SEX..Too Much Sex??

[ItalianT]

Me and my girlfriend have been goin out for almost 6 months, the sex is great and we have it pretty much every day, sometimes more. Don't get me wrong I can't complain.. buuuttt sometimes it just gets to be too much.. Today we had really good sex.. I got her off before I cummed which I do almost every time and an hour later she wanted to go again and I just wasn't in the mood so we didn't and she got upset and we ended up not talking the rest of the day.. WTF I dno what to do... Am I in the wrong or what?????? What should I do..

 

[Frnkd213]

Now is the time to define your relationship. Is it based on sex or love? From her reaction it seems it is sex. (you do have an irresistible dick). If it's love, talk about and work on communication especially on sex and her response when you didn't want to have it at that moment.

If your relationship is based on sex, enjoy while you can cause it won't last. One of you will eventually begin to value other parts of a relationship. Talk it out and see where both of you want to take it. Still young. Enjoy what there is to enjoy, as long as both agree.

 

[B_Hung Jon]

It seems you have some communication issues. It works better to discuss sexual/emotional topics when you're both in a good mood and not fighting. Explain to her what your feelings are: that you didn't feel like having any more sex that day. Tell her why. If people can understand each other's motivations, then there will be harmony in the relationship. All the best.

 

[Gecko4lif]

Stick it in her ass before she rapes you while your sleeping

 

[B_625girth]

sex is great but better if you are in love with each other. I found that some women for a few days a month want nothing more than a cock pounding them, and a week later not so much.

my wife, before and after we were married was very blunt about sex....I been thinking about your big cock all day long... we would fuck...I'm gonna need that again, etc. I knew that in about the middle of the month, my cock better be good to go for a few days. I turned her on to good sex, her 1st orgasm, her 1st big cock, and she expected me to give it to her good. she wasn't demanding about it, she wasn't just taking it. she turned me on, rode me. she gave as well as she got. we fucked 5-6 times a day. there were times when work or circumstances got in the way but there was always time to make up. sounds like you guys need some communication and some maturity.

 

[Chaotica]

an hour later she wanted to go again

It's possible she would have been happy with you just going down on her to finish her off quickly. No need to do the whole kit and caboodle.

 

[ItalianT]

Thanks for the responses guys

 

[helgaleena]

Be up front with her. A man has limits to what he can manage, and every day is far more often than the majority of people when it comes to having sex. If she can't be realistic and adjust to give you time to recuperate, she's being selfish and will probably have to figure out some other way to meet her needs. You can help with other ways to make her come, which also have the great side effect of not causing pregnancy. But she also has to realize it's up to her to be in charge of her own satisfaction, and what she finds most valuable in your relationship.

 

[Incocknito]

I don't see how this is an issue. It's not as if you have to be doing all the work all the time. Sometimes you could just let her suck you off while you read a book.

Or she could ride you while you watch a film. Or you could lay next to each other and masturbate each other.

But if these are one or two hour sessions then she should realise that you're not a machine. If they are (relatively) brief ten or fifteen minute sessions then that may be part of the problem. One big one is better than four small ones. As they say...

 

[Charles Finn]

get a toy so that when you do not want to play either her or you can use the toy

 

[MickeyLee]

she sounds like a do-me queen.

and you sounded tired. for true, if you're doing all the work, of course you don't wanna throw ya A-game all the time. she needs to be a bit more responsible for her own orgasm. if she's wiling to meet you half way, or, shocker of shockers, take on the aggressive roll while you lay back and get to be sexually pampered.. woohooo.. i am sure you'd be down for the second round...

It's possible he would have been happy with you just blowing him to finish him off quickly. No need to do the whole kit and caboodle.

wow. sounds kinda shitty when you flip genders, huh?

would you suggest a woman just suck off her man to finish him off, even if she's not in the mood/tired/busy/whatever? respect goes both ways. she was out of line to throw a fit. just likes a man would be in the same situation.

 

[hud01]

Me and my girlfriend have been goin out for almost 6 months, the sex is great and we have it pretty much every day, sometimes more. Don't get me wrong I can't complain.. buuuttt sometimes it just gets to be too much.. Today we had really good sex.. I got her off before I cummed which I do almost every time and an hour later she wanted to go again and I just wasn't in the mood so we didn't and she got upset and we ended up not talking the rest of the day.. WTF I dno what to do... Am I in the wrong or what?????? What should I do..

Two things. When I was your age, actually into my mid 30's, I wanted it at least two or three times a day. Hell on many weekends we would go at it two or three times before breakfast. You might want to think about is it her, or your sex drive.

The second is normally you have the most sex iin the first year of your relationship. There is an old saying, that if you put a coin in a jar for everytime you have sex during the first two years of a relationship and then take one out for everytime you have sex after that the jar will never empty. That is an absolute that is not always true, but it gives you an idea.

 

[Frnkd213]

Two things. When I was your age, actually into my mid 30's, I wanted it at least two or three times a day. Hell on many weekends we would go at it two or three times before breakfast. You might want to think about is it her, or your sex drive.

The second is normally you have the most sex iin the first year of your relationship. There is an old saying, that if you put a coin in a jar for everytime you have sex during the first two years of a relationship and then take one out for everytime you have sex after that the jar will never empty. That is an absolute that is not always true, but it gives you an idea.

Been married 27 years and if I did this we would barely make a dent, how true. Haha.

 

[pplwatching]

In today's world of instant and always on porn, plus the media's spin on men and sex, sometimes women get the idea that men are all about sex. If a woman is offering it, we should want it right then.

If she is using sex as a security blanket, to reaffirm your desire for and commitment to her then sex becomes a red herring. Women sometimes get the idea that if they're offering it and we don't want it, that we're rejecting them. If sex is about affirmation and not about being together and completing each other, then her reaction is a symptom of a deeper issue in your relationship.

I think it's important to sit down and talk about your relationship. How does she honestly feel about your commitment to her? How does she feel about herself (her self esteem)?

Next you need to ask yourself what other things you do to make her feel loved when you don't want sex. Nonverbal (and non-sexual) communication is the glue. What other things can you do for her to make her feel loved and secure in your relationship?

Even if you weren't having sex every day, not wanting sex has nothing to do with love and acceptance. It is a function of hormones. There will be times in her life when she has no interest, and there will be times when you have no interest. Love and commitment are what motivate us to connect with our lover in non sexual ways during those times, and that's what keeps the relationship humming along.

Just my $.02. Best of luck to you.

 

[MickeyLee]

damn, you are good!


still....
a person should be able to say "not in the mood" without a therapy session to follow.

 

[rob_just_rob]

I don't think you're in the wrong. It takes two to tango - if one person wants sex more than the other does, the person who doesn't want it has the right to say no.

I'd suggest talking to her about this. Is she sort of insecure? I've known a few women who depended on sex for their self-esteem.

 

[helgaleena]

good point, rob. It may be her way of coping with feelings of emptiness and self-hatred. Do please find out, you two. Communicate.

 

[MickeyLee]

she needs to figure out what she's feeling.

don't put all the responsibility on your shoulders. y'all been together for six months.
the only thing you have to do is figure out what you're willing to put up with. how much support you're willing to lend.

 

[dolfette]

anyone who throws tantrums to try to emotionally blackmail you into putting out? abusive. male or female.
everyone is entitled not to be in the mood.

honestly, if a female pal told you her guy was pressuring her into sex she didn't always want, what would you tell her?

i'm less bothered about the reasons and excuses than everyone else here. to me an abuse is an abuse. no excuses.

 

[MickeyLee]

is a hardcore double standard. :frown: