At the risk of a "life sentence " in the " shallow prison " , i must say that i prefer my partners to be attractive . What defines attractive ? One's own , unique set of parameters of course . We all know about eye of the beholder etc . I run the risk of drowning in 1/2 an inch of "appearance " water here , but for me , the initial attraction is nearly always visual , though occasionally a distinctive voice demands my attention . What i can tell you for sure , is that i answer to no-one regarding whom or what , i find to be attractive , not then ,not now , not ever . Every day , i do my best not to be a hurtful , self obsessed person , avoiding where ever possible , the day to day offending of others sensibilities to gain personal satisfaction . So no , i do not have sex with women whom i find for whatever reason , to be unattractive . Saves me from a guilt trip later , and spares her feelings of being used ,and cast off .