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the whole performance insecurities vibe turns me off. too small, cums too quick.. blahblah.. not really a deal breaker, there are heaps of nekkid time fun to be had. guy feeling the need to break out tonka dong to satisfy me? nope. cuz actually seems all about his kicks.

just not a fan of vaginal penetration with toys. is kinda irritating and not fun to me or me jenny. toys are strictly for grinding/fullness. so i wouldn't have any interest in using a strap on with a man during vanilla girl/boy smexy time.

strap-ons have always been reserved for sex with women, or gender queering with like minded souls. so unless the biological male is being penetrated count me out.
 

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I don't know why, but I kind of want your opinion as of lately I have been wondering what it would be like to have sex with a chick, but instead of using my avg size cock, to fuck her with a strap-on with a bigger cock to have that kind of experience, that I know I will never have. Would you ever have sex with a guy that would use one for your benefit and his?


My wife and I have used different toys for quite a while. Some I wear and some I just use with my hands.

We have enjoyed all of them. Some are better than others though. I have links in my signature, of the 2 items we use most often.

Let me know if you have any questions. :)
 

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This is an interesting bunch of responses.

How about this one ladies: What if your husband is a fast cummer, but otherwise great. Maybe even sizeable.

What if he said he wanted to fuck you with a strapon so he could fuck you for a very long time? Would you go for it?
No way. If it is only to help him last longer, I prefer to use other methods that permit me to feel his cock.
 

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I've thought about using an extender for awhile, and even more so lately after reading the posts in this community.

I'm lucky enough that my wife is very tight, even after 2 vaginal births. She says she's perfectly happy with my 4.5x4.5 penis, but then she's never been with anyone else, so she's got nothing to compare to. She's also not very good at estimating dimensions, and is under the impression that I'm average sized (not at my suggestion, she just has no idea what 6" looks like, even though we get Subway's 6" subs all the time).

But I'm tempted to use an extender because:
1. I know she enjoys being stretched, because of how much more she responds to 3 fingers versus only 2 during foreplay. Even when we're talking dirty, she gets really hot when I mention the 3rd finger, even though she'll never admit that she enjoys the stretchig.
2.We only have sex after she has orgasmed from oral/masturbation during foreplay first, yet I only manage to make her come 2/3 of the time via intercourse. She only comes when I go deep (or my version thereof), hard, and fast, which makes me come faster, too.
3. She comes alot harder and alot more often when I use objects on her (handles of cooking utensils, beer bottles, etc), especially if it's EITHER long OR thick. She doesn't like both, only one or the other. She says she prefers sex with me, and have one or no orgasm, versus the multipul orgasms from toys. But many times after we have sex, she asks for post-play (like foreplay, but after sex), because she didn't feel satisfied.
4. I see so many posts here from women, and men regarding their sex partners, about how great the cul-de-sac stimulation is. I'd love to be able to let my wife experience that, and still have the spritual connection of it being delivered by my hip thrusts, and not my hands.
 

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/\ fake weens aren't the same! You aren't going to capture any more magic than whatcha got going for you right now if she's happy with your cock!

Toys of various sizes are cool and all that for makin' mojo in a toying way, but that's a totally different realm of sex than penis'n vag. Use the bigguns' on her when she wants it for toy time, use yourself when it's sex time. :biggthumpup2:

PS: she already knows what the big stuff feels like from what you've said, so a penis extender is just going to be like any other toy of the same dimension... she'll still crave sex with *you*... not you wrapped in it! :spankme::tongue2:
 

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/\ fake weens aren't the same! You aren't going to capture any more magic than whatcha got going for you right now if she's happy with your cock!

Toys of various sizes are cool and all that for makin' mojo in a toying way, but that's a totally different realm of sex than penis'n vag. Use the bigguns' on her when she wants it for toy time, use yourself when it's sex time. :biggthumpup2:

PS: she already knows what the big stuff feels like from what you've said, so a penis extender is just going to be like any other toy of the same dimension... she'll still crave sex with *you*... not you wrapped in it! :spankme::tongue2:

Thanks for the advice.

She SAYS she's happy with mine, but she says she's happy with lots of things contrary to the truth.

A couple of years ago I took 6 months off from the gym because of injury, and got flabby. She told me how she liked me better that way because it's more comfortable to snuggle. But now that I'm back in the gym, she says she's turn on by my re-gained muscles. A couple of weeks ago, she got really hot when she felt my pecs, because I had done chest that night and my pecs were swollen with blood. She kept on feeling up my boobs while riding me, neither of which she normally does.

The problem with toys is that we're not face to face when using them. The intimacy is a big part of what gets her off.

My proposed solution is for her to take a toy in the front while taking me in the back...but after 3 years of trying, still no dice. I even offered to drop the toy in the front, but she won't even compromise by just taking me in the back.

P.S. Can you really tell the difference between real and fake? The cyberskin stuff advertises that it feels like the real thng. I've never actually used a dildo sexually before (only used them to beat pledged in college as a farce). I was hoping that, if it's wrapped around me, she won't be able to tell the difference if we're doing it in missionary.
 
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it's not dishonesty on her part, you muppet. it's that the grass is always greener on her side of the fence. she's seeing all the hot things about what she has now, not lamenting the hot things about what she used to have. soft and buff can both have their own sort of sexiness, especially on someone we love.
 

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P.S. Can you really tell the difference between real and fake? The cyberskin stuff advertises that it feels like the real thng. I've never actually used a dildo sexually before (only used them to beat pledged in college as a farce). I was hoping that, if it's wrapped around me, she won't be able to tell the difference if we're doing it in missionary.

temp. and firmness are two reasons. i had a cyberskin toy and it would get tacky too, so some care or more lube is required
 

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it's not dishonesty on her part, you muppet. it's that the grass is always greener on her side of the fence. she's seeing all the hot things about what she has now, not lamenting the hot things about what she used to have. soft and buff can both have their own sort of sexiness, especially on someone we love.

LOL...you're completely right. I'm not saying she'd dishonest...I'm saying she's easy to please!

I know she's perfectly happy with going to Denny's or Friendy's for dinner. She enjoys my company. But sometimes when we drive by really fancy restaurants where we had business dinners, she'd mention how much she enjoyed going, or their lobster, or some dish. She'd always say that the most important thing was that WE were there together. So, yeah, she's happy with the $5.99 Grand Slam dinner at Denny's, but I'd love to be able to take her for Steak and Turf instead.

My point is, just because she's easy to please, doesn't mean I should allow her to settle for less.
 

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temp. and firmness are two reasons. i had a cyberskin toy and it would get tacky too, so some care or more lube is required

I've heard recommendations of warming it up first, and I totally see your point about the tackiness. What about inside a condom? I'm planning on using a condom over the extender for birth control reasons.

We use condoms with lubricated spermicide. If a condom is used, then she wouldn't be able to feel the surface texture of the material, right?

I guess there's nothing I can do about the firmness. The good thing about having a little penis is that they get really hard.
 

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*ahem, dusts off soapbox*

I think you have it right and wrong at the same the time. To run with watcha' were saying; what makes a fancy dinner special is that you don't, or can't do it every night... it's a treat, something special, and a shared experience.

I know you think the cawk sleeves would probably fit that bill in a parallel man-brained universe :shysmile::sorry:, but what you should do instead is treat her with the less obvious, but *better* things!

Make the mood really romantic, draw her a nice hot bath with some special soaps, smother the whole damn house in rose petals that lead from the front door to the nookie room, fuck in novel places, use massage oils with sex, appreciate the less obvious parts of her body when you romance, work on new techniques to make the most of *you and her*... basically just treat her with genuine, heartfelt romance... not synthesized fun. She *will* appreciate that wayyyy more, and even though you probably think you already treat her really well in bed, just go that little extra mile to slough off the casualness of your typical grind routine.

You just might rekindle or discover something in the bedroom neither of you knew you had. :idea:
PS: all the above takes more than the equivalent cost and effort of a dick sleeve, and that won't go unnoticed!


Fug, I feel like an advice columnist. Sorry if any of that is OT or preachy!
 
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*ahem, dusts off soapbox*

I think you have it right and wrong at the same the time. To run with watcha' were saying; what makes a fancy dinner special is that you don't, or can't do it every night... it's a treat, something special, and a shared experience.

I know you think the cawk sleeves would probably fit that bill in a parallel man-brained universe :shysmile::sorry:, but what you should do instead is treat her with the less obvious, but *better* things!

Make the mood really romantic, draw her a nice hot bath with some special soaps, smother the whole damn house in rose petals that lead from the front door to the nookie room, fuck in novel places, use massage oils with sex, appreciate the less obvious parts of her body when you romance, work on new techniques to make the most of *you and her*... basically just treat her with genuine, heartfelt romance... not synthesized fun. She *will* appreciate that wayyyy more, and even though you probably think you already treat her really well in bed, just go that little extra mile to slough off the casualness of your typical grind routine.

You just might rekindle or discover something in the bedroom neither of you knew you had. :idea:
PS: all the above takes more than the equivalent cost and effort of a dick sleeve, and that won't go unnoticed!


Fug, I feel like an advice columnist. Sorry if any of that is OT or preachy!


^^^This!
 

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P.S. Can you really tell the difference between real and fake? The cyberskin stuff advertises that it feels like the real thng. I've never actually used a dildo sexually before (only used them to beat pledged in college as a farce). I was hoping that, if it's wrapped around me, she won't be able to tell the difference if we're doing it in missionary.

temp.
firmness.
skin movement.
a horrible lack of pulse or throb.
strap-on-hump method is a lil different than ya factory parts. so different spots are hit, and the good spots are hit in odd ways.
 

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I've heard recommendations of warming it up first, and I totally see your point about the tackiness. What about inside a condom? I'm planning on using a condom over the extender for birth control reasons.

We use condoms with lubricated spermicide. If a condom is used, then she wouldn't be able to feel the surface texture of the material, right?

I guess there's nothing I can do about the firmness. The good thing about having a little penis is that they get really hard.
Personally, I still think it can be fun as a novelty. But it is a novelty, and not a cock. It will never be a cock. Because there are no nerves attached, there is nothing I can do with my vagina that will bring a partner any added pleasure while using such a device, nor will his movements be as responsive. I'm telling you this as someone who has on several occasions used strap-ons with women.
 

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I don't know... It might be fun to try at least once... There's no harm in trying something with someone you trust. If a girl really cares for you then she would want to indulge your curiosities even if there exists the possibility that the fetish is more about your pleasure than her own.

Personally, I sometimes have this sexual fantasy of harnessing a strap on to my ass, having it stand erect, and having a girl ride my ass. So that my muscle ass becomes a locus of power. Maybe we could do this both facing a mirror, me laying on my belly just watching her go go go. But sometimes I imagine it wouldn't work, like the strap on would refuse to stay in place.

But I'm sure there must be a way...
 

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and[/I] her*... basically just treat her with genuine, heartfelt romance... not synthesized fun. She *will* appreciate that wayyyy more, and even though you probably think you already treat her really well in bed, just go that little extra mile to slough off the casualness of your typical grind routine.

If only! It's more like...
9PM, kids are finally in bed. we start making out, cloths on, in case the kids wake up...
9:15, nope, kids not asleep yet. Returning him to bed.
10:00, visit from one of the kids needing to go potty/drink of water...
Put him back to bed, wait half an hour to be safe...
10:30, start foreplay, get tap on the shoulder every 5 minutes to stop and listen for footsteps...
11:00, crying from the baby, because he heard a noise outside. Sit and rock him until he falls asleep again.
11:30, return to bed, wake up wife to continue.
12:00, finally begin intercourse.
12:02, finishes intercourse
Round 2? Nope, wife has to get up at 5am for work, and is looking at 5 hours of sleep as is.
 

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If only! It's more like...
9PM, kids are finally in bed. we start making out, cloths on, in case the kids wake up...
9:15, nope, kids not asleep yet. Returning him to bed.
10:00, visit from one of the kids needing to go potty/drink of water...
Put him back to bed, wait half an hour to be safe...
10:30, start foreplay, get tap on the shoulder every 5 minutes to stop and listen for footsteps...
11:00, crying from the baby, because he heard a noise outside. Sit and rock him until he falls asleep again.
11:30, return to bed, wake up wife to continue.
12:00, finally begin intercourse.
12:02, finishes intercourse
Round 2? Nope, wife has to get up at 5am for work, and is looking at 5 hours of sleep as is.

Even more reason to do what Moxie said and pamper her. If you help out and remove some of her workload so she has some energy she'll be so happy/grateful she'll let you do whatever you want.
I've tried the cyberskin extentions before and although she enjoyed the fullness of the feeling she really prefared the real thing.