as anyone every been to a sex party? i have been to a str8 one before and it was amazing but has anyone been to a gay one? can anyone enlighten me?
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I went to a straight sex party some years ago with a girl I was hooking up with at the time it was amazing, as the OP and others have said: hours and hours of nsa sex, basically.
Never been to a gay one, but I imagine they might be even more amazing if that's your scene.
Never been to a gay one, but I imagine they might be even more amazing if that's your scene.
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I've been enjoying group sex since I was 18; I'd define a sex party as more than four, myself included.
These are great provided there's a proper balance of tops, versatiles and bottoms (which isn't always the case, at least here in FtL). The ones I've participated in over the last ~six years or so have been, generally, much more laid back, with relatively brief (10-15 mins) periods of activity in twos and/or threes before changing up, rotating, taking breaks, chatting, etc. In a lot of ways, they're just a lot of nude guys hanging out with sex going on here and there intermittently.
There's almost always at least one guy on the computer inviting more guys in, as guys will come and go over the period of the party, which can last anything from an all-nighter to an entire weekend. I've always been surprised by the really high caliber of men I meet at these things, at least as far as looks and sexual agility are concerned. Frequently couples will arrive together and play both apart and with others. There's usually porn playing on a TV with the volume turned off and music playing.
A really big caveat: almost all of the ones I've been to recently have been PnP affairs (PnP=Party & Play, where the "party" is generally meth). I don't party myself, but as a non-versatile top that definitely works to my advantage (no hardon issues), and I'm usually pretty cool about what others do as long as it's understood that I won't partake myself. Because these tend to be PnP, you can generally tell who brought the drugs because he's inevitably the least attractive guy in the room
The other thing is that, for a variety of reasons (including drug use or serosorting) safer sex precautions have rarely if ever been taken into consideration at the parties I've been to. OTOH, I've also met plenty of guys who set and keep their limits, including just wanting to watch; as in real life, not everyone's interested in anal sex anyway. In fact, the sex is generally pretty vanilla unless they're specifically themed as "dungeon parties", in which case one should know what one's getting into by attending such things.
The last thing I'd caution against is hosting a sex party oneself. It's much more fun (and poses a lot less risk) being a guest.
These are great provided there's a proper balance of tops, versatiles and bottoms (which isn't always the case, at least here in FtL). The ones I've participated in over the last ~six years or so have been, generally, much more laid back, with relatively brief (10-15 mins) periods of activity in twos and/or threes before changing up, rotating, taking breaks, chatting, etc. In a lot of ways, they're just a lot of nude guys hanging out with sex going on here and there intermittently.
There's almost always at least one guy on the computer inviting more guys in, as guys will come and go over the period of the party, which can last anything from an all-nighter to an entire weekend. I've always been surprised by the really high caliber of men I meet at these things, at least as far as looks and sexual agility are concerned. Frequently couples will arrive together and play both apart and with others. There's usually porn playing on a TV with the volume turned off and music playing.
A really big caveat: almost all of the ones I've been to recently have been PnP affairs (PnP=Party & Play, where the "party" is generally meth). I don't party myself, but as a non-versatile top that definitely works to my advantage (no hardon issues), and I'm usually pretty cool about what others do as long as it's understood that I won't partake myself. Because these tend to be PnP, you can generally tell who brought the drugs because he's inevitably the least attractive guy in the room
The other thing is that, for a variety of reasons (including drug use or serosorting) safer sex precautions have rarely if ever been taken into consideration at the parties I've been to. OTOH, I've also met plenty of guys who set and keep their limits, including just wanting to watch; as in real life, not everyone's interested in anal sex anyway. In fact, the sex is generally pretty vanilla unless they're specifically themed as "dungeon parties", in which case one should know what one's getting into by attending such things.
The last thing I'd caution against is hosting a sex party oneself. It's much more fun (and poses a lot less risk) being a guest.
I have a long standing fantasy to participate in one or several, but my shyness is what has stopped me when I had the chance. As previously stated, I understand some do the pnp thing to make it more euphoric and perhaps in my case, it would help me to relax and lose my inhibitions. However, I value my health and my limits, so I dont fear "losing control" but I just dont think I could it without going with someone I knew, who had experienced them.
I was wondering if Bbucko offers mentoring or tutoring or would perhaps consider acting as a guide? LOL!
I would like to hear more about others exps. Bbucko gave me the impression that these arent attended my unattractive loser sleaze/douchebags.
I was wondering if Bbucko offers mentoring or tutoring or would perhaps consider acting as a guide? LOL!
I would like to hear more about others exps. Bbucko gave me the impression that these arent attended my unattractive loser sleaze/douchebags.
I've been to a few. In college there were some straight ones at the Fraternity house. While there was some drinking, no one was really drunk. No one was on drugs. Penetrative sex was safe. It was my introduction to multiple things including taking a girl anally. Good memories.
A couple years back I got to be the entertainment for a friend of a friend's bachelorette party. It was fun being a piece of meat for some partying women. A couple months after I ran into the now husband. He'd seen the pictures and let me know he really liked them.
A couple years back I got to be the entertainment for a friend of a friend's bachelorette party. It was fun being a piece of meat for some partying women. A couple months after I ran into the now husband. He'd seen the pictures and let me know he really liked them.
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I have always wanted to be with a group and just get plowed at both ends being filled with cum and piss. I can never find enough guys because I live in a very small town in a rural setting. It is even hard to find one guy - I have advertised on CL but not much action.
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I've mentored several guys both online and IRL, on many issues but most importantly as regards sex, safer-sex and limit-lining.
As some one who has been HIV+ since 1984, and active sexually beginning in the later 70s (you cannot imagine: really
), I've been negotiating through the barbed wire for nearly 30 years. I understand that the line that I draw in the sand might, sadly and occasionally, push someone otherwise reasonable into an existence as hedonistic as my own. Let's make it clear: I don't offer role models (unless you're vastly self-destructive, fearlessly, recklessly so) but my wealth of experience can, perhaps, open doors which you didn't otherwise even know existed.I never judge, never preach but I do offer candid and real-life counsel as regards the hazards and rewards of livin' la vida loca in the 21st century. That's sorta my job here
I can share my experiences and whatever expertise I may have, but the risks you take for the pleasures you seek remain your own. Just be warned in advance that I live with the consequences of every decision made throughout my adult life.
PM me at your pleasure.
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It's basically a free for all: when I've been someone's guest at a party, he's watched me fuck other guys and waited his turn. It's another aspect of the sort of extreme sex I've posted about so much here.
If something starts and continues casually, then there's no room for jealousy or ownership: he was as free to get fucked as I was to fuck others. Ultimately I saved my load for him, but that was my choice and our mutual understanding; these things don't have rules as such.
Other times I've been with a gangbang bottom (more than one, actually), in which case exclusivity is not even considered as part of the puzzle. In fact, any feelings that way would have impeded our mutual pleasure. It depends on the guy and what you really want: fun's fun, commitment's commitment. They cannot be compared, not really.
I got invited to two, but only went to one. The one I didn't go to was a gay one and with a whole bunch of people I didn't know or trust. Of course, no one knew anyone. The rule was that they had to bring an authentic paper saying you don't have STDs
The one I did go to was a key party. You older guys that were around during the 70s would know. Take your keys and put it in a bowl with the others. Which ever lady picked up your keys would be taken home by you. I didn't know what the bowl was for, thought it was because I planned to drink. When it came down to taking home the girl I was a little shocked. We were all friends. Some of us were couples, but this "swinger" party was not what I thought it was. I only knew the term from the Aristocats movie. I've seen enough of my friends naked, but this is the genuine sex party that was meant to be. Others just turned into sex, without my consent.
The one I did go to was a key party. You older guys that were around during the 70s would know. Take your keys and put it in a bowl with the others. Which ever lady picked up your keys would be taken home by you. I didn't know what the bowl was for, thought it was because I planned to drink. When it came down to taking home the girl I was a little shocked. We were all friends. Some of us were couples, but this "swinger" party was not what I thought it was. I only knew the term from the Aristocats movie. I've seen enough of my friends naked, but this is the genuine sex party that was meant to be. Others just turned into sex, without my consent.
Hey, I just posted about a sex party I went to a couple weeks ago..
http://www.lpsg.org/254057-my-first-sex-party-mfmfmfm.html
Good times...
http://www.lpsg.org/254057-my-first-sex-party-mfmfmfm.html
Good times...
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I fantasize about participating in a group grope. I dream of being a bottom for everyone there but the realization of poz guys being there and not disclosing this keeps me away from realizing my dream. I'm not sure how to safe guard my (or everyone's) health.
My ex-wife and I use to host swinger/orgy parties years ago. It was a great time to say the least! Although we hosted "straight" parties for the most part we did have a few bi/gay males and females who would play on their own. Most parties start out with dinner and LOTS of drinks and end with an all out fuck-fest of naked bodies all over the house. During these parties pretty much anything goes! Until you've been or hosted one of these amazing times you don't know what you're missing!!!
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