porn theater. I guess it also made me learn to love the audios. Just hearing them fucking day after day was quite a turn on for a someone in their early 20's who wasn't getting near enough.