Sex with a Large Penis: 1st Time, 2nd Time...

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  1. Standard Deviant

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    With all the buildup of penis size by society (in porn, in penis enlargement ads, in literature and erotic art throughout history, in talk among those who have experienced the thrill of hung partners, etc.), I wonder how many others, like me, have found it all but impossible to enjoy sex with a well endowed male partner the first and often even the second time you have sex with them.

    I always found that I was much too nervous, too worried about whether he would like me enough, whether I was "worthy", whether I would do what he liked the way he liked it enough to see him again after the first time or two, and always felt so WOWed by the fact that I had finally found someone hung that I could take a try at a relatinship with, that I inevitably became tongue-tied, over-self conscious, and even had trouble performing sexually. In short, I wanted the experience TOO much.

    It is always complicated by uncertainties about whether he will really appreciate being appreciated for his endowment or feel offended that you put any special attention onto it. If you are really sensitive to his feelings, you can't let loose with expressing certain feelings directly right away, until you have had a chance to kind of feel each other out a bit sexually. You don't want to turn him off, and sometimes things that would really resonate with one person would hurt another's feelings.

    In every case, I felt that if only we could get to a third time, I would feel relaxed enough to "make beautiful music together," but often after being so awkward the first time or two, it seldom reached that point. Have others here had that experience?
     
  2. jonb

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    The first few times are always painful. Personally, if I'm with a virgin, I only put somewhere between five and six inches in at first. With a more experienced girl, it'll be six and seven inches at first. Either way, I gradually put more in over the next few months.
     
  3. Imported

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    Deb: I've never experienced issues of being self-concious or worthy of well-endowed guys. It's usually the other way around...these same guys telling me how beautiful I am and how hot I would be in bed. The guys I've been with kept coming back for more anyway. As for my first time, it was definitely amazing and somewhat painful, but we really enjoyed it. It was only a one time thing, but the next guy I was with was on-going. I guess I've just never had to worry about whether I would find a guy who is really hung and keeping him. This sounds like I'm tooting my own horn, so I'll just shut up now. :)
     
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    I think Standard Deviant was referring to a male-male relationship.
     
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    I think he is, too. Though, not all women are built to take a mini baseball bat.

    My boyfriend is well hung, and I actually try not to mention it TOO much, coz he does get embarrassed by the undue attention. Still, even after 6 months into our relationship, anal sex can be uncomfortable at times. I guess it's all about finding a position that works for the both of you. Some pozzies that suit me, he has problems getting a good thrust, etc...
     
  6. jonb

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    Same difference. But the anal lining is thinner than the vaginal lining, so anal for either case should be slow and gentle.
     
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    Took me a while. He is my 2nd partner & penetration required lots of foreplay & lube & still does or we both get rubbed raw. I had no idea that a penis could get so large. He, on the other hand knew the problems involved w/ someone who had never had a large one, esp. combined w/ someone as tight as I am-his words.
     
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    My wife enjoys my size and says she does'nt have any pain during sex. The problem is she is sore the day after, so we can only have sex about every other day. She has a very tight vagina and it takes some time and plenty of lube to get her loosened up , but once I get in she has no problem with my 8.5" x 6" penis. :p

    Anyone else have this problem? I know it could be alot worse, she might want to have sex at all, and I am not complaining just adding my thoughts. :)

    Just my 2 cents, J.
     
  9. Imported

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    pdrprst: I vote yes. The 1st and 2nd times can be tough, but I find that if you are honest about the difficulties and use lots of patience and lube it can be quite a nice bonding experience. Awww, group hug.
     
  10. txquis

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    I really like what you had to say. Your point of view is one that i can relate to.

    But, for me it doesnt have everything to do with the partner's size.
    I have the jitters with every first and second time with a new partner, no matter what the size.

    I always long for that "third time", when I'm more comfortable all the way around.
     
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    Well, thanks for all the interesting replies. I was definitely talking about the psychological and emotional aspects, not the physical ones. The drama, the expectations, the excitement, the butterflies. I've often thought if there were a lot more well hung guys to go around and no diseases to make it dangerous, or if I lucked into finding just the right, compatible partner who also happened to be well endowed, then it wouldn't be such a roller coaster ride, but never had that luck. No, I wasn't talking at all about physical pain or even immediate physical pleasure--more the mythology and inner thrill of the whole initiation of a relationship with someone with a characteristic that you find super-special beyond words...in my case, awesome cock size is that characteristic.

    And, no, I wasn't talking just about male/male. In fact, I'm really surprised the women were the ones just bringing up the "plumbing" aspects. I would have thought they would have been the more romantic ones. Times have changed.
     
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