Sex with bi guys vs. sex with straight guys

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  1. RLSteve

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    Alright, I have a question for women who have had sex with both bi guys and straight guys.

    Do straight guys seem more into the sex than the bi guys?

    I know that one thing that makes penetration good for women is having a hard, firm erection. I've also heard that it always feels best when the guy is about to come (because that's when he's at his hardest).

    I guess that what I'm curious about is... I'm kind of assuming in general that perhaps bi guys aren't as physically attracted to women as straight men are. I'm wondering if this would have an effect on erection firmness.

    Alrighty, getting to the point....

    Have any of you women who've been with both noticed a difference between being with a bi guy versus being with a completely straight guy? Is sex with a bi guy ever worse?
     
  2. Not_Punny

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    Interesting question, but in my experience, nope. A bi guy is bi because he is attracted to both sexes. Attraction = erection.

    Heck, I was married to a gay guy for years (I didn't know it then), and he could get it up.
     
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    no offense intended, but im curious as to how a gay guy gets an erection with a woman? unless using hand/mouth/etc to arouse?

    Apologies if I offended you, its just a bit confusing...
     
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    I've wondered this to, but it could be like anything else, like if he doesn't fully know he's gay, or if he hasn't ever experienced being with a man then maybe he can just visualize in his mind, and if he could get past the mental parts of sex then the touching etc would probably still arouse him, especially in a case where he don't want his secret revealed.

    I don't know if I could personally have sex with a woman even if I had to, because I've fully experienced sex with a man and thus I would have a mental block about how gross sex with a women is suppose to be to a gay guy, but if he doesn't know any different, and I'm comfortable in my skin for the most part as being who I am, so I don't need to pretend to be someone or something that I'm not when it comes to sex.
     
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    I figured as much about the mental side to it, but didnt think about the fact that there may be gay guys who havent come out yet or dont even know themselves that they are gay, and have only experienced hetero sex....

    Odd how you say you would find it 'gross' to have sex with a woman. but then i suppose thats the whole definition of being homosexual.

    Thanks for answering my question though :)
     
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    Why do I get the sense that the folks posting on this thread are all 12 year old virgins?

    Does anyone really think a straight guy won't get hard and shoot if the mouth sucking his cock belongs to a man instead of a woman?

    Most of the gay men I know have at one time in their lives had an orgasm fucking pussy. They probably enjoyed it about as much as any straight guy -- thrust, thrust, thrust, then ejaculate. But pussy just didn't leave them satisfied in some deep way the way MM sex would. Which is why they're gay, not straight.

    I've never met a bi guy who, no matter how he leaned in terms of which type of genitals he preferred, had trouble getting turned on fucking someone with the other kind of genitals. If he had trouble getting hard, the reason more likely was he really wasn't into fucking that particular person.

    Booze, drugs, anxiety are far more powerful factors dampening sexual desire, interest, performance.
     
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    i've never noticed a difference between bisexual men and straight men. to me, men are just men. they're always horny no matter what their sexuality is.
     
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    I guess you were really bored to take the time to post this.
     
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    Actually that's not true at all.

    My straight male friends have never had sex with a guy because they are not into men and there's zero sexual attraction there for men so they wouldn't get hard to a guy sucking them. Some have told me how they'd rather have sex with the ugliest woman ever than attempt to have sex with a guy.

    As for my gay friends the ones who actually have had sex with women (most haven't had sex with women at all), they told me how they were not able to finish or cum at all and they didn't enjoy it, and it was a one time thing.
     
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    I still think most men are bisexual with heterosexual or homosexual leanings in orientation. I think there are few men who are exclusively heterosexual, not including transsexual lesbians.

    One must consider the "admission" factor. What does a mainly heterosexual men have to gain should he ever admit having any sexual attraction to a man in a culture where male homosexuality is so taboo? Then most people will think he's really gay, which is anything but true. It's not like he really has much desire to have sex with another man in the first place, forcing him to have to admit something that has unpleasant consequences (watching big dicks in porn is suffices).

    I don't like blowjobs from men, either. LOL.
     
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    lol. This post made me giggle a bit. I don't think bi men are any less attracted to women than straight men are. It's not like they have so much attraction in them and they have to split it between men and women. I've been with two bi guys, both of which were just as into me as any straight man. The sex wasn't any different. If anything, the bi guys were a little more sensitive, a little more into foreplay, and a little more open-minded and experimental. But I know straight men that are all of those things too.
     
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    Every one is unique
     
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    You know me too well :wink:

    What matters the most is:

    Physical attraction
    Mental arousal (imagining all the things you could do)
    Physical arousal
    Desire to have sex / please the other person

    That is the natural order of things for me. They may seem obvious but if we turn them around and look at the negatives of each one:

    The guy isn't really attracted to you
    The guy doesn't have a good imagination / just wants to cum for himself
    The guy is physically aroused just enough to get an erection
    Again, he just wants to please himself

    His erection won't be as hard or throbbing as someone else's; say...mine?

    Of course every man will have different degrees of physical and mental arousal and the extent of each is not determined by sexual orientation. More by his own individual sense of 'sexual etiquette'.

    Some men - regardless of orientation - think that women are here only to please them.

    But that is wrong!

    We have a saying in the old country:

    "Make a woman cum...and she will make you breakfast."

    The reverse of that is 'make (only) yourself cum and she will break it off fast'

    Truer words ne'er were spake.
     
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    Being bisexual isn't that common.

    If it was as common as you wrote being bisexual wouldn't be such a big deal to people who really are gay or heterosexual who don't understand bisexuality, biphobia/biphobic viewpoints wouldn't exist, and being homosexual would not be a big deal in Western society or a taboo like you claim that it is.

    Thankfully being bisexual or gay isn't that big of a taboo in Western society, it's not like in countries in Africa, certain parts of Asia, or the Middle East where you can be killed for coming out or killed by your family and the government of your country and it's all completely acceptable and condoned.

    In the western world homosexuality is being seen as not such a major thing even if as far as the population goes not many people are bisexual or gay.

    Why are you mentioning Transsexual lesbians?

    They're not male, they are not bisexual, and are not heterosexual. It's a complete non-sequitur and it's a major moot point that has nothing to do with the topic at all. :confused:

    As far as what you're saying about why men stay in the closet those are all the excuses that closeted men give as to why they stay in the closet and why it's (in their minds) REALLY bad to be out or admit to even yourself that you like men or are something other than heterosexual.

    How is it bad to admit what you are into sexually, or what you like in porn or your private fantasy life? To be honest I get more shit and flack from vanilla folk for being out about being into BDSM and kink than I do from being attracted sexually and romantically to men and people of other genders.

    I'm thankful that I'm out and I really don't care what people think I am.

    If all or even most men are bisexual how come you're not, and why is there even mention of the closet being such a big deal like you wrote about?

    I love giving, getting, blowjobs and being in a 69 with other men.
     
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    Where the hell are the womens comments? This has turned into a mans issue it looks like. So I'll join. I'm bi and there has never been a difference in my erection stiffness due to the sex of my partner. There has been a difference depending on the partner but it was not due to their sex, more due to their personality etc...

    But I am curious to hear from the women on this womens issue.
     
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    ???? Where are you coming up with this from???? I would argue bi guys are MORE attracted to women than straight guys. My wife would sure agree. She's grossed out by guys who are "too straight." She thinks, and I agree, that "straight" guys most often have too little ability to relate to the woman. The way they think of male bodies as repulsive, yet the woman is supposed to want to "let them" fuck them. Being a straight guy suggests that the woman is an object for their pleasure, a more sexist view. This doesn't make them "more physically attracted," it's just more of a caveman kind of DUH way of thinking of women that some (less advanced, in our opinion) women might be into.
     
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