Sex Question For Straight Guys Who Are Above Average

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So i know there are a ton of brag threads and I swear this isn't one of them. I am legit interested.

So i am 7 or a little over and 5.5 midshaft and slightly over 6 at the base when fully hard. I never have considered that big. But I have been way more often than I had imagined running into sex issues. Obviously not all the time, but for example my last 3 partners gave me issues. I have women telling me that it hurts and try to keep me from fucking hard or not letting me fuck them from behind or keeping the session short because they get sore and their explanation is that it hurts. The last partner would jump went I went all the way in. I am no moron and spend time on foreplay and they are really wet so i know it isn't a being turned on issue. This is very frustrating because my favorite partners have loved rough sex and doggy style is one of my favorites and this has been a big buzz kill and I cant cum when going that slow if how hard I am going is the issue. I obviously listen and don't press the issue with them. Her enjoying herself is my main focus.

What percentage of women do you run into this type of stuff with?
Do you feel partners age and sex experience plays into it?
Any ways you guys address this?

I never bring this up to my friends because it sounds like I am a bragging douche. But I also almost never hear guys who have this issue.
 
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So..... Three partners in a row have told you what you're doing isn't fun for them/hurts/stop it... And, you interpret that as them giving *you* issues?
From what you've said here.... You're not that big & you feel the need to pound away & they don't like it.
The issue I see is that maybe your technique sucks.
Or, at the very least, you haven't found a partner who likes what you do yet.
I mean,.. Honestly, what kind of answers were you hoping to get here?
Ways to talk her into doing something she hates?
What if she told you she could only get off by giving you a sandpaper handjob?
Your description of your "need" sounds like a dude who watched too much porn.
 
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So I see how you come to that conclusion. I am not ego based and I feel that what you re saying isn't the issue. Everything is working other than certain positions. And there are different issues for different girls. Trust me I have run over if the issues is technique or approach and I can honestly day no
 
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I'm asking a question that I wouldn't ask my friends in person on a site where sexx issues are discussed. If you are coming to a conclusion that I am a douche and trying to find ways to trick women into doing things than I have nothing other to say than you didnt read all of my post or take parts of it seriously where I mentioned that sex being enjoyable for both parties is my biggest worry.
 
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How about this.... Have a conversation with them & get more information...?
3 in a row with the same complaint is outside the odds of it being a fluke.

And...I read the entire post... More than once.
Maybe you should read a bit... Because, I didn't call you a douche anywhere in it.
 

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Yea it is a discussed topic but it's weird as a guy to push to hard on asking. One answer was from behind it was too deep. And too rough, but I obviously slowed down. Two of the girls were in early 20s and I can tell were lower on the experience level and the other was absolutly tiny.
 

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You dont believe size is relative? You have never been with differing size vaginas and had different experiences from larger ones?
 
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Of course women can have some variation with their actions. Very few women could accommodate my partner fully out of the 50+ women he has been with. I can't, not in every position. Some positions it hurts.

Age being a factor? No. Experience? Only in that inexperienced women may not know how to move/handle their body as well, potentially. Just like an inexperienced man.

My partner doesn't try to shove all of himself in me in positions where it hurts. Go figure.
 
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You're 1/2 an inch thicker than me, same length. I've experienced the same issue with all but a couple of women I've been with.

The problem is that you're long enough to hit their cervix. The analogy is if some positions or motions they liked (or thought they should use) gave you a good or repeated "love tap" to the sack. You have to be careful when you're balls deep. Don't pound away until they ask/beg for it. It's not a matter of "they're good and wet" or "they're turned on". It's a matter of when they're ready for it. With my wife, it's after she's had an orgasm. She really likes doggy then, and the "danger" of "one wrong move". We have figured out the position that is "safe", I can go to town, and she loves it.

You can find a position where their cervix lands above or below the head of your dick, and doesn't get punched...
 
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I guess I am the old guy been with the same woman for 20 years, with lots of dick drama.
Prior history:
When I was in college I was sold by my friends twice because of my size but that is not the real story. Of the 2 I was sold off, neither could deep throat me and only 1 fucked me and she took me cowgirl.
Stats: All we checked was length, my 2 best friends and their girls agreed I was 8 inches and 3/8. My shaft after my head was the same width as my head then tapered to an hourglass mid shaft then to same width at the head at the base.
Now the meat of my sexual experiences.
My story is interesting and I hope none of you follow me.
Back to the beginning of finding the love of my life. Started dating a lovely 23 y/o from the office, I was 28 at the time. I was big an honest 8. We dated for 2 months when she chose to give me her virginity. I went in just deep enough for her to flinch and say stop. My head was just in, that is all.
We decided....she decided I was going to be her husband she went for the sex thing full steam ahead.
She took all 8 inches of me, it took just about 2 years to go balls deep and 2 and 1/2 years to cum in her. Yes 2+ years before I dropped my first vaginal load in her.
We started out using missionary and can still only use missionary with her ass on a small pillow. Doggy, cowgirl all cause her pain. It has always been painful to her for me to enter but after 2 mins of just laying with me in her she was ready. Our sex life was going great. We had sex all the time, she was into a little rough handling after a while but never could do a BJ, cannot open her mouth far enough.
One night during sex my left nut began hurting to the point I had to stop. This where I hope none of you follow. I had testicular cancer and had to have my nut cut out.
I was cleared to have sex if I was able while the plan was made to cut it off. I got a single shot of chemo Then I became Uniballer. I was still turned on by her, still ate pussy every night I could but I could not get hard.
Doctor said it was because of my nonexistent testosterone level because my right nut was not working yet.
After 8 months I could get hard enough to penetrate but not hard enough to give me the curve or purple head. A few years passed and I got her pregnant but with very low testosterone levels. The doctor put me on injectable testosterone, still I am just almost 7 on a good day.
Now at 6-7 I still cause some pain, I still bottom her out, I think I grow just before I cum. She is happier that I am smaller but misses my size because I was proud of it and she liked the look and heft.

Yes, I have had issues with size. At over 8” I was turned down a few times. At 8”my best friends both let their women use me. (Yes I had sex with my best friends wives with the dudes watching then getting sloppy seconds.) I was also sold by my friends to their friends who claimed to want a dude with a big cock. All sales took place at one of their homes with a large hot tube and lots of alcohol. Best price they got for me was $25 and a case of Flat Tire Beer.
Yes, I have hurt my wife if I am too eager and start before she is ready. All the foreplay in the world does nothing to stretch her.
I have also suffered a size loss, unable to get hard for 8 months, I lost at least 1 inch.
 
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Yea I had a recent partner over last night it went better than the first time. So she told me it I only hurt when I went all the way in missionary. Which is new to me and that is why I was confused. I think I have only had one other partner with the same issue. Easy solve because I just started short stroking. New feeling because past partners loved full deep strokes.
 
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i've had zero issues with this problem. here's why...

when she tells me it hurts, we adjust until it doesn't, period. sex should be enjoyable for both. everyone women is different. i have been with women wherein sex just didn't work out and we went our own ways, done. i have been with women wherein sex was amazing and i was able to pound away balls-deep without any issue and they loved it, even if a little pain was present.

the point is that you make it work and if it won't work then move on. plenty of pussy out there that can take on your dick any day or night of the week.
 
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