Sex with a tight girlfriend- any tips?

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Simba9inch has a point about not giving her an orgasm before entering. More specifically, not a clit orgasm. My wife gets a clit orgasm and tightens up by quite a bit for a few minutes.

We've been doing loosening exercises before we do PIV sex. More from my one and only blog:

http://www.lpsg.org/blogs/rawdog/looser-pussies-can-be-better-5923/

I assume you enter her nice and slow, but try this: Tell her to relax when you ease your cockhead in. Once it's far enough in that she can feel some discomfort, stop. Tell her to squeeze/inhale and relax/exhale, squeeze/inhale and relax/exhale. When she relaxes and exhales, slide a bit further in and repeat the process.

This will do two things:

- Her vaginal muscles will slowly fatigue to the point it forces it to relax and

- Your erection may subside slightly enough to be less rigid and more malleable to her internal contours.

I also noticed your dick has a slight left curve to it, so you can try the mirror image of this:

Scissors | SexInfo101.com

The vaginal canal has an upward curve to it, so lying down as shown on the animation forces the barrel down if you have a left curve, so do the opposite. You want your curve pointing more to her belly button.

Lastly, and I should have written this first, Once your able to get two fingers in her, try stroking her like this:

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lo3onfiqY71qf0ul8o1_500.gif

Slowly at first then as she relaxes more and more, increase the range of motion (but not the rate). Nice and slow, nice and slow.
 

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We've always made a point of having a lot of foreplay- not just to warm each other up but because we enjoy it so much. We would have at least 30 minutes of foreplay before each time, quite often up to an hour or more. My girlfriend gets really wet, and I won't enter her unless she is, but we've been using lube too and it hasn't made much difference.

let her talk to her doc. i am sure her dog can try to help y'all out. a doc has heard it all and will help in anyway they can.
 

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Thanks for the advice everyone. I had thought about using dildos before, neither of us have used sex toys before but I will talk about it with her and see what she thinks. We're lucky that we have such good communication between us. Massages are something we really love so that's a regular part of our intimate activities. And there's never any rush for sex with us, it's always slow and gentle because if it's not it hurts her too much.
communication is very important. i am happy to hear that. please have her talk to her docs and get advice. docs can give her advice and hell something for it. she could be very shallow. i have seen on tv,ladies who r in pain from having sex. they told their doctor and the doc treated them.

i hope everything works out. keep us updated.
 

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Hi Guys,
I don't think I have an overyly large dick- about 7 inches long and 2 1/2 inches thick at the base (see photos in the albumn My Dick). However, sex with my girlfriend can be difficult at times. Even when she is really horny and dripping wet it can take quite a while for me to be able to penetrate her fully without hurting her, and she starts to get sore quite quickly, quite often before I get close to finishing. We've been having sex pretty regulary for about 3 or 4 months now, and while she was a virgin before our first time and I expected this happening I thought it would improve a bit over time, but it hasn't really changed. She's not an overly small girl, but she's not big either. Does anyone have any advice or tips on what we can do to improve things? We both love having sex, and I pay a lot of attention to making it a great experience for her, but I'd just like for her not to have to worry about getting sore so quickly.


Yeah,,get a girl with a bigger hole.
 

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Thanks for all that great advice RawDog, we'll definitely take that on board. We had though about a doctor, so if it doesn't improve soon we'll see one. And just so you know, there's no way I'm dumping my girl over this small issue. There's so many great things about her to give up, and to us sex is only one small part of our whole relationship.
 

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Thanks for all that great advice RawDog, we'll definitely take that on board.

You're very welcome. Hope some of that helps.

We had though about a doctor, so if it doesn't improve soon we'll see one.

Good idea, but don't be surprised if we make more sense than the doc. You'll likely find more sound advice (from experience) here.

And just so you know, there's no way I'm dumping my girl over this small issue.

You'd best not. Here's one thought that may haunt you though... is she too tight or are you just too big? If you're too big and dump here, you'll be starting from square one with whoever you end up with later. Your girl is willing to work with you so far, not every woman has the willingness to do that.

In fact, some of the ladies here may have advice for her if she wants to be a member here (think Real Ladies Group).

There's so many great things about her to give up, and to us sex is only one small part of our whole relationship.

I wish I had your outlook. Sadly, sex has always been the single major part of my past and current relationship(s).
 

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I get that the standard answer seems to be foreplay and lube. However even though these are both vaild solutions to the problem, it should also be noted that it may be a simple mismatch in anatomy.

Foreplay, oral and lube is not a magic formula that will allow any two people to engage in enjoyable or even comfortable sex together. I'm not saying it isn't good advice just stating stating that more foreplay and lube will allow any sized penis to fit into any sized orifice enjoyable isn't a guarantee.

Just my two cents.
 

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All you men talk about all this foreplay... it is not really the be all - end all. The OP is talking about his gf getting sore after a few minutes. I think that requires totally different advice than just "more foreplay." Perhaps the extended foreplay is part of the problem?

I once had a boyfriend that liked to have sex for hours and hours - and we easily did it all the time. And he was probably about the OPs size, maybe a bit more. My boyfriend was always amazed that I was able to last 6, 8 hours - and be into it the entire time. There were short breaks to have a cigarette (back when I smoked) and talk or whatever, but it was always cut short by him coming back for more. And how was it that I always welcomed him back for more? Kissing, touching, he was constantly turning me on. Once you prime the engine, you've gotta keep giving it gas or it's gonna quit! Pretty much the same thing applies here. It doesn't really sound like she's tight so much as she's not turned on enough to stay lubricated. I've had that problem with other boyfriends. When it just becomes monotanous sex, the lubrication goes away and it can lead to soreness.
 

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Thanks for posting your thoughts darwinlily, you have a very valid point. But my girl is always wetter when we're finished than when we start, and she's always very wet when we start. I'm usually playing with her nipples or nibbling her earlobe or kissing her or sometimes rubbing her clit while I'm inside, so I'd say I'm keeping the gas up to the engine. I'm not knocking your advice at all, because what you've said is very true, but I don't think that's the problem in our case.
 

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Hi Guys,
I don't think I have an overyly large dick- about 7 inches long and 2 1/2 inches thick at the base (see photos in the albumn My Dick). However, sex with my girlfriend can be difficult at times. Even when she is really horny and dripping wet it can take quite a while for me to be able to penetrate her fully without hurting her, and she starts to get sore quite quickly, quite often before I get close to finishing. We've been having sex pretty regulary for about 3 or 4 months now, and while she was a virgin before our first time and I expected this happening I thought it would improve a bit over time, but it hasn't really changed. She's not an overly small girl, but she's not big either. Does anyone have any advice or tips on what we can do to improve things? We both love having sex, and I pay a lot of attention to making it a great experience for her, but I'd just like for her not to have to worry about getting sore so quickly.

The only way myself and my fiancee have bridged the gap between making her sore and in pain is just pushing the limits after doing so for long enough it wont seem as bad because she is use to the "pain"( what ever kind she is feeling) and can focus on the good feelings more. It sadly take a long time for people to get use to things that hurt so just stay strong and you'll get there.
 

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I think lube and foreplay helps but in the end the stretch and size will catch up with her.
I have been seeing a girl and we tend to not see each other for a week or so but then have alot of sex over a few days. At first she is very tight, she does stretch over time and we always do lots of foreplay and build up.....
But she always has pain down there a few hours after sex. She says she feels it all around her pussy and groin area and is so sore she can feel it all the time. we cant have sex for a few days after.
This is something we are used to now, its just the way it is.
 

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That's been pretty much exactly our situation too TrunkJ. She usually feels pain for at least 6 hours afterwards, but she says now she's just used to it. Sometimes she won't get sore during sex but will really feel it afterwards, while other times it just gets too painful for her during sex so we stop. And that's the worst part because when we have to stop during sex it leaves her feeling like a failure and me feeling upset that I've caused her pain.
 

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That's been pretty much exactly our situation too TrunkJ. She usually feels pain for at least 6 hours afterwards, but she says now she's just used to it. Sometimes she won't get sore during sex but will really feel it afterwards, while other times it just gets too painful for her during sex so we stop. And that's the worst part because when we have to stop during sex it leaves her feeling like a failure and me feeling upset that I've caused her pain.

I'm not sure now if this is where I mention our cocksicle...

http://www.lpsg.org/182608-pussy-soreness.html

... but if you do a search on my posts and the word "soreness" you'll find a bunch of information on how to deal with that.
 

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I'm not sure now if this is where I mention our cocksicle...

http://www.lpsg.org/182608-pussy-soreness.html

... but if you do a search on my posts and the word "soreness" you'll find a bunch of information on how to deal with that.

I wanted to post about your cocksicle earlier but I couldn't remember which thread you'd discussed it in. Great minds again :tongue:
 

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I wanted to post about your cocksicle earlier but I couldn't remember which thread you'd discussed it in. Great minds again :tongue:

:biggrin1: Now if can figure out how MrsR, you and I could plug into each other we'd have the start of a hive mind and we can solve all the world's problems.

...or we can all just end up fucking. :biggrin1:

Wow, that sounds interesting RawDog. I'll suggest the idea to my girlfriend and see what she says.

Start off with a cold compress for the surface right after fucking. See where things go from there.