Sex w/gf ruined by big ex - help

[petergroot]

I posted a fucking picture dipshit, and seriously, you and fade both can go fuck yourselves with chainsaws. Fuck this site and fuck all of you.

Oops.
The kids are throwing tantrums.
Toys out the cot.

 

[jimmyjohn2018]

Talk to her about it. She is obviously with you for you not only your cock.

 

[693987]

Once a woman gets bored with a man, that’s the end for him, and women always get bored after 1-4 years (there have been many studies that back this up).

Uh, no, no we don't all always get bored, actually. Just because you and your partners may be happy in your non-monogamous relationship sure as heck doesn't mean those who are happily monogamous are doing it wrong. Different relationship styles for different folks. My way isn't automatically better than your way. Your way isn't automatically better than my way.

Oh, and human females need sex too. And some don't. Just like human males need sex. And some don't. Your posts include a lot of sweeping generalizations that disintegrate in the face of common sense... Asexuality is a thing. Loyalty is a thing. I'm not going to leave my partner in spite of missing sex a lot, just because he's healing from an injury. Due to it I haven't gotten to be intimate in a while, and won't be for months yet. I love him and am loyal to him all the same. I've also been monogamous with him for more than the four years that you keep mentioning. I find him interesting, exciting, and sexy as hell. I love to pounce on him. I'm extremely attracted to him.

Are you going to flip the fuck out on me again for having an opinion you probably don't like? You come across as unstable as fuck, but sure, using people to make you feel less insecure seems like the way to go. I'm sure there won't be any repercussions from that.

 

[Tight_N_Juicy]

Well, I have proven to myself once and for all that the key to happiness for a man is ethical non-monogamy. My gf has had my blessing to do anything she wants with anyone she’d like, we have no rules, and the same applies for me.

I have a new 22yr old gf that I’ve added to my life, as well as a gorgeous older woman, and that has made a tremendous amount of difference. In monogamy, a man can really feel threatened by past partners, but the truth is it’s monogamy itself that is the enemy. Once a woman gets bored with a man, that’s the end for him, and women always get bored after 1-4 years (there have been many studies that back this up).

The strangest thing, but when she plays with others, I’m more attracted to her, and she is more attracted to me. When I play with others, I feel better about myself, which makes me feel extremely sexy.

Having my younger gf tell me last night, “of course I was screaming, you were “inside of inside of me” (that exact phrase) is hella good for my confidence and ego, and judge all you want, men thrive on that shit.

Happiness is non-monogamy. Who the fuck cares who’s bigger/better when it’s an all you can eat buffet for all?

Maybe women get bored with YOU after 4 years.

Quit speaking on my behalf. I won't tell people what you'll do as a man. Don't pull that shit on us, please n thanks.

 

[dragondance]

The study I quoted was lead by a female researcher. Exceptions and anecdotal evidence aside, the facts of human biology are what they are. I didn’t make them, and you can believe as hard as you’d like, they’re not going to change.

As I said in my post, men aren’t entitled to get the sex they need, they must earn it, or go without. Way to shoot for the cheap PC points, but I anticipated your response and you failed to even read my post. Good try though.

Fade, I give you props for loyalty, but I’m not personally interested in that. All women I date are encouraged to date as many men/women as they like, and are free to do whatever they want, whenever they want. That seems like a pretty progressive stance to me.

Also, everyone I date knows exactly what they’re getting with me, so I’m not using anyone. I’m actually pretty popular, exactly because of who I am and how I conduct myself.

I may have been emotionally cuckolded for the night, but I crawled back out of the hole, dusted myself off and am good as new.

I’ve spent plenty of time in therapy, years and years and years, and you can judge all you want.
I’m happy most of the time, and I’m not afraid to admit when I’m not. I live out loud, and you’re all welcome to keep enjoying the ongoing story. I assure you my life is quite real, unfiltered, and every bit as exciting as I say it is.

If you’re disappointed that I’m not still crushed and crying in therapy, well, damn. That’s pretty fucked up that you wish continuous misery on another human being because they have occasional moments of despair. I suspect you would not hold up to the level of scrutiny you try to hand out.

Toodles peeps, gotta go make my girl cum tonight, as requested.

PS-Her ex was longer, but i’m thicker, as is usually the case in my encounters. Happy day for me, sucks for all you haters.

Life is good.

 

[deleted1138933]

Stop being and acting like an ass.

Your girl either loves you for *all* the things you are or she doesn't. Any adult woman will tell you that cock size is one of her least concerns in a relationship.

Yeah right. Yet theyvare here. And theyr’re always talking about it And making comments

 

[someperson]

II’ve been to shit tons of therapy, sex therapists, etc, and none of it helps at all. I sleep with a variety of women, which she is aware, and that helps a little, but I just feel like our intimacy is ruined for me.

Any advice?

well you need to try and get your money back since they failed lol

Happy adjusted person without sex? You guys are fucking psychotic.

Human males NEED sex. Not want. NEED. It’s not something they’re entitled to, they have to earn it, and since they NEED it, most of us do.

You’re based in a puritanical horseshit frame of mind that says you can’t be happy all the time. You most certainly can.

I posted this because my primary caught me off guard with something that really penetrated my psyche. I didn’t post it because there’s something wrong with me. You guys then proceeded to jump on me as if there is something wrong with me for having emotions and some vulnerability. That’s okay. I feel sorry for all of you who can’t get off of your fat asses long enough to experience true emotions. You can continue to live vicariously through characters vulnerable artists create to entertain you as you sit in your living room.

1) read this article. It’s about a very in depth scientific study that found monogamous women lose all attraction for their male partners within 1-4 years, regardless of the situation. It’s science bitch.

Unexcited? There May Be a Pill for That

2) I know she’s had bigger dicks than me. All my FWBs have had and will continue to have sex with guys with bigger dicks than me. Not as often as they will have sex with me though, because I have some serious fucking game, in and out of the bedroom, and though some guys might have a bigger cock than me, very few bring my level of swag to the table. Sorry bitches, that’s why I’m the dick your girls and guys go to when they’re bored as shit with you, and they actually WANT to have sex.

I had an emotional breakdown because she caught me completely off guard on the best day I’d ever had with her, when I was in a state of utter bliss and love, in a public place, and she showed me fucking pictures. You fucking deal with that without having some feelings. If you don’t have any bad feelings from that, you’re dead inside. Yes, YOU bitch, you’re dead inside.

3) Just because you think you understand what emotional health looks like, does not make it so. You’re slinging around your experience as if it’s the gospel. You are one person. One. Your experience doesn’t scratch the surface of the range of human consciousness, let alone right and wrong. You’re seriously at a sociopathic level of Internet self-confidence if you think you can judge other people’s feelings as right and wrong.

If you think sex is a luxury and not a need, Fine, enjoy a miserable life. I am happy 90% of the time. I have my moments, but the vast majority of my life is very happy. Long term happiness is very much achievable, and yes, regular sex is a HUGE component of that. If you think it isn’t, you’re either lying to yourself or you are willing to accept unhappiness as a necessary part of life, which it most certainly is not.


In summary, I have emotions, and I talked about them freely in an Internet forum, which was unbelievably stupid of me, but I did. You bitches that commented on the other hand, are just that. Bitches trying to ostracize someone else for being vulnerable. That must be really sad.

Welp, time for my overly emotional ass to go get laid. What are you bitches doing tonight?

I'm 29 and never had sex I don't really care much
but my penis and balls do... they try really hard I have to be careful because if they take over my eyes I might end up with a random person...

my eyes tend to do almost all they work...

you have no self control

 

[deleted1138933]

huge cock is cool and all but not everything in sex man. you may have the moves

What moves it is not rocket science because in it goes out into either long enough to reach and thick enough to fill or it’s not. Easy To talk for a guy who has and was born with everything

 

[693987]

Wow, one study said something? There are studies for creationism too. It doesn't mean what the study is saying is actually fact or applies to everyone. It's beyond foolish to think a single study with a small sample size means everyone follows a given behavior pattern.

Your lack of personal interest doesn't matter. I exist and my life choices refute your attempt to say all women behave in x manner.

 

[dragondance]

Plenty of people point to lots of anniversaries as proof of the success of monogamous relationships.

Anniversaries don’t equal happiness.

I’m sure you’re an exception to the rule Fade, genuinely. I’m sure you have a vibrant monogamous sex life with a man you have loved, admired and adored for many years. I’m also absolutely positive you are just that; an exception.

Look around at the relationships of the typical people you know. Do you really think I’m wrong?

I cited one study, it is not the only one. There are many, performed in many different cultures. 1-4 years is the mating cycle of the typical human female. We call it serial monogamy, where 80% of all breakups are initiated by the female, because their man suddenly fucks up to badly to be forgiven at, coincidentally, the 1-4 year mark.

It’s not a rule, it’s a pattern. A very distinct, very often repeated and most importantly, predictable, pattern.

Mr. Hugecock ironically fell prey to this same biological phenomenon. He was dumped after 1.5 years because she had “finally had enough of his shit”.

She got bored.

I’ve encouraged her to hook up with him and she’s clearly very turned off by the idea.

He was monogamous, and THAT is a way bigger deal than having a long, and not as thick as my own, cock.

Happiness awaits those who acknowledge reality.

 

[giantguy23]

What moves it is not rocket science because in it goes out into either long enough to reach and thick enough to fill or it’s not. Easy To talk for a guy who has and was born with everything

I girl cheat on me with a guy with a smaller one. She said to me you "I thought you are a dream guy cause size, height and all but it's too much for me you almost hurt me every time, sex with him was so easy". So yeah huge one is not mean that girls will line and take it balls deep...

 

[deleted1138933]

I girl cheat on me with a guy with a smaller one. She said to me you "I thought you are a dream guy cause size, height and all but it's too much for me you almost hurt me every time, sex with him was so easy". So yeah huge one is not mean that girls will line and take it balls deep...

That is an exception, and small(er) does not mean small

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Plenty of people point to lots of anniversaries as proof of the success of monogamous relationships.

Anniversaries don’t equal happiness.

I’m sure you’re an exception to the rule Fade, genuinely. I’m sure you have a vibrant monogamous sex life with a man you have loved, admired and adored for many years. I’m also absolutely positive you are just that; an exception.

Look around at the relationships of the typical people you know. Do you really think I’m wrong?

I cited one study, it is not the only one. There are many, performed in many different cultures. 1-4 years is the mating cycle of the typical human female. We call it serial monogamy, where 80% of all breakups are initiated by the female, because their man suddenly fucks up to badly to be forgiven at, coincidentally, the 1-4 year mark.

It’s not a rule, it’s a pattern. A very distinct, very often repeated and most importantly, predictable, pattern.

Mr. Hugecock ironically fell prey to this same biological phenomenon. He was dumped after 1.5 years because she had “finally had enough of his shit”.

She got bored.

I’ve encouraged her to hook up with him and she’s clearly very turned off by the idea.

He was monogamous, and THAT is a way bigger deal than having a long, and not as thick as my own, cock.

Happiness awaits those who acknowledge reality.

First, earlier you implied several times that we're "haters" and wish to see you fail.

Not one post said or implied this. Several including mine stated that what you're doing is doomed to failure. Note the distinction between a prediction and a wish.

Next: Citing studies. For every study that tries to tear down monogamy, there are ten that support it. The statistics for multiple partner relationships aren't very promising either. That doesn't mean they all fail. But those that succeed don't do so because the participants had issues with one another. Successful relationships, both poly and mono, are built on a strong foundation. Not emotional roller coasters and cuckholding.

And finally, your last sentence is true. Sadly you are avoiding the reality of your own relationship. In all your words I haven't seen you mention a solid discussion of your issue with your girlfriend.

 

[Brian S]

I love the fact that you think I'm puritanical. I've been called a lot of things, but puritanical has never been one of them. In fact, at the risk of sounding like I'm reverse bragging, my sexual partner count broke triple digits...back in 2003, when I stopped counting. That's including the times I gave no recip blowjobs, but I think it counts for these purposes. I was a gay boy with a pretty decent body, low inhibitions, and absolutely no morals. But that's beside the point.

The point is you're still conflating sexual gratitude with genuine, inherent fulfillment. I'm not talking about whether fucking multiple women makes you happy - I'm sure it does. I'm talking about your reasons for doing so, which are not the mark of a truly fulfilled person. It doesn't take a PhD to figure this out...

You came out of the gate stating you had an emotional breakdown over the size of another man's dick - which now you're backtracking using braggadocio and saying yours is fatter anyway.

You've mocked monogamy as some nigh-unattainable, puritanical concept. You've outright said everyone else is prudish for not living YOUR "amazing" lifestyle.

You've all but removed men's culpability in relationships, falling on some sexist excuse that all women get bored with men.

You've stated that you would be miserable if you didn't fuck around, and that fucking around quells your jealous nature. This is where you equate sexual WANTS (not needs) to being fulfilled as a person.

You immediately have lashed out at anyone who lives a different life than you claim to, or have different ideas of sexual fulfillment.

You started out this post being an insecure trainwreck yet immediately flipped the script to being some fat-cocked, popular lothario who pleases just, like, SO many women.

If you want to fuck around, fuck around. Have a threesome, have an orgy, eat out ten pussies in a day, get pegged, try watersports, suck a dick, fuck an 80 year old paraplegic trans little person for all I care. But do it because you want to do it, not because it'll quell your jealousy or because your gf's been with a bigger dick, or because you think sex makes you a well-rounded individual, or because you cite some bullshit study about the apparently fickle, wandering beast known as woman.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

The little head can never fix the big head's problems. It's quaint that the OP, after less than a month into his "revelation", truly believes this.

Time.......

Tick tock, tick tock, tick took....

 

[dragondance]

I will give ground on one thing.

You are correct in saying that none of this directly dealt with the underlying problems with the original girlfriend. That is true. The issues with her are still present, although I would say they are more issues with her and not with me.

I have definitely hit the brakes with her emotionally and will do so more and more if she does not demonstrate that she makes my life better by being in it. I would expect her or any other woman to do the same with me.

After really sleeping on it, I overall think everyone here has their heart in the right place, I simply have too much going on to really get it all down here to where you could make an actual assessment of what the hell is happening.

I do appreciate the feedback.

The idea that “those who are laughing now, will be crying later” is a puritanical construct. Tick tock tick tock indeed. That’s right up there with saying, “you got in a car accident. You think just because you now wear your seatbelt, have a safer car with airbags, and drive far less often, you’re not in as much danger? Tick tock tick tock.

Logic and rationality solve an awful lot, even if one loses their composure once in a great while, and puritanical thinking, on the deepest levels, is at the root of “the prison” most Americans build, live in, run, and guard themselves.

Sad day.

 

[AlteredEgo]

Your problem is your own insecurity. Insecurity is not resolved through crutches, but through introspection, guidance, and growth. Regardless what other problems exist, as long as your fear of abandonment/loss manifests the way it does, and you try to cure it by making yourself indifferent, you are unqualified to be anyone's partner. People deserve better than what you are offering. Indifference toward your partner is cruel, whether she is aware of your indifference or not. That's gross.

 

[Brian S]

I'm glad you're starting to see where we're coming from, but literally nobody here is being puritanical.

 

[bobg4400]

FWIW, stay off of Internet porn. The industry is making money promulgating the myth that all "real" men are hung and everyone else is less than adequate in every woman's opinion.

Bullshit.

Unfortunately, this bullshit has tainted quite a few people's impressions of themselves and what "good" sexual relations need to be.

If cock size was the topmost entry in a lover's list of priorities, evolution would have increased cock size for all. Recessive average, below average and micropenis genes would be nonexistent after millions of years of natural selection.

Big may be fun, but as stated earlier, she chose to stay with you. There's got to be a lot more going on than cock size placing you above all the rest.

Evolution has actually resulted in increased penis size though, we have the largest penises of any primate.

You're right about porn, but there really is an evolutionary pressure for larger penises.

Studies of women's preferences indicate that women prefer slightly above-average penises over any other size, and women consistently select an ideal penis in the 6"-7" range, whereas the average penis length is 5.5".

Of course this has virtually no beainrg on our day to day lives, and unless you plan on living for 100s of thousands of years it won't matter to your partners.

 

[ShockTheMonkey]

For what it is worth -- an anonymous quote I ran across earlier today:
"If another man/woman is able to steal your significant other away from you, they probably did you a favor." - Anonymous